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I am a freshman and before entering college I was so excited!! In my head I thought I was going to have that amazing college experience that everyone always talked about.
But....I entered college...and it isn't fun for me.
I mean, the first week everyone on my floor was friendly and all, but they seem very cliquey. The RA tries to get the whole floor together for dinner and stuff, and when I come along, I'm always just sitting there and no one talks to me. Yes, I have tried initiating conversation. And I'm not socially awkward. I CAN be shy sometimes, like I'm not SUPER outgoing, but I TRY to talk to people on the floor. I just feel really left out and uncomfortable when things like this happen.
So far, my classes are fine, I've met a few nice people in class and I guess we're friends, but like they have their own groups that they eat lunch/dinner with and hang out on the weekends/
I feel depressed a lot because I feel like I'm alone most of the time. I don't have that group of friends that everyone has when I look around. And all my friends that I had in HS are having the time of their lives in college! Like, I go on facebook and they're out like everyday with their floormates and stuff.
My floor is more like the party floor and I guess I don't really click with them... :/
I'm not trying to complain or anything, but this loneliness is really getting to me. I've also tried joining clubs, but the ones I joined only have like meeting 1x/month and they're mostly upperclassmen. There's not really a sense of community.
I'm so used to having friends around me and hanging out and stuff that I feel like I'm getting depressed here and I can't take it anymore. And I have tried talking to a lot of people...they just seem to brush me off or want to only be "acquaintances"?
Any advice? It's gotten so bad that I feel like I want to drop out and transfer somewhere else. Or are these feelings normal? It's been about 3 months already.
Please I will be grateful for ANY advice!