lilianna

Hi Chris!
Well, you have said it yourself. Next year you are going to have a fresh start. So, take advantage of it! Leave the door of your room open and try to be friendly to those who are being nice to you and want to get to know you. Also, you may want to talk to those who have been trying to establish some sort of a relationship with you. Show them you have overcome your problem. Show them you want to get to know them. Show some interest.
I know it is very difficult. I have been in your situation in high school, though I realize college is so much different. I spent my freshman year (in HS) not talking to anyone. So, their opinion of me was not exactly positive. However, during my second year I opened up a bit. You can always interfere in their conversations when you think you have something interesting to say. There is some risk they may think you are being a little bit indiscreet, but, after all, most friendships start when people show interest in the others. They cannot get to know you if you remain silent all the time.
You know, people learn to smile. Sit in front of a mirror and practice! Or watch other people smile. (there is an interesting scene about smiling in "Terminator 2" but unfortunately, it did not make it to the final cut. See it in youtube. I am sure it will make you smile!!! ) Smiling helps a lot in communication. You should really learn to smile! It will make you feel better.
And, you know, yours is quite an accomplishment. You have overcome your problem so you have every reason to be proud. I am sure that other people will appreciate this huge achievement of yours. But you have to let them know. I am sure that they will be impressed and will be happy to make your acquaintance. I would.
Sorry, obviously i cannot overcome my problem with writing long posts! Good luck to you. And don't worry too much!

lizdarocker

I couldn't agree more that college life sucks sometimes.

bluskypeChris

I don't know what else to do. Waiting till September is killing me. I want friends, I need friends, I need happiness in my life. Without it I am failing my classes, and I don't think anyone can blame me for my misery.

natmicstef

I know it is hard being without friends but unfortunately it takes time to make them. What about the girl who was your friend but moved to another part of campus..can you call her and ask to meet for lunch? If you make just one friend, you will probably have the chance to meet his/her acquaintances too. Can you join a club? Does your school have community service clubs? You could make friends with other students who do community service plus you will be helping those less fortunate. Can you look for part time work...it will get you out of your room, you will be meeting people and can practice your social skills plus you'll get paid. Don't give up...take one step at a time and eventually your efforts will pay off.

SaintMaryDad

Chris-

By no means am I medically trained or have any qualifications to back what I'm about to mention. However, my close friend was dealing with the same symptoms you mentioned. It was tearing him up, he didn't know what to do or who to turn to. He hated being in groups or around others all the time. Eventually, through some sincere and friendly conversation with those friends that saw and understood that there was someting wrong, he went to a doctor for some help. He was prescribed a product called Zoloft. It worked wonders for him. He says he doesn't have any of the issues he had before. I'm not saying it would be your answer, but it did help him substantially.

Maybe it's worth just talking with a doctor or counselor to see what they think.

I wish you the best.

colberTreporT

I am only a senior in high school, so take this advice with a grain of salt.


Just remember not to do drugs like alcohol, marijuana, and even coffee, because if your doctor put you on an SSRI, he/she clearly wants to minimize the dopamine and maximize the serotonin in your system in order to make you feel calm and relaxed. The lack of dopamine could be a factor about why you may sometimes feel very lazy, but still your doctor is giving it to you to make you more relaxed in situations you may otherwise panic. But if you begin to develop social techniques and more and more friends, tell your doctor, and tell him that you are feeling a lack of energy as well, and he may lower the dosage of the SSRI, in order to increase the dopamine, which is related to feelings of passion, lust, and overall energy (whereas serotonin is related to feelings of relaxation and meditative well-being).

RoCCoLampone

you shuld make something up and be like, someone close to me just died, and thats why i was acting like that. then, you shuld try making friends.

blue147

College life isn't all kegs, hot girls, and wild spring breaks for all. Some kids have a hard time all four years or two. There's dealing with horrible professors, homework and actually studying, financial issues, efforts for finding new friends and keeping the old ones, and finding out who you are once you get out of college. I think college is often viewed like newly weds - college or marriage is not a single stage; it's a series of stages that are good and bad, some better than others. But if you work at it and find people that share the same views and take risks that'll hopefully benefit that process, then it's all worth it. Just hang on and always try to make a bad situation/experience into a "not so bad" situation/experience. You'll grow stronger because of it.

tdanielle

Who else is worried about Chris? He hasnt posted in a few days...?

panic

Eh, he's probably just out making some friends.

Does anyone else get the feeling that, SAD or not, he's being a little too melodramatic?

bluskypeChris

Thanks Danielle, your such a sweetheart

I like your suggestion Lampone, but I don't think I could lie to anybody really.

And I'm not being too melodramatic panic.

Well let see I'm not out making friend like you think. I actually just been going to the library and trying to concentrate, then watch South park episode after one another, and that take about 6 or 7 hours of my day. I clean my room, took about one hour. Nothing else is gonna change, and I just got to keep myself as sane as possible. I don't know what else anyone can do if they were in my shoe. Most of the time, I turn on my music full blast, it great no one mind really, well anyway I can't keep myself sane all the time. When I see a pretty girl, I remember one time when I could have talk to a girl but the bench was really wet, and I chicken out.

I do cry sometime, and I also scream and break thing now, it really release the anger and sadness in me. The only thing that I must really avoid is Friday to Sunday night, because if I hear noise outside, I'm most likely gonna look, and feel even worst that I did. Like this Saturday, let just say it was a party with girl in their pretty little skirt, etc... Well I guess you guy know the rest. Because whatever happen now till next September. I'm not going to be in my room looking down anymore. I am utterly sick and disgusted with myself and my luck.

I am a cool guy, and I deserve better than this bull crap that I am trap this year. I'm going to be down there when next year start. I'm going to talk to any girl I find attractive, make lot of friend, join club, go hiking, etc... Well that what I'm trying to do to keep me insane.

Ayoub

i do!! lol

burgler09

I don't think so

Ayoub

good luck

bja1288

keeping yourself insane seems slightly counter-intuitive to me