Non-custodial / Non-contributing parent (schools are including as "contributing")
I have a question about my ex- who is not contributing to current expenses for our son, a HS senior. As the college admissions are rolling in, the amount of aid is varying. As a single mom, who has supported my son throughout high school with minimal assistance from his dad, I am concerned that some of the private schools that required the non-custodial CSS Profile and to whom we submitted Non-custodial Waiver Requests are not, in fact, considering the request. They seem to believe that I can somehow get my ex- to contribute. If that were the case, I would not be involved in legal action to get him to reimburse me for the past 4 years of curricular and extracurricular expenses. I don't understand how I am supposed to pay the amounts they are estimating, and am surprised that the financial aid office at one college in particular told me on the phone that if my ex- wouldn't contribute, then it would simply be on me and my son to pay. They were not interested in discussing the situation further--that was before he was even admitted! He was admitted today, and the EFC was $43K. I'm sure that's a lot for most people, but for me alone, that would involve me liquidating every bit of equity in my home, or taking on an extraordinary amount of debt. There are other colleges in the mix, and there are 4 that have yet to reply.
Any suggestions on how to revisit financial aid offers? I've also checked out that forum, and I thank you in advance for any suggestions.