Altaholic

It has worked out for people at my school. Some are still together and now are at different colleges

coloratura_as

Ok. Well, we were together for 4 years. He asked me out on the last day of school in 8th grade and we dated until October of my freshman year of college. A part of me had been telling me to end it but I didn't listen because he was my best friend and I didn't want to hurt him. Shortly after I got to school I met a guy who immediatly started flirting with me. I told him that I had a boyfriend and he said that he would never try to mess with anything as serious as a 4 year relationship. So I hung out with this guy as just friends but after a while I started having feelings for him. You have no idea how hard it is to tell your boyfriend of 4 years who wanted to marry you, etc. that you have feelings for someone else. We haven't spoken since then and things with this other guy didn't work out because he ended being a huge jerk. I also didn't go to any parties until my 2nd semester because of him and I think cheating is extremely low so that is how I knew I had to end it.

clam_chowder

college life is really different from HS.
in first few months your way of seeing and dealing life will completely change,, and youll end up tired of the relationship OR youll find her being so different than she is now (this doesnt mean she'll cheat or something,,its just things will be really different).

dont ruin your 1st semester. go dedicate yourself into the ivy.. lol

it will last around nov/dec..

karipac07

As an LDR survivor I say that highschool-college relationships don't last because one is maturing and experience a whole new life from the high school setting you both knew. I experienced the college-grad school LDR which isn't bad or even the college-college LDR I feel works out more than the type you are attempting. Good Luck tough!

quirky

How does being in a relationship keeps one from meeting new people or going to parties?

chuy

"Hey, wanna go to the party tonight?"
"Naw man, I've gotta call my girl."

"Hey man, wanna hang out this weekend?"
"Naw man, I'm going home to see my girl."

"Hey, we have a lot in common. Want to catch a movie some time?"
"No, I've forfeited any opportunity to meet someone who I'm more compatible with now that college has changed me to cling on to a girl who is in a different life stage, who will dump me over thanksgiving."

quirky

If one doesn't enjoy calling or seeing his/her significant other more than attending some sleazy party, then why be in a relationship with that person in the first place? Geez..

GoldShadow

Not quite sure you're getting the point.

BoredPirate

I know a guy that started dating a girl the summer before he left for college while she was going to start her senior year. They're still together and going to college in the same town next year.

quirky

Enlighten me.

edit: I get the point, really; but it seems kind of stupid to me.


to the OP: If you think the relationship is worth it, preserve what you have. Having faith in it should give you the strength to overcome temptations, issues, etc.

clam_chowder

it wont be easy..but if you're willing to do it anw..then do it..
tell your gf that this wont be easy and make sure both of you really still want to do it.

good luck!

U.S. GOVERNMENT

I would suggest abstinence until you are both at least 21 years old.

yesnomaybeso7

Maybe break up until your both in college. You should have fun now, its college and you only live once. If you are destined to get married and stuff you'll find each other again.

confetticupcake

Sorry to say this, but I dont think it will work out =/

My boyfriend and I lasted only a few months (I'm a high school senior and he's a college freshman) and he didnt even go away for college. He'd make the 20-minute commute to a local college each and it still didnt work out. A friend of mine had a boyfriend that went to a college a couple of states away, and they didn't last either.

The social differences and maturity levels are what get to you.

shelbylynn704

chuy, i think this is the best reply ive seen just because thats probably exactly how it would happen
good, real, practical reply.

i got really attached to a guy during my high school career and he's going off to the marines and im starting college this fall.
both knew we would be meeting new people, changing, and learning how to deal with life differently so we decided that it would be best to start the new chapter in our lives without being tied down
plus, the odds of anything working out were slim just because im sure in college you'll have the urge to flirt and go out with a guy and with him being a marine, i would never see him anyways.

if ya stayed tied down, you'll meet less people because the motivation will be gone.
friends wont be as close because you'll be spending time attempting to stay in touch with your significant other.

its a new chapter of life. experience it the best you can and don't let a high school partner slow you down!