confidentialcoll

^agreed, have sex during orientation all you want. dating someone is like roulette, if you succeed it's only because you're lucky, and if you win you might be mugged of your freshman year experiences. Soo many kids go head over heels for this chick or this dude, and realize mid-late frosh year that they "loved" their bf/gf only because they were insecure in a new environment.

On the other hand perhaps you should date someone to get that kick in the a$$ mid-year. But break up with your gf/bf the moment you feel it's no longer great. For your own good, cuz you dated him/her on a whim in the first place, and so that you or dumped low self-esteem girls, will date me mid year .

violinlvr09

lol

Sex during orientation? is this common?

confidentialcoll

^casual sex in high school is common, in college, there's new flesh, you don't know people and you will not really have to see the person much again. You'll never know if its common, but I'm sure it happens a lot.

Denzera

Look, orientation is aptly named. You come in not knowing which direction you're going, not knowing a thing about how college actually works in practice or how Columbia is to be navigated. Some of the sessions will help explain that, but mostly, you get some time to figure things out on your own.

The single most important, best piece of advice I can give you is: be willing to throw yourself into new experiences, take risks, and do stuff your parents wouldn't approve of. When people say "hey, a bunch of us are going to go to ___, want to come?" your answer should be "hell yes". When you're not sure if you should introduce yourself to that person on your floor or that person in your class or that person you think is cute, DO IT ANYWAY. At worst you get practice at it, at best you make a friend, and you'll start to learn the little secret that confidentialcoll alluded to: everyone ELSE is just as disoriented as you are, and lacking a comfortable social circle themselves. They WANT to meet you. They know you're just as smart and interesting as everyone else because you got into Columbia too - you have a presumption of being cool.

The first two weeks are crucial, because that's the time period that everyone is open to meeting literally anyone else, and cliques and snobbery are by-and-large nonexistent. After about two weeks, people have made their initial circle of friends and are much less needy about meeting new people (so it'll become a little less easy - still not hard, but not the trivially-easy that it was during orientation). Use that time, and be bold. You'll never face this much ambiguity and confusion again, or be in a situation where it's so easy to make friends.

Columbia2002

My best Columbia friend to this day is someone I met at days on campus. BS to the person who said you said people you meet at orientation etc. aren't likely to be your friends.

starstruckk

Now that's some good advice, Denzera, thanks!

confidentialcoll

that person was me, and you completely misread my post, I never said you cannot make great friends during orientation or days on campus, I said if you do end up being great friends down the road, it's not because of orientation or days on campus. You could have met 3 months later and still be where you are today. Of all the people you meet during days on campus and orientation, some are, by chance, definitely going to stay your great friends.

Denzera

You're C02's best friend?!

Columbia2002

LOL; I don't think I know any of y'all, actually.

confidentialcoll

haha, yeah should have paid more attention to sat writing. and what the fck is up, C02 is going batsht insane far less than he used to. You found someone C02? lost some weight? got a job?

A few months back he would have argued his point to page 37, and pssed all over high schoolers on the way. account been hacked? I want the real C02 back, makes me look better.

Denzera

He went easy enough on the guys in the on-campus-job thread that I think he must be on prozac. Or at least the ganja.

metsfan

Kinda mess the old C02. He was never at all rude when it wasn't at least a bit justified, and was (and still is) really helpful and insightful (I remember he saved me w/ picking chem profs freshmen year).

Columbia2002

It's hard to go batsht insane on the 4th person that's asked the same idiotic question. The first time I see a particular idiotic question, I will probably flip out. But after that, it's just boring.

undisclosed

The Emma Watson wagon needs some monkey feces their way stat.