I live in a very small triple room in the on campus residence hall.
My roommates are friends. I attempted to be friends with them at the beginning of the semester but it soon became apparent that while we can all live together harmoniously enough, we would never be more than acquaintances. This is no big deal to me. The other two girls hang out together on a regular basis and share their secrets. I really do not care. It was tough at the beginning of the year before I clicked with anyone but I have a solid handful of great friends now.
However, what's starting to happen is they are ignoring me. I'm sure it's unintentional, but I will have my headphones in doing something on my computer and they will consult with each other before turning the the light off to go to bed. Suddenly the light is off and I had no idea it was happening. They ask each other if they want the door open, the window open, the main fan on, etc., and I'm never consulted. When I try to join into conversations often I'm met with blank looks and a continued conversation that doesn't involve me.
I'm not quite sure how to regain my position as one of the roommates.
My RA came up to me the other day and said my roommates want to have an 'intervention". I asked what about, and she responded with, "oh, only little things". So maybe that's what's coming up, because looking at my actions in the room I feel like I'm doing a pretty good job being a decent roommate. I'm clean. My stuff is picked up. I'm the first to bed, but keep the light on for them until they're ready to sleep. I try to be quiet when I come in late or wake up earlier. I listen to movies/music with headphones. I take my calls out of the room. There have been a few isolated incidents like forgetting to take my garbage out before going on a trip and getting ants, but those are rare and on their own.
I'm trying to figure out what I did wrong to inspire an "intervention" and how to get a say in when the lights go off if I'm still actually working, or get a say in stuff like the window, etc.