Christians and Sexuality - Page 2

Cboe · 07-03-2009, 06:40 PM

lol u got me. I was blown away by the first sentence. Sorry.

hirako · 07-03-2009, 06:42 PM

Remember kids, there's always the option of saddlebacking if you find yourself unable to resist:

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Saddlebacking: sad•dle•back•ing \ˈsa-dəl-ˈba-kiŋ\ vb [fr. Saddleback Church] (2009): the phenomenon of Christian teens engaging in unprotected anal sex in order to preserve their virginities

After attending the Purity Ball, Heather and Bill saddlebacked all night because she’s saving herself for marriage. Unfortunately her parents found out because they got santorum all over the sheets.

Another_Adam · 07-03-2009, 06:48 PM

^ Hahahahahahahah

Reya Lovely · 07-03-2009, 07:06 PM

I'm a Christian and I'm going to save myself for marriage. The reason I will is because marriage is simply secures having sex as much as it possibly can (of course, there's always a chance of divorce.) It seems to me like having sex after a long-term relationship can still have its consequences. There's always the chance of breaking up ( a much simpler action than divorce ) and giving all of yourself to one person and then having the relationship turn sour is a lot of the times detrimental to certain people. And also, having sex with more than one person before marriage causes comparison--disappointment if your spouse doesn't live up to someone else in the past in that area. The Bible suggests waiting until marriage to have the best experience of sex as possible. It's supposed to be one of God's gifts to the human race, and to experience the greatness of it, it's best to do it inside marriage. And also, as Christians, it's not a matter of whether or not we are "allowed" to, the Bible just gives us something to live by in order to make our lives more productive, loving, and fulfilled. Being a Christian isn't based on actions, cuz hell, we all screw up! It's about the heart, and our efforts.

ginab591 · 07-03-2009, 08:52 PM

Sex is as big a deal as you make it. Period. If you believe having sex with a person is giving your entire self to them, then it is for you. If you believe it's more casual, then it is for you.

tokdoc · 07-03-2009, 09:01 PM

Reya is right....Gina is wrong! Sex tends to blind one to the flaws in the partner, in addition to all the inherent risks to self and potential babies. It's a HUGE deal.

powerbomb · 07-03-2009, 09:20 PM

@ Lockn, I don't think the main reason sex was prohibited before marriage is because of the possibility of an unstable family (in the Christian religion), although that probably was a secondary concern. The Bible mainly forbids it because it can be seen as adultery - If you have sex with somebody that you are not married to, and end up having sex with another person once you actually DO get married, then you've had sex with 2 different people and that is essentially committing adultery.

ginab591 · 07-03-2009, 09:46 PM

tokdoc--I honestly can't tell whether or not your serious.

lockn · 07-03-2009, 09:46 PM

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The Bible mainly forbids it because it can be seen as adultery - If you have sex with somebody that you are not married to, and end up having sex with another person once you actually DO get married, then you've had sex with 2 different people and that is essentially committing adultery.

The practical issue with adultery was the same (pregnancy), if the other woman is young and unmarried. If the other woman was married, it would be a huge offense against her husband - remember how male-focused society was at the time. Now, the problem with adultery is the violation of the marraige vows or social contract in a monogamous romantic relationship. What you're saying is more like a theological basis for it, which wasn't necessary in the past and isn't as convincing to the average person today.

Alix2012 · 07-03-2009, 10:38 PM

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having sex with more than one person before marriage causes comparison--disappointment if your spouse doesn't live up to someone else in the past in that area

You're right, it does cause comparison, but someone who's having pre-marital sex and thinks their partner is lousy in bed wouldn't marry them, would they? So it really works out for everyone - Christians have no experience to compare it to, so they're happy when they finally get married and get laid, pre-marital sex people do compare partners, so they marry someone who they like in bed.

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Sex tends to blind one to the flaws in the partner, in addition to all the inherent risks to self and potential babies. It's a HUGE deal.

Nah, people have been doing it forever, it's not a big deal unless you're not getting any. And unless you're doing it on a bed of nails, condoms and birth control should be fine. As for blinding people to the flaws in the partner...even if the sex is really good, you're still gonna pick up on the flaws. Besides, lots of people are blinded to their partner's flaws because they're deeply in love or because their partner is really rich/attractive/funny or something.

LOL @ hirako....i wonder if anal/oral sex counts for christians?

ring_of_fire · 07-03-2009, 11:19 PM

I hope you kids that are abstaining make sure that the need to have sex doesn't influence your desire to get married as soon as possible. I've known devout Christians who have gotten married in their late teens and early 20s so they can have sex since they couldn't stand it any longer.

Most people wait until their late 20s to get married. I hope you hardcore Christians do the same, so as to not base a relationship off sex and then have a painful divorce.

dshinka · 07-03-2009, 11:20 PM

I believe more and more Christian young people are seeing the wisdom of waiting.

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I believe more and more Christian young people are engaging in sexual activities at younger ages. I go to a southern baptist church that teaches that every letter of the Bible in its original language is intentionally and divinely inspired by the Holy Spirit. We are said to be one of the most, if not the most, conservative church in the Southern Baptist Convention. Furthermore any kind of sexual activity - whether it be masturbation or vaginal sex is lust at best and is some sort of sin in the eyes of God. Of the 10 people that I'm close enough to to inquire their sexual activity, myself included, 5 have had vaginal sex, 4 have engaged in mutual masturbation and/or oral sex and one is completely nonsexual - she hasn't even masturbated before.

All of these people are aged 17 to 19. I think sexual sin is a huge problem for christian teens and is growing, if anything.

As far as what counts as "sex" this varies from Christian to Christian. I think the main reason, from my limited survey with my friends, they don't have vaginal sex is not for moral reasons but for fear of pregnancy.