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Old 10-17-2012, 12:13 AM   #1
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Did I make a wrong decision?

I live with two of my friends from last year in a apartment off campus. One of my good friends is in greek, dont get me wrong hes been nothing but great company. He always invites me to one of the parties a month and stuff. Our other roommate isnt as close with us but we still get along. Anyways, my roommate was in the same frat as my roommate last year who failed out(two of my closest friends mind you) and they BEGGED me to join every year at rush. I went along and pledged but I dropped it this fall. I just, no matter how much I wanted to I couldnt like do the things they told me to. I wasnt about to turn into a jerk, ditch my other groups of friends for the sake of a frat bc i cant talk to them, drink all the damn time and party with the same people 24/7 and be an ******* to girls that deserve so much better. Some of the people in the frat act like I dont exist, like on friday I came up to one to talk and he just stared me down like I was trash. I couldnt believe it, I thought they geniunely liked me as a person. I dont have anything against greek life but I will say that you cant buy genuine friendship, and I dont care what organization, skin color etc you are in if im your friend im your friend no matter what. Im just you know, it goes against everything ive been tought, to be a good person and a good husband etc like just treat your s/o like garbage and theyll love you. It doesnt make sense but I guess thats the way that goes. I saw my roommate and my best friend last year mess his life up over a year for the same damn people, and ill be damned if they take my future away from me.

Off the soapbox. I just feel like i did something wrong.
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Old 10-17-2012, 12:30 AM   #2
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im sorry if i offended anyone
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Old 10-17-2012, 01:10 AM   #3
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Chill, bro.

You don't have to change for anyone. They're immature, they'll grow up (hopefully) someday.
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Old 10-17-2012, 02:03 AM   #4
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If they were making you do things you didn't want to do then you definitely did the right thing. Treating everyone with respect is very important and as a girl I honestly think that guys who treat girls nicely are great (as are girls who treat guys well). I think the fact that you can get past this and make the decision to quit shows you're mature and the fact that they're being jerks shows how immature they are and should reinforce that you made the right decision
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Old 10-17-2012, 05:10 PM   #5
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Why did you pledge in the first place if fraternity life went against your values?
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Old 10-18-2012, 12:02 AM   #6
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You didn't do anything wrong. Those people shunning you for quitting weren't your real friends anyway. Ignore their immaturity and stand tall that you had the guts to do what was right for you.
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Old 10-18-2012, 08:54 PM   #7
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I agree with everything you're saying. I know it's frustrating, but I think you made the right decision. Forget about them and move on. I feel like that is what will help you the most.
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