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Since the beginning of the year, my main problem with having a roommate is that I am too considerate, and expect her to reciprocate. That isn't going to happen, so I've been trying to behave the same way she does - I used to leave the room when she's napping, now I don't, etc. Because it's such a learning curve for me, I don't really know what issues should be discussed, and what issues should be ignored.
So, this has only happened twice, but it really angers me: I wake up in the night to find my roommate standing over me, telling me to wake up. The first time, she said "I can't sleep when you do that," I said "do what?" and she just made a heavy breathing noise. So it wasn't even really snoring! She hadn't mentioned it again, until last night. I have a cold so I was making a snoring noise when I breathed through my nose. Yeah, I understand that it was annoying, but it's not something I can control. And of course I couldn't get back to sleep after she woke me....
Over the years I have had loads of sleepovers with friends, and have never been told I snore, so this isn't a regular problem. She disturbs my sleep with typing almost every night, and I have never complained - I figured that sleep disturbances come with the territory of having a roommate. It sucks to finally fall asleep through her noise, only to be woken up for something that is entirely involuntary.
So, is it acceptable for her to wake me up for heavy breathing/snoring? If the problem arises again, what should I tell her? She is an international student, so communication is a bit tricky.