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Nervous Feeling about Going to College

kashc2kashc2 Posts: 169Registered User Junior Member
edited June 2010 in College Life
The title says it all, I'm very nervous about going to college. In the beginning when I got accepted into my choice of college I was so excited and couldn't wait then as summer approached reality hit me. I realized I'd be away from home and a lot of my friends. I'm actually probably very few people to say this but I loved my high school experience and I'm amazed by how fast those four years went by. Now I can't stop thinking about how big of a change college is going to be and being away from my family and friends. Did you guys feel this way too when you were about to become college freshmen? Any tips?

Thanks.
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  • WantsBrownWantsBrown Posts: 925Registered User Member
    that's probably a normal feeling when everyone goes to college for the first time. you should only really worry if after several months you're still having trouble adjusting then you might want to speak with someone about helping you adjust better.
  • lolcats4lolcats4 Posts: 3,203Registered User Senior Member
    Now I can't stop thinking about how big of a change college is going to be and being away from my family and friends. Did you guys feel this way too when you were about to become college freshmen? Any tips?

    I did experience a bit of nervousness, but if your experience is like mine, you'll meet some of your closest friends ever and find a 'second family' of sorts. This summer all I feel is an intense desire to return to school...
  • icedragonicedragon Posts: 2,170Registered User Senior Member
    *ahem* *speaking as someone who got sick due from stress the first week...*

    Its not as bad as you think it is. You will have fun classes and the like to look forward to. Free food and stuff is abound when your in the mood to go find it. Clubs are abound as well.
  • XX55XXXX55XX Posts: 1,014Registered User Member
    Speaking as a person who went to school only two miles away, I wasn't very worried at all. After all, commuting to school from home was going to make college seem like an extension to high school. I was worried about academics initially, but after a abysmal first few weeks, my grades stabilized and that worry took care of itself.
  • PlattsburghLoserPlattsburghLoser Posts: 5,487Registered User Senior Member
    Speaking as a person who inhales oxygen and exhales pink fairy stardust, what you're feeling is pretty normal. Once you get used to the new atmosphere, usually within the first or second week, you'll be fine.

    But as mentioned above, if you're still feeling this way well into the year then seek help adjusting. A lot of colleges have a freshman experience type program that focuses on helping new students get situated.
  • kashc2kashc2 Posts: 169Registered User Junior Member
    "Speaking as a person who inhales oxygen and exhales pink fairy stardust"

    haha thanks for the laugh made me feel better.
  • college316college316 Posts: 283Registered User Junior Member
    I just finished my freshman year of college and I remember feeling the EXACT same way you did! The first thing to remember is that nearly everyone else will be in your shoes. The stereotypical "I hated high school and can't wait to leave" kind of person isn't as common as you think. Most people had good, sometimes amazing, high school experiences and it's always difficult to leave something like that behind.

    On that note, though, everyone is just as desperate as you are to make friends and feel connected! People will be very open the first few weeks/months. Also, it's not like high school...you can have a bunch of different friends from various aspects of your college life (classes, sports, etc.) and they don't all have to be friends with each other, so don't worry about finding a "clique" right away.

    You should actually view your nerves as a blessing. Having such a great high school experience means you know what being truly happy feel like, and you will definitely be able to recreate that in college. It does take a few months (shorter or longer, depending on the person) to feel "at home" but trust me. It will happen. Something that really scared me when I was getting ready to leave was that I felt really out of control...as in, I wouldn't have control over who my friends were, or what would happen to me over the next year. Something to remember is that just like you worked hard to make friends/have good relationships with family in high school, you can totally do that again in college, with maybe even better results! It is TOTALLY within your power to create a good life for yourself at college.

    Getting involved in clubs and organizations is something you'll often hear, and to some extent, it's true. For the first few weeks, never EVER pass up an opportunity to be social. Sitting in your room alone just makes you feel worse about everything. That said, though, don't join clubs just to build a resume. You can wind up overcommitted and even more stressed out. Whatever you had a passion for in high school--running, writing, singing, whatever--try and pursue that for the first few weeks so it's not like you're completely reinventing yourself. If you find you still like the activity, then go for it! If not, you'll at least have given it a chance.

    One final thing: your first few months won't be a breeze, and that's okay! It's okay to feel sad or homesick sometimes. It's totally normal and doesn't mean you are having trouble adjusting. I am happier than I've ever been, with a good GPA and friends who I know will be in my wedding someday. Not every day of my first semester was awesome. Your entire first year will be a transition period, so if you're still feeling little pangs of homesickness every few weeks even through your second semester, it's okay. I promise. As long as you're able to just throw yourself into your new college life you'll be fine.

    The transition can definitely be scary so right when you get to college start building a support system. This can come from your friends but recognize that all freshmen are similarly freaked out so be wary of stressing each other out. Your RAs, upperclassmen in your dorm/classes/sorority/fraternity, etc. are all great resources and you should definitely try to get to know upperclassmen. They've been there before and will be more than happy to help you with whatever may come up.

    Good luck, and above all, just relax and enjoy the moment. These four years have the potential to be among the best of your life, so treasure every minute!
  • kashc2kashc2 Posts: 169Registered User Junior Member
    ^college316

    that makes me feel better, i forgot there are going to be other people in the same boat as me. Thanks for all the advice man, i appreciate it.
  • lucky2010lucky2010 Posts: 1,465Registered User Senior Member
    yeah, I feel nervous too, I really love my friends and family but I'm kinda looking forward also

    I like the advice given above though
  • mixedup92mixedup92 Posts: 88Registered User Junior Member
    I'm going to a school where none of my close friends are going and I'm worried that everyone else will already have someone they can be close with and I'd be a loner on orientation day.
  • CoolbrezzeCoolbrezze Posts: 5,403Registered User Senior Member


    The title says it all, I'm very nervous about going to college. In the beginning when I got accepted into my choice of college I was so excited and couldn't wait then as summer approached reality hit me. I realized I'd be away from home and a lot of my friends. I'm actually probably very few people to say this but I loved my high school experience and I'm amazed by how fast those four years went by. Now I can't stop thinking about how big of a change college is going to be and being away from my family and friends. Did you guys feel this way too when you were about to become college freshmen? Any tips?

    Thanks.
    I will be entering college as a freshmen also and will be over 400 miles away from home. Ofcourse I might be a little nervous the first couple of days but being an adult it's what I always wanted: being able to be out on my own as an adult and achieve my future goals. You might become a little less nervous knowing that your an adult, and although it may be helpful to have your parents personal opinion etc... your capable of doing everything yourself. No worries.
  • CoolbrezzeCoolbrezze Posts: 5,403Registered User Senior Member
    Good luck, and above all, just relax and enjoy the moment. These four years have the potential to be among the best of your life, so treasure every minute!
    It scares me when people make those statements. I mean ofcourse college years should be awsome but to imagen that after college your personal life goes down hill is a scary thought. I imagine after college each year should always get better and better due to repeating/ furthering the cycle of completing your goals whether it's work, adventuring, more connections etc...

    I do agree with other posters, try to immediately get to know your campus and community around you. It will also be helpful to join clubs etc.. I myself read daily articles about my future alumni school community.
  • lolcats4lolcats4 Posts: 3,203Registered User Senior Member
    ^ I like to think of it this way: College is the best four years of your life to date :)
  • fa-la-la-lenafa-la-la-lena Posts: 2,844Registered User Senior Member
    ^^^yeah i feel the same way...as much as I love college, it certainly is not going to be the "best 4 years of my life." No way am I going to peak in happiness at age 22! There is still so much more to accomplish in my opinion...and I don't care how naive I sound, I am going to have an awesome life post-college as well!

    In terms of advice, I'd say college316 is 100% spot-on.
  • eastafrobeautyeastafrobeauty Posts: 2,427Registered User Member
    Do you guys think It would be just as easy to make friends during sophomore year in college?...like, if you happened to be a transfer? B/c i feel like I'm going to miss out on a lot of friendships since everyone wants to make friends freshman year...
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