To answer one of your questions in your OP, yes, most women's colleges tend to be non-party schools for the most part. Have you considered the following schools?
Mount Holyoke - Known for having a studious, peaceful environment. Students can travel to the nearby towns and nearby colleges in the consortium if they're looking for parties, but it doesn't sound like it's a big part of the culture there at all.
Hollins - Girls at Hollins love to have fun! But not in a traditional way. This school is known for the silly, zany antics girls there enjoy. Think dressing up in weird costumes to hike a mountain or watching anime in the Otaku Hall.
Sweet Briar - Similar to Hollins but has a more traditional vibe. There are crazy traditions here too, lots of outdoors to explore, and "tap clubs" (a mix of theater groups, a capella groups, and community service groups). The girls also have "boathouse" parties on campus every Thursday, which have been described as a group of good girlfriends talking over wine, not hardcore drinking and partying.
Smith - Definitely known for being hard-working, involved in activities and organizations, never resting, and yet also having fun with extracurriculars and the quaint, charming town of Northamptom. Lots of fun traditions.
Wellesley - Similar to Smith like this, maybe has a reputation of being even a bit more studious and serious about schoolwork. Lots of traditions here too.
Bryn Mawr - Studious students, traditions, and the city of Philadelphia is close by for going out and having fun, but you could easily go to concerts, movies, restaurants, et cetera instead of relying on bars or clubs.