dantheman91

I just finished my sophomore year of college and am now home for the summer. Aside from a job playing in the orchestra for a community college (which this is my last weekend doing), I haven't had much social interaction at all. This is largely because I fell out of contact with my friends from high school. I've tried talking to them, and I may be successful in getting some of us to hang out this weekend, but beyond that everyone else has either ignored me or I don't have their info anymore. It kind of makes me sad because I was pretty good friends with these people for a long time.

My cousin is still really good friends with them, but she is no help at all and never tells me when they are hanging out or invites me to anything that they do. I've learned a lot about life the last 2 years, but i'm still the same person as far as my fundamental morals go.

I wouldn't care as much, but all my friends from college are farther away. I have stuff planned with them later in the summer, but that is still a ways off, and i'm just honestly bored. I am largely introvert by nature and even I am feeling socially deprived. I always have projects and such to keep me busy, but all of the internship opportunities I wanted fell through so now I am trying to make the most out doing my own projects and gaining skills on my own.

Anyone else in the same boat?

Humanoid

I'm not really friends with anyone I graduated with. There are a few people I would love to meet up with and grab a bite with if I was in town but we aren't close friends anymore. We're all different from when we were in high school. It's just what happens when everyone goes their separate ways.

I live in my college town now which is basically dead over the summer. To make matters worse none of my friends are here. They live a bit off but they never want to meet up or do anything. I get the feeling they don't want to hang out with me any more, which sucks.

AUGirl

Sort of. I see them every once in a while (like once or twice a month), but haven't done much lately with them. I actually had lunch with a few of my friends the other day, but that was the first time in 2 or 3 weeks.

I really miss my college friends and I miss all the social interactions of college. One of my best friends from college (actually I'm living with her next year) lives in the same county as me, but she's been really busy with summer school and other stuff and I haven't seen her in over two weeks.

I'm not a huge fan of summer. Maybe I'll do summer school next year just to give my self something to do.

ThisMortalSoil

I'm still friends with them but we're not best friends like we used to be. It's just something that happens. People go out, move to new places, meet new people. I'm a different person than I was when I graduated, and I'm sure that's true with all my friends from HS as well.

Sparkles21

I realized in my junior year of high school that I didn't really like my group of friends. Senior year I made a few new friends, and I still stay in touch with some of them, but overall, I don't really consider my HS friends my *now* friends. It doesn't help that I've moved to a new city so I'm not geographically close to old HS friends or my new college friends. Ultimately I've dealt with it by trying to find a second part-time job and by studying for my summer classes.

Klinks05

After a year of college I am still great friends with my high school friends. I see them almost every day.

Vanechka

I am no longer in contact with any of my friends from high school. I am fine with it though, I love my college friends much more although I will be transferring, so... that kinda sucks.

NovaLynnx

If you don't have some of their contact info, can you find them on Facebook or a similar site?

I saw my high school friends only a handful of times over the past 6 years since graduation. People change, or make new friends, or have new priorities in life, so it is a common occurrence.

Can you try to find a part-time job at a retail store or other place where you can interact with others your age? Or maybe join a volunteer organization or something in your community. Or even take a class at a community college to keep you busy, and it may be able to transfer to your current college. As long as you are keeping busy and doing things you enjoy, it isn't such a terrible thing. You need to find ways to make new friends in your community.

SillyStokey92

I think this happens to pretty much everyone. I'm still friends with some of my high school friends (only the ones I was really close with), but we're not nearly as close as we were when we saw each other almost every day. I suppose thats just what happens when we all move apart and some of us want different things than others.

moviepopcorn

That is what happens when people part ways. In my case, though, I prefer my high school friends, since some people at my college are so pretentious.

Columbia09

That's what happens. Think about it do your parents see anyone from high school anymore? Mine don't. As you get older you grow apart and become busy in other activities like raising a family, going to college, etc. It happens to many people including myself. I haven't seen anyone from my high school in a long time. On occasions I do bump into one of them and have a quick chat. But otherwise no I don't see them.

Davidabb84

I just finished high school and I already feel like I'm losing touch. It's not tragic or anything, but it is somewhat disappointing. I have friends who go there already, and I met some great people at Orientation. But I don't actually like anyone from my school who's going as a freshman this fall. Most of my high school friends are going to UNC, ECU, or out-of-state. AKA far away where we will rarely interact again outside of Facebook.

lookingbleak

If you are not friends with people from high school it is because they are useless to you and you are better off with out them. Time to make new friends who can become allies actually help you in your field.

excelblue

As you grow older, the amount of shared values necessary to maintain a friendship increases.

Both you and your high school friends have grown. Even if everyone's fundamental values are still the same, the level of compatibility is much lower. Unlike in high school, friends are no longer about just hanging out.

Most of your friends will drift in and out of your life, but there will only be very few that remain across different chapters of life. Those are your true friends.

As for everyone else: enjoy your time with them, but don't expect much else.

Davidabb84

Is that seriously what you base your friendships off of? Wow, you must be a really pleasant person.