Inviktis

First off, I'm pretty happy with how things are so far. To my own surprise I'm doing pretty darn well here academically, I got lucky and found a job, and I've been inspired to improve on my musical abilities to join one of the jazz clubs around here. I mean it sounds pretty good.

As you can figure a problem I have is making good friends here.

So for my freshman orientation (which is a week-long event right before school starts) I had a decent number of groups. I went out. I met people and exchanged numbers. I thought that I would eventually have my share of friends soon. Of course, I guess I'm pretty socially awkward so I don't have any friendships lasting to present day.

I'd befriend my hall, except my hall is full of singles (NOTE TO SELF, NEVER DO THIS AGAIN) and it's very VERY antisocial. Like, I hear voices from my hall once every three days or so. Me and a few people there are kind of chill with each other but I can't really imagine holding even a ten minute conversation with them because of our differences in interests.

I tried joining the pep band (didn't try out for the more musically challenging bands because I forgot... oops) but it wasn't my taste. Now I'm planning to take lessons soon. I'm making acquaintances with coworkers pretty quickly but I can't really imagine being friends with most of them outside of work because of schedules. As for other clubs I'm still searching but I feel like everyone's made their circle of friends by now.

When people try to make small chat with me I smile and respond politely but I've never really made a real friend here yet. I've got friends in high school who I keep up with every day as well as a girlfriend who's still in high school so I still have a lot of company especially since they're there when I come back home. But as for on campus... not as lucky.

I'm thinking of switching dorms to a more social environment for starters. But sometimes I feel awkward trying to join a circle of friends when I don't have one myself.

Can someone with the endurance to read another one of these threads give me some tips?

Scutrules

You hit the nail on the head when you said that people try to make small chat but you don't engage in the conversation. Making friends is not a passive act and you should not expect friendships to just happen. When people talk to you, ask them about their interests or find some random thing and start talking! Pick a sports game to talk about or the news, anything really! Once you engage with other people, they will want to hang out with you more. And thus friendships are born!

valeas

Engage in every conservation presented because you actually have to try for great friendships