jangel86

I think it's different for every girl. For me, won't ask a guy out, but I hint at it. I'll ask things like "what are you doing this weekend" and stuff like that, hoping the guy will catch on. I tend to flirt a lot, which guys sometimes mistake as me liking them, but if I really like the guy, I won't flirt so much.

aim78

Shy girls stare, sometimes a weird stare, sometimes a sexy stare, and then quickly look away. Outgoing girls give you the, "hi," with a big smile. You know if when you see it, I think. Body movements are revealing as well. If they move their feet when you walk by or touch their butt (yes, I've seen it), that's a sign. Or they're itchy. I dunno.

It's all pretty stupid, huh?

Olliepete

Hey Jangel go out with me! ok now u can add me to the list. adn Hey its a good sign if guys are asking u out meaning UR hot adn smart adn good to talk to sooo not a bad thing girl. Just dont break too many of teh guys hearts.

drownindreams

what is the point of dating a single person in college? there are simply too many guys for me to commit to one... so I see whomever I want from a certain group... =) I don't think I could ever be happy just with one person... I have so many personality facets that I need multiple people to satisfy each.

Anyone else out there with me?

missegg

ummm...no...i'ld be happy to date a single person...

anglophileLV

Hi guys Glad to see I'm not the only one who missed this thread! Yay Sammywu! And Aim78, I'm impressed that you notice the subtle hints girls give out-- I really didn't think guys were that aware. It's true that every girl has her own 'technique'-- shy ones look away quickly, bold girls smile and say hi-- some just make sure they're standing near the guy as much as possible. But if a girl is interested, she will ALWAYS light up when she sees you. Sure sign.

So, update on my love life (should anyone care)-- ok, I'm taking ballroom dancing classes and I've met this very nice guy (who's a great dancer btw), who *seems* to be interested. However, he is very friendly to everybody so it's hard to tell if I'm 'special' in any way, or just one of many. He's given me unmistakable hints that he likes me (ugh, this sounds so middle school), but nothing bold enough to remove all doubt-- like a date. We had a great time dancing in class a couple days ago, after the class he even snuck me into the ballroom club, and drove me to my dorm (hugged goodnight + kiss on the cheek= so sweet). So, I e-mailed him right away about this other dance event that I was thinking of going to, but he still hasn't e-mailed me back. Wouldn't he have e-mailed by now if I was important to him? Is it possible that he's just very friendly to every girl... Urgh! Life was simpler when I didn't like him so much. I'm a dork. Meh. So there are the symptoms, does anyone have a diagnosis or prescription for me?

sammywu

if he gave u a hug and kiss and drove u to your dorm. And he doesn't do it for any other girls. I mean, he got to like u. It is obvious.

anglophileLV

Awww, thanks sammy I'm glad it's obvious to someone, becuase it sure isn't to me. lol

Kebree

This thread is hilarious

Crayon

I think he really does like you but probably didn't email you ASAP so that he could play it cool a little bit or so that he didn't seem too eager to see you again?

=/ THAT'S AWESOME THOUGH!

Off topic: I remember reading HMC has one of the best ballroom dancing clubs/teams...

anglophileLV

I sure hope that's the reason. I knew a guy who liked to "play it cool" while playing with the gray area between flirting and actually dating girls-- because he already had a girlfriend. That's what I'm worried about, thought my intuition tells me this guy is not the deceptive type. I really wish this guy would give me a definite signal one way or the other. Maybe he will when I see him this friday. It scares me a bit how he hasn't actually asked me out on a date yet-- kind of reminds me of the other guy with the girlfriend.

missegg

Maybe it's just me, but a friendly ballroom dancer who hugged you and gave you a kiss on the cheek sounds like he might already have a boyfriend...I don't know what other kinds of clues he's giving off to you, but based on the information, that's what i'ld say

anglophileLV

LOL I'm laughing so hard right now! But, you might have a point there I would hope my gaydar was better than that, but you never know. And he does dance very well... I think my e-mail must not have gone through. At least I hope that's the case, but I'll ask him tomorrow.

blackferrari2006

Now don't get overconfident, lol... But if he has a thing for you, be patient with the email, he will get back to you. If he doesn't respond, it could just be that he hasn't checked his email, so don't fret. There's not much else you can do, so just relax and see what comes of it! Being a guy, I can say that if a girl that I like just talks to me, I will find myself opening up to her more... If he does this, you can become slightly more aggressive in your approach. Maybe ask him if he has any plans for the weekend, or just a subtle thing like that. Then if there's a window of opportunity, ask him if he wants to hang out with you (a dance event is perfect for you two, seeing that you are both dancers!). If he seems intimidated, he may just be shy to act on what he's feeling. But the best thing is to play it gently, and dont be too intrusive. He doesn't need you around him all the time to know that you like him. Give him a nice smile from across the room-that's something I really do like. He will get the hint eventually just take your time, and have fun!! Let us all know how it turns out!

anglophileLV

Thanks blackferrari, very wise words. I asked him tonight (we have a dance classtogether) whether he got my e-mail, and he didn't. So he is forgiven. Tonight he invited me to an extra dance class in town (we danced all night-- Salsa is sooo good), invited me to come to another xtra dance class tomorrow afternoon, and a dance tomorrow night (a big fun one). And a movie sunday. And a Halloween party. (BIG SMILE). But,-- though you may not believe this-- he's still so friendly to everybody/every girl, it's difficult for me to judge the degree to which he likes me. Maybe I'm just a great new friend (frown). Ugh. I feel like a dimwit, not being able to figure this out. Some signs are obviously good (like movie + party), but I still need a clearer sign. CLARITY IS ALL I ASK FOR!. Ok, go laugh at me now. I know this is a ridiculous situation, and I'm probably being laughably dense.