Hi--I'm a high school senior trying to pick between two really great schools for next year. Of these two, there is one that would be my definite first choice. The problem, I have a close friend who is also seriously considering the same school.
This friend and I are involved in many of the same activities and are passionate about many of the same causes and academic subjects, which presumably would continue, at least to some extent, in college. The thing is, my friend tends to be more motivated and more assertive and is consequently generally better at these various activities and subjects. People look up to her more.
In high school, this has been fine--more or less--but I do know that I want a change in college. The college we are both considering is fairly small (about 1300 people), so I don't think it's possible to just avoid her, nor would I want to do that, because she's a good friend and I love her very much. Still, I'm worried that, if I went to college with her and became involved in the same activities, etc, I would fall into the same rut I'm in now and wouldn't explore and challenge myself as much as I would otherwise. She would overshadow me the way she has in high school.
I guess my question is, is college different enough that I really shouldn't worry about being overshadowed, etc, even at a school this small? Should I go to this school even if she goes, or would it be better to go to the other one (which is still AMAZING, by the way, just not as high on my list), where I would have a chance to grow and expand more on my own?