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How to Nicely (key word) turn down girls...

fast27fast27 Posts: 353Registered User Member
edited September 2007 in College Life
yeah, so my hs homecoming is in a couple weeks, and a couple girls have already asked me (and, in one case, a friend asked for her), and I was wondering how to get the point across that (a) No, (b) It's not because of you... and (c) I said NO, dammit

but nicely, so that they would still be friends with me :)
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Replies to: How to Nicely (key word) turn down girls...

  • princeadeoluprinceadeolu Posts: 50Registered User Junior Member
    Looks like someone's a playa... My advice? Go with all of them, pimp it out. Of course, that is also extremely juvenile. Um, seriously. Just tell them that you promised some other girl already, otherwise you would def have went with them. That might work...
  • fast27fast27 Posts: 353Registered User Member
    yeah... but I don't want to lie, and have a chance of being found out lying later
  • BigredmedBigredmed Posts: 3,676Registered User Senior Member
    and you definitely don't want to leave the chance open. You NEVER want to say "I would have gone with you" to someone you have no intention of ever having gone with.

    A better way is to say something like "I'm really flattered that you thought of me to accompany you, but I'm afraid that I have to say no. I care a lot about our friendship, but I just don't see us going anywhere beyond just being friends."

    If you just don't want to go the dance, then just tell them that you dont' want to go to the dance.

    I think you need to make sure that you know which girls see the dance as a move to something more serious, and which just want you to go as a friend. Misread the situation, and you could get some very different reactions.
  • silverpebblesilverpebble Posts: 309Bounce Email Group Junior Member
    Why exactly are you turning them all down? I'm only asking because the best idea is always to tell the truth, but you can spin it in a nice way.
  • ricric Posts: 330Registered User Member
    u lucky son of... :D
    i wish i was u :'(
  • uyuloveuyulove Posts: 2,181Registered User Senior Member
    "I'm really flattered that you thought of me to accompany you, but I'm afraid that I have to say no. I care a lot about our friendship, but I just don't see us going anywhere beyond just being friends."
    well friends actually go to dances quite often together. Just because you guys went as partners to ONE dance doesn't automatically make you two a couple. Therefore that excuse is not going to work, its not like she's confessing her love for you, she's just asking for an accompaniment to a dance.
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