A *gasp* social situation?

preamble1776 · 10-02-2012, 10:10 PM

In the words of my AP English teacher, I have a "slight penchant for overwriting" so I'm going to try to keep this short.

There's this boy. I'm a girl. We're both 16. Ok.

He's really, I guess, polar with me in terms of how he treats me. We didn't start talking until this year because we've never had classes together before until now, where we have 2.

He talks to me a lot, he's always the one to initiate the conversation. He even has a tendency to interrupt conversations I'm having with other people, redirecting it so its between me and him.

However, there are times where he is just heinously rude with me. I mean like, saying the type of things that warrant a good smack upside the head.

Other times, he'll be very considerate. I was telling a girlfriend of mine how this summer program at Harvard I was doing went (keep in mind, it is virtually impossible not to sound pretentious when using the word Harvard in any sentence) and he interrupted "Oh, how was it?" "Did you have fun?" "Did you think it was worth it?" etc - which was unexpected.

I don't know what to think. He goes between being such a sweetheart to being just intolerable - some days he'll ask to sit with me at lunch and other days he'll just not even look my way.

Thoughts?

P.S. I was unsuccessful in keeping this concise. I apologize.
P.P.S I said "like" a lot in this post. I guess I can't write coherently and articulately about meaningless situations.

lolz.

preamble1776 · 10-02-2012, 10:17 PM

Lets get it bumping.

MutaRiSC · 10-02-2012, 10:29 PM

Perhaps sharing those heinous things he says with us would shed light on the situation.

CE527M · 10-02-2012, 10:39 PM

Even though you guys never really talked before this year, how long have you two actually known each other?

Kaeroze · 10-02-2012, 10:45 PM

^^ Agree with above.(MutaRisc and CE527M) It could just be teasing between friends and flirting but it means nothing(Trust me on the latter!). You gave a very good overview introducing the subject, but what actually is communicated between the two of you and how you are with each other versus other people of the opposite sex would help us(CCers) know, "What's the sitch!"

preamble1776 · 10-03-2012, 06:58 PM

It was basically along the lines of "I'm going to f-ing punch you in the face" because I used "big" words in an English discussion, which he deemed to be pretentious and he dubbed me a try hard - even though he's really no better in terms of kissing up to teachers and whatnot.

I've known him for about 5 years, I'd say.

Niquii77 · 10-03-2012, 07:08 PM

Interesting...and he's 16? Do you guys have the same interest level of each other?

CE527M · 10-03-2012, 07:18 PM

When he said those things...did he say it in a joking tone, or a more serious tone, or sarcastic, or what?

preamble1776 · 10-03-2012, 08:15 PM

He said it in a joking tone, like he was laughing and I guess he was expecting me to do the same -- but it really just made me uncomfortable. Plus it was a drastic change in how he usually acts around me.

Kieran0696 · 10-03-2012, 08:31 PM

He obviously has multiple personality disorder, one being a prince charming who in love with you, and another being a irritating child. There could be more personalities. Watch the movie Identity (with John Cusack), and it will all make sense.

Edit: Lol until I read the Harvard part I was thinking that this was was a girl that I do the same thing to.

IceQube · 10-03-2012, 08:33 PM

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Originally Posted by preamble1776

being just intolerable - some days he'll ask to sit with me at lunch and other days he'll just not even look my way.

Maybe he's just trying to give you space. I do that sometimes, and I don't know whether I'm coming off as cold and detached or just normal (by giving people their space). I'd like to think that I'm just giving them their space; I don't want to come off as clingy or something.

I guess for you it's coming off as cold and detached.

I wonder if this is the same for most girls.

preamble1776 · 10-03-2012, 08:36 PM

Surprisingly enough, this guy is in fact John Cusack. What a coincidence. LOL.

Ah, I find that the problem not lay in his capacity to exhibit more than one emotion but rather by oversensitivity to everything. I'm much too sheltered. If everything isn't rainbows and bunnies, I get anxious.

Kieran0696 · 10-03-2012, 08:36 PM

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I wonder if this is the same for most girls.

I also wonder this.

preamble1776 · 10-03-2012, 08:38 PM

Same for most girls as in what, reading into things too deeply? Oh yes, virtually every individual of the female persuasion has a remarkable ability to overanalyze everything.

ThatOneCoolNerd · 10-03-2012, 08:39 PM

Whenever he does it again, just kindly (but in a serious tone) tell him that you dont find his joke funny, and that its a little rude. If he apologizes, then we would know that he's a sweetheart...if he doesnt.....then there clearly is a problem @Kieran0696 LoOL. I fell off my chair just reading that