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Old 10-18-2012, 10:54 PM   #1
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Helping out people who never return the favor?

Do you know any people who will beg and plead for you to help them with difficult homework, but never ever bother to give anything in return? There's this one girl in my physics class who is like this. The night homework is due, she'll text me a bunch of questions and I'll take time explain them all. Yet when I need help (maybe to ask if we had homework or a test coming up), she doesn't even bother respond. I'm so sick of it and I think I am just gonna start ignoring her. What would you do in this scenario?
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Old 10-18-2012, 10:55 PM   #2
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Sounds good.
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Old 10-18-2012, 11:01 PM   #3
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Maybe the reason why she ignores your responses is because she doesn't know what to do either. How about you guys both have a study session before or after school and do homework or practice problems together. I had the same problem as you, but I created a better bond with my classmate(s)/partner(s) by having these study groups and now we help each other all the time, and sometimes my partner(s)/classmate(s) text me saying that h/she doesn't know how to do problems such and such and we work it out together via text lol. What I'm trying to say is, try working with her and see what happens on from there.
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Old 10-18-2012, 11:01 PM   #4
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Confront her and tell her she's not pulling her weight.
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Old 10-18-2012, 11:18 PM   #5
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I'd either ignore her or confront her, depending on how much I cared.
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Old 10-19-2012, 01:01 AM   #6
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Well, if you are sick of it but do not want to confront her, then just make excuses to not to help her. After a few times, she will get the message. We can't always expect others to return favor, but sometimes helping others can make yourself happy as well (I think it feels better to help others than ro receive help). Though if you are getting sick of it, then stop. Any relationship between two human beings is a two-way road; you can't always be the one who gives.
I had a friend that always ask me for help with math but always left me alone when she had other friends around. It felt like the only purpose she came to me was to get help with math. I felt like I was being used and I started making excuses (too busy, not sure), and eventually she got the message and stopped. I kind of confronted her before but she didn't get it at first.
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Old 10-19-2012, 01:02 AM   #7
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Full of grammatical errors in my post above. Sigh.
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Old 10-19-2012, 03:20 AM   #8
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Next time just tell her f off. Just kidding but tell her you won't help unless she starts helping you. Then she agrees. If she doesn't help then just ignore her from now on.
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