I have a girlfriend who will be a senior in high school while I'm in college...can it

donatejimmyfund · 05-27-2008, 08:05 PM

I know every case is different...I'm about 2 hours from home, and we're both willing to continue the relationship while I'm in college. We're both very faithful ...does this stuff normally work out?

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i'm going to a pretty intense ivy league school (not a very promiscuous social environment?), i don't party / drink

burgler09 · 05-27-2008, 08:11 PM

Man, I wouldn't want to deal with that crap lol, High schoolers really suck to be honest.. chances are you will get completely tired of her after dealing with college kids. My guess is you will break up by early-mid november.

Pengsta · 05-27-2008, 08:46 PM

Are you sure she'll get into the same college as you?

Christine123 · 05-27-2008, 09:23 PM

Will she want to stay with you after she goes to college if you're still together at that point? It's always easier being the one leaving than the one left behind.
I know plenty of relationships that lasted the transition from high school to college. If you're not absolutely serious about her, I wouldn't stay with her, but if you are, I would try it out. It's really up to you two.
The advice I gave myself going into college was that if you're in a relationship from high school, you're not as motivated to go out and meet people. You already have that someone you're comfortable with. Of course, I think I was coming up with excuses not to stay with my boyfriend who I should have broken up with way before I went to college (and since I didn't, I got daily phone calls and angry drunk text messages at 2 am).
Maybe I live in a little bubble of a world, but I trust a lot of relationships are faithful and trusting, which I believe, as you said, yours is. People always say that you'll start drinking or partying in college even if you say you won't, but I think that's peer pressure. The fact that you stay true to yourself about things like that will make her feel more secure. And she can always remind you of who you are ;-).
Honestly, I don't think faithfulness and so on are the major issues that would pop up. The major ones would be that you change to some varying amount in college, the distance is tough, or you're just not ready to build your life with someone else in mind yet, which is kind of what you're doing if you make this kind of commitment. And that's okay. (Of course, I'm also a believer in fate and soulmates, so I believe it things are meant to be, they'll happen...that said, don't let her be the one who got away! Some things are in your control.)

bperboy · 05-27-2008, 09:46 PM

That's completely true... wow, can't wait for the (hopefully) mature ladies in college!

theaterbrat · 05-27-2008, 09:49 PM

If you have to ask this question, then it won't.

chuy · 05-27-2008, 10:45 PM

'does this stuff normally work out?"

Perhaps for once I can not step on anyones toes for once on this issue and give you a very factual "no" on this one.

pmrlcomm · 05-27-2008, 11:16 PM

Do yourself a favor and break up now. My D went to college and left her bf back in HS for his senior year. They lasted the school year and then broke up right after school ended. I'm sure neither of them enjoyed their respective years as much as they should/could have always worrying about the other and making arrangements to see each other, etc... I'm not being cynical or anything. Just practical.

Iolanthe · 05-27-2008, 11:56 PM

I've seen it work, but never easily. usually it ends somewhere around christmas.

rocketman08 · 05-28-2008, 12:16 AM

These things rarely work out.

Easy · 05-28-2008, 12:31 AM

"We're both very faithful"

As opposed to sort of, kind of, not really faithful?

Just because she hasn't cheated doesn't mean she won't cheat. Just because you've never gotten the temptation to cheat doesn't mean your mind won't start straying against your conscious will.

chuy · 05-28-2008, 11:52 AM

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usually it ends somewhere around christmas.

Or Thanksgiving. It's called the "Turkey Dump" or "Turkey Drop."

specify · 05-28-2008, 12:08 PM

It won't work out.

coloratura_as · 05-28-2008, 01:21 PM

Dude, I went to college and stayed together with my boyfriend and it was a big mistake. Not only did I create a lot of problems for myself and our relationship (long story but no I did not cheat) but it kept me from meeting new people and from going to parties. My second semester was so much better than my first because I had nothing holding me back.

Easy · 05-28-2008, 01:34 PM

Could you tell your story, coloratura? Sounds interesting that you say "Not only did I create a lot of problems for myself and our relationship (long story but no I did not cheat)."