Dan2014

Whenever I try to stand my ground, people find me unreasonable.
Ex: I do homework in the living room. The TV is off. My brother has a nice TV upstairs he uses. He comes down stairs and asks for the remote. I say no because I won't be able to study and it would distract me. I say that the TV in his room is better and he was already watching it. He complains for five minutes about how its my fault and I could have done work earlier.
This is true, but can't he watch football later? He was already using his own TV, why distract me?
I tend to let other people do what they want and I try to please everybody. As soon as I stop, I get looked at like I'm some raging you know what. Is it wrong for me to stand my ground every now and then?
(Its not limited to this situation, other little things happen a lot, but this just stuck out in particular)

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MaineLonghorn

I'm much older than you, but I've always had the same issue. The good thing about getting older is that you don't care if people think you're unreasonable. I stand up for myself much more than I did at your age. I try to stay calm, but I don't back down too often!

flower161

That stuff happens to me a lot too since I can be very lenient at times since whenever I resist, it tends to backfire on me (more so with family than other people). But when it comes to things like that, I just realized that I had to stop caring and not back down from my opinions and come off as more assertive and authoritative.

Eventually people will respect that but it will sooo hard at first though cuz no one will see it coming and just try to make you angry and/or feel bad and/or try to change your mind.

Kaeroze

Sometimes reasoning won't work. Have you told people why you are doing what your doing and try still seem like their original idea is much better? Sometimes standing up is just being assertive and saying "No," but sometimes you have to be a little rude. When you can be rude varies and typically isn't the nicest way, but some people wont listen. Like yelling, "Get Out!" when someone invades your privacy when your studying. But generally, be assertive and don't back down.

dfree124

You can't just watch football later, it doesn't work that way.

stressedouttt

I find that sometimes when I try to stand up for myself (which I don't often do) I sometimes come off badly because I get sort of defensive. just stand up for yourself confidently and naturally. or at least just tell them if something's bothering you. if people still complain, just ignore them.

Hannahbanana69

This has nothing to do with your standing your ground, but perhaps it might be easier for you to do your homework in someplace that's reliably quiet and private, so you don't need to worry about intruders. Are there any other places (like your room) where you can do your homework?
This has nothing to do with your brother except in that if you have a more private place you don't need to worry about your brother. Yeah, brothers can be the pits, so I try my best to just avoid mine.