EbolaZaire

If you really love her, you'll want to talk to her over going out sometimes. My LDR has worked--it's been 4 years now (3 of which have been in colleges far away from each other). Yeah, I don't party a lot and instead of going to Florida for Spring Break with friends I go visit him, but I've never regretted any of these choices. I really enjoy having a constant in my life, but it's definitely not for everyone. As long as you guys decide before you leave when you'll see each other and how often you'll communicate, it can work...if you want it to.

danny_125

i have been going out with my girlfriend for 10 months now. I'm going to graduate from high school tomorrow and shes going to be a senior at high school. Im going to UNC at chapel hill in the fall. I live in Miami.
I told her it wasn't going to work out in the end because i dont believe in long distance relationships. She took it the wrong way and she is quite devastated about it. But she is refusing to let me go. What should I do?

phishfan0969

my sister went to college while her bf was a senior. Her college was 3 hours from his town, but they kept in touch and are still in love. Now they're both in college not too far from each other and are planning on getting married eventually.

andromeda

My ex went off to college last year while I was a senior in high school. We were QUITE madly in love, but we broke up a week after he left.

I know you're going to question the authenticity of the mentioned love, but the truth is, this stuff next to never works out. Someone always slips. In my case, it was him. Argh. I loathe that guy.

Easy

"I know you're going to question the authenticity of the mentioned love, but the truth is, this stuff next to never works out. Someone always slips. In my case, it was him. Argh. I loathe that guy."

Not always, but often enough that everyone should always examine a potential LDR very closely. A lot of people idiotically, baselessly think that they, their bf/gf, and their relationship are special and thus they will be the small X% that'll have the relationship survive the slings and arrows of jealousy, mistrust, infidelity, temptation, and opportunity (not in any particular order).

arbiter213

Break up before you leave. It'll be better for you (Especially if you can get over it before you get there, don't want to be mopey!), and from having watched a whole slough of relationships trying to get carried into College, they ALL failed. Including the one where the two were at the same college.

bigredfan

^^I agree, the same thing happened to me. That is my high school boyfriend and I both went to IU. We were together for 2 years, and we broke up the first day we got there, haha. And then when I went out that night with some of my friends, and I realized all of the new people I was about to meet over the next four years, and how many new and wonderful things were in my future. I don't regret ending that relationship. In fact, I would highly suggest not getting involved in a relationship the first year or two of college. Give yourself some time to discover new things about yourself and figure out who you are as a person; focus on your studies and meeting new people.

mshaddal

Man, I want to disagree.

My boyfriend is going to be a senior in high school when I'm a college freshman relatively nearby. It depends on his/her level of maturity, both of your levels of commitment. After being together three months I had to move halfway across the world and I've seen him 1 week in 8 whole months.

But then again, we are both ridiculously committed, 100% uninterested in anyone else.

College should be about having fun. So I say, if you want to stay with her, go for it. But you may feel strained especially if you're living on campus and whatnot.

burgler09

mshaddal, i give you 2 months

mshaddal

I think if two people really love each other, then distance shouldn't matter. I think this sets people up with a mentality that, "if it is inconvenient for me, if i don't want to be faithful etc" which is why a lot of people find it so difficult to stay faithful in relationships even as they grow older. Of course, though in college you should meet new people. I guess I am a little biased because I'm basically married at this point, and know that there's no one else out there for me but the guy i am dating. It's a comfortable place to be in---

I guess the opinion of a discussion thread shouldn't have as much influence on your decision as your own personal judgment and feelings and rationale.

Good luck.

mshaddal

@burgler09
yeah plz get back to me on that one. if we could manage 8 months away from each other, besides all the other **** we've had to go through, then i think me going to community college 5 minutes away should be easy.

good luck with your relationships.

Easy

I agree. But lots of people believe they and their partner truly love each other, whatever that means, and are proven wrong. It's a bit arrogant for you to presume that you are not one of those people. Tons of couples think they will make it forever. Tons even last a long time. But tons still break-up, divorce, cheat on each other, etc. The only thing you have is hope, not empiricism.

I disagree. There's a lot of people that you haven't met in the world--a lot them are males who are cooler, better-looking, smarter, funnier, more romantic, more lovable, etc. than your boyfriend. But again, you might never meet them--still doesn't mean that they're not out there.

leah377

i agree with easy about there being more than just one person out there for you--it's interesting when i randomly meet guys i know i really click with (it's happened maybe twice in the 8 months i've been in my relationship). i love my boyfriend, but it's weird to find myself thinking, "i could probably get along really well with this guy, too.."

also, my boy's been away for around two months, and it's been pretty hard--harder than i thought it would be. i can't imagine dealing with a permanently long-distance relationship..

Easy

I know right? I mean if leah somehow met me one day, her boyfriend would be so SOL.

burgler09

Me too, unless I brought up abortion.