Drunken Hookup

mangoandlime · 03-02-2009, 08:01 PM

So this weekend at a friend's frat party I hooked up with this girl a few times, got her number and then went home. She called me up at about 2am and wanted to hang out, so I said ok. She came over to my place and we just talked, that's all she wanted to do, and she left. I'm not opposed to having kinda superficial experiences like this, but she was a really cool/hot girl so I decided to text her a few days later. A few hours has gone by and she hasn't responded at all. ***, I can't get my mind around this chick. We were both a bit drunk, but she also told me she has seen me around a lot, which was kinda weird. I'm just very confused. BTW before people start railing on me, by hooking up I mean just making out. Any thoughts?

chuy · 03-02-2009, 08:09 PM

A few hours? Give her a day or so before you even think about it again.

panic · 03-02-2009, 08:42 PM

You've already given up control. Nothing you can do now.

mangoandlime · 03-02-2009, 08:45 PM

Why would she come back to just talk, i gave her every opportunity to continue what we had been doing, but she just wanted to talk.

and yes chuy, i am probably jumping the gun too much.

gstein · 03-02-2009, 08:45 PM

hooking up =/= making out

diontechristmas · 03-02-2009, 08:55 PM

That depends where you live. On the East Coast, hooking up=making out

dbear · 03-02-2009, 09:46 PM

i'm pretty sure hooking up can include anything from bases 1-4
as in, the point of the phrase is for it to be ambiguous
but yeah, usually it implies you just made out. guys usually take advantage of the opportunity to brag about if he's gotten further with a girl by being more specific, while with a girl (if she's especially ashamed about it) may play it down.

dbear · 03-02-2009, 09:47 PM

p.s. she didn't wanna hook up again? maybe she did and you didn't try anything, i mean, 2am? really? ...

mangoandlime · 03-02-2009, 09:49 PM

i did try, alls she wanted to do was talk, which is fine.

so i'm not going to contact her again, or facebook her, or anything. plus, i will definetly see her around, because she apparently sees me everywhere...

Sassy6519 · 03-02-2009, 11:01 PM

I would suggest that you wait about a week, then try contacting her. That way there is a little time and distance between your interactions. She may be more friendly with you then. My other suggestion to you would be to study her body language. You might want to make sure that she even wants to take things further with you. Not to be harsh, but she may be regretting hooking up with you. Not to say that she is, but it is a possibility. Just take one step at a time.

molly4190 · 03-02-2009, 11:06 PM

i think it's cool you didn't try to pull a move on her, as most guys, if drunk at 2 am and alone with a hot girl, would try to do something...i think to many girls that would say, hey, he cares about more than just sex and didn't take advantage of it being late and us both being drunk, but she also might have interpreted it as you weren't interested. i think it's weird she came over to "just talk", which you could've done on the phone...maybe she was waiting for you to make the first move? a lot of girls do. or, she might regret the drunken hook-up at all and wish she had never done it...but it's been a couple hours, so chill and wait for her to text you back.

leah377 · 03-02-2009, 11:17 PM

Quote:

i'm pretty sure hooking up can include anything from bases 1-4
as in, the point of the phrase is for it to be ambiguous

agreed. generally "we hooked up" requires further probing..

mangoandlime · 03-02-2009, 11:18 PM

I thought about that, but i don't think she regretted it, I didn't get that impression at all, I'm pretty good at judging that sort of thing. I wouldn't have taken advantage of her, but I gave her SEVERAL opportunities to just do more than just talk. I also could tell she was the type of girl I wasn't getting any farther than just making out with, not for lack of trying, but I really don't want a lady to feel uncomfortable/do anything she doesn't want to do, but i'm also not a prude. I just found it really odd, because she was really bent on seeing me again that evening and I even said I wanted to go to sleep, but relented in the end. She could just be confused, because she is a firstie and I am obviously not.

dbear · 03-02-2009, 11:51 PM

yeah sry we can't help u further, cuz we're not her and don't know the exact circumtstances of your relations or her personal life in general, but my advice to you is to just be respectful (as you were, kudos!) and if its meant to be its meant to be !

mangoandlime · 03-03-2009, 11:06 AM

Yeah, I figured that. Thanks anyway.