GoldShadow

Geez, get a chat room guys. (get it? because we're on the internet)

Christine123

OMG GoldShadow. *slaps forehead*

Maybe I'm weird, but I'm at a study abroad program halfway around the world and I've found that having a boyfriend back home has been good for my social life. If guys hit on me, or start to seem interested, I can always bring up my boyfriend. Also, when I meet guys I really want to be friends with, I worry a lot less about them crossing the friendship line if they know I have a boyfriend I'm absolutely in love with.

Of course, there's also the guy hitting on me in Chinese scenario, to which I can only reply:

"I am American. I have a boyfriend."

And seem like a total...meanie-poo.

Easy

Don't be mistaken; it's not them honoring the beautiful sanctity of a monogamous relationship. They just decide that the benefits of hooking-up with you are insufficient to merit the effort. Capital budgeting, baby.

latinac2

i have a friend who dated a sophomore in high school throughout our first year and they are still together this summer. i know it was tough at times because high schoolers don't understand "college" etc etc...but if you both want it to work, it definitely can and will. if you are the type of person who will want his freedom, then it will not. also, 2 hours is not far at all!! best of luck to you!

Easy

Your long distance relationship with your girlfriend will work, as long as you're a guy who embraces oppression and disdains freedom, apparently.

leah377

it's funny to be at a party talking to some guy and as soon as i mention the "b-word" (boyfriend), the conversation's pretty much over. at places where i don't know many people, i'll sometimes avoid mentioning him just so i'll be guaranteed someone to talk to, as bad as i know that is..

Easy

That's funny, as soon as I mentioned the "g-word" (girlfriend) to a girl at a party, the conversation always took a turn for the better.

jasonshah

well, i have no experience regarding this matter, but it has been interesting reading the posts in this threads.

the rate of success for LDR is pretty less, as many of us agree. But, do not break off the relationship just because most people are unsuccessful. That's a lame conclusion. If you want to try it, do that and be honest with each other through out the relationship. If one of you have second thoughts, express yourself, break off and move on.

jasonshah

but, i don't think I agree with one point that has been mentioned in this thread - that if u are in love, you miss out on chances of meeting new people. Do you guys mean it only in the case of LDR or generally. If this is LDR, this may be somewhat true, but not exclusivly correct.

Love, true love, help people grow. Over-Jealousy and mistrust doesn't have a place in a fruitful realtionship. Always expressing your feelings and showing each other you care with actions - no matter if they are little actions - helps achieving that. You'll only be happy in your relationship when you are comfortable with each other and both of your space.

Being in a relationship doesn't mean u must spend every free time together. Acutally, if u do so, the realtionship may be quite boring as there will be nothing new to talk of. Go, explore new places, people and share your experiences. that'll keep you intrigued with each other.

My close buddy is in 2-year relationship with a girl. Both of them love each other, but you'll not find them together always. They talk over the phone daily (but not that long, just to talk about their day) and meet 3-4 times a week (high school is over now). Other couples in my high school spent much of their time together, but I don't think many of their relationship lasted much.

let me know if anyone of you believe I am wrong. I always support discussions. They have helped me grow and understand different prespectives.

jsmall

IDK her, but chances are if you don't cheat on her, she will. Their is no sense in having a romantic relationship with someone if they don't see you. If she's at a party and all of her friends are hooking up with guys or hanging out with their BFs, she wont want to be left out and will prob. join in. And you'll prob. do or at least want to do the same.

Juan McCain

Nobody cares about ur personal life.

karipac07

I agree with jasonshah, as seen in my previous post on this thread.

and Juan McCain what??

happy4him

College is already alot of pressure, why add the extra pressure of trying to mantain a LDR. You are more likely to have a relationship in the future if you break up on good terms and both go and experience life. This is absolutely the best time in your life, don't miss out on the whole experience!

jasonshah

another issue also arises: ok, u continue the realtionship until she graduates high school. And then what? Will you again involve in LDR if she goes to different school than yours, maybe in different state?

Maintaing LDR for 5 years (also accounting college), meeting 9-10 times during college academic year, may also be quite difficult for you. If she comes to same college u are attending, it might be easier on your realtionship.

Think seriously on this matter. How involved (with your heart) are you with her? Do you think you can spend your life forever with her? If your first answer is a profound 'yes', go ahead, an try making your relationship work. But, if you are doubting that now, may be u need to be honest with yourself.

The main aspect of relationship is 'relating'. Talk openly with her. The more you inhibit yourself, more complex this problem will get. What does she want out of this relationship? Does she wanna continue? And, what about you? YOu can also break off the relationship on better/friendlier ground, and be friends. U may meet in holidays. And later, after u finish college u can get back together if both of u want.

leah377

haha the guy who started this thread isn't even reading it any more..