WhyLime113

Your room mate is being entirely reasonable for the sleep schedule. (S)he is obviously very light sensitive, and that shouldn't be her problem. Residence is a place to study and sleep, and since she is choosing a VERY reasonable time to go to bed, you're going to have to respect that. Now, she should be allowing you to have the light on for a few extra minutes to finish something up, but otherwise, tough luck for you.
You're making all these complaints about your roommate not respecting you, and that you're oh so lenient because you let her do her annoying crap, so she should let you. Well it's not your fault that you're not complaining. So do NOT try to pin it on her that she should suffer her sleep schedule because you choose not to complain about her loud noise during the day.
Go to her, respectfully, and explain that you're trying to study, and that you need her to shorten her phone calls. Explain that it's your room as well, and you're there to study, not socialize. Since she has an early bed time, you need the time she is normally on the phone to work. Explain that the compromise is that she shortens the phone calls, or you keep the light on until 12 pm or 1 am. Giving her the choice will make you both happier, since you're providing the possible fixes, and she can choose which works best. If she still continues to be loud on the phone and complains about the light, then you need to bring in an RA, because no, that isn't fair for you.
Now, if you're just going with "I'm a night learner" and are simply not able to work until 11pm, when she sleeps, you're going to have to find a new place to study. The room is for sleeping and studying, but she can't sleep anywhere else. You can study elsewhere, whether you like it or not. Find a good spot at the library, or a quiet lounge (I imagine you have a few open areas for activity, not just one single lounge). Ask another night owl friend if you can study in their room. You'll find other areas that work for you, because there's always other options, and you've obviously found other places when you were in high school.

TheVet

to be fair, the man should be allowed to at least use his desk light. esp if it is set upwhere it is not really bothering him.

Bornin92

But it is ENTIRELY reasonable that any person should be allowed to use their desk light to do work after 10pm. Dorming is about compromise. The roommate can get an eye cover thing if the little desk light is seriously too much to allow them to fall asleep. You can't tell your roommate what time they have to get their homework/studying done by. You're not their mother. "Tough luck for you." - Are you kidding me? No. It's a desk light, it's not like they're like "oh I need the whole room lit up." And once again, eye cover if it's really an issue. Just as some people like to go to sleep earlier than others, some people like working in their room, with all their books/printer/papers/pens/chargers/younameit in one place and easy to reach.

skiier

Wow the responses here really make the OP look like he's at fault completely. The roommate has got to be a little more tolerant. In my dorm, there's one room that smells like weed on weekends but the roommate puts up with it. There's another room in which a dude gets sexiled almost every weekend once but puts up with it and stays in another room (the two get along quite well in fact).

And yeah 10 PM or 11 is quite early. Literally no one in my dorm sleeps before 12 (it's college...) even if they have lifting at 5 AM. If you're sleeping that early, you gotta learn to tolerate your roommate- it's not your room only.

In my room, we both go to bed whenever we want. I have a large TV and often times he'll be sleeping and I'll be watching TV at low volume. Some weekends I'll even get up early and play video games while he is still sleeping. He on the other hand plays loud music from time to time and I don't mind at all. I'll admit I'm much noisier than he is but the fact is we tolerate one another. A desk lamp is such a small thing to get annoyed about when you compare it with a TV. Your roommate sucks lol.

plumos

Mizzxvii got it.

lullabies

I'm the one who goes to sleep early and my roommate stays up (but I go to bed around 1AM and yes, she is still up at that time haha).

What she does sometimes is turn off the lights (because she's kind) and has her lights shining specifically towards her bed, so it is nice and bright on her side of the room and dim on mine. It is dim enough for me to comfortably fall asleep.

Perhaps you should invest in a better lamp or organize your room so you can shine your light on your side only. Our room is organized so our beds are across the room from each other.

The alternative is to find another place to study/do your work. When my roommate is in our room and she's blasting her music while I try to work, I just go to the lounge for less distractions, but there will still be maybe the TV on or some little noises.

Edit: Just read the responses. LOL your roommate sounds annoying. Tbh, if it's that much of an annoyance, you should check with your housing policy and see if you could get a single room for it. I know some people on my floor had a HUGE conflict. The girl would always be on her phone loudly, so they compromised and made some "rules" about stuff, one of them broke the rules, the other complained, blah blah. One of them now has a single! Not sure what happened to the other person, honestly.

UKclassof13

So your roommate does annoying things? Confront him about it instead of whining to a message board. I have had bad roommates but I highly doubt he is screaming in the phone at 8AM EVERY saturday. Sounds like a one or two time thing that you are blowing out of proportion.

Even if its true, just because your roommate is a jerk doesn't mean you should be. Be a grown up (which is apparently hard for someone like you) and respect that he wants to go to bed before midnight.

You can't study in the library because its too quiet? Seriously? Bring headphones, wow problem solved!

So either study in the library like everyone else or stop being such a drama queen and talk to your roommate about it

LaBarrister

Dude, a normal waking time as an adult, who you now are, is 6:00 a.m. Subtract a healthy 8-hour night of sleep from that and you have a bedtime of 10:00 p.m. No person in the real world gets all pouty because he/she cannot "focus" until after 10:00 p.m. Really? Sounds like you're still stuck in high school. Grow up and leave your responsible roommate alone. He/she probably hates the **** out of you and is just too polite or mature to tell you about it.

HiItsJenny

I got to sleep early (around 11 pm) and my roommate can stay up until 2 am.
When shes working, she tries to be in a place where her light wont reach me, and, as our beds are bunked, i hang a blanket over the side of my bed and use my scarf as a sleeping mask.
She tries to stay quiet.
I deal with the bit of light that comes through.
We work together.

(but seriously, TALK TO YOUR ROOMMATE - do they know theyre being annoying?)

meoowww

I can only read in the mornings 5:00-9:00am so I can understand your frustration not being able to read at certain hours. For me if I try to read at any other time of the day even the slightest little noise will ruin my concentration and frustrate me to no-end!

Perhaps you should try waking up at 5:00am and reading instead; then you'll be nice and tired by 10:30-11pm and both you and your roommate can call it a night.