Cens10

Mine drive me everywhere until I get my license, maybe even after that. They don't know really much about the college process though, like the essays and things I had to do (although I had them read one). I researched everything, did all apps on my own. They barely know what the SAT is lol. But I do tell them what schools I'm applying to and have visited 5 with them. They don't expect much because my siblings aren't in college yet, but they do expect me to do more than them. It's kind of best of both worlds :')

Niquii77

My mom is extremely involved. She's a single mother so she my mom and my "dad". She knows my grades before I even do sometimes! She's really organized so she always knows what thig are coming up. Her organziation is kne thing i wish to incorpare into my life. She signs up for my SAT/ACTs. She tells me when they are, keeps the admission paper until it's the day before. She tells me when a good time to leave is so ill make it in time lol (She just now set a time i have to leave the house because I always get to school when the bell rings or late...was only late once though!) My mom knows everything about my college search. She has a chart of which schools have which scores, transcripts, recommendations.

In my day to day life she's really involved also. She gives me money since I don't work a lot. Sometimes gas money (which is they only thing I have to pay for my car). Um...I can talk to her about anything so she always knows what's going on in my social or acedemic life.

She'll buy certain things for me if I can't afford it myself. Like I know some kids have to pay their own cell phone bill. I might start paying mine when I'm a sophomore in college or when I have my own apartment (which is after two years of having a dorm). My mom is extremely supportive.

My mom is heavily involved and I love it. Some people call it being spoiled (which I guess at times I am spoiled), but, hey, my mom is just taking care of me, and I'm extremely thankful for all she does.

1Rachel94

As far as daily life goes, they're not really involved in that either. My mom and I are very close. We talk about a lot of stuff. We're more friends than mother and daughter. (She's a parent when she needs to be.) When I get stressed out about things, she's there for me. My parents aren't strict at all though. I can watch whatever I want, no bedtime, etc.

nickb14

My dad isn't too involved when it comes to my academic life. While he knows what kind of classes I take and how rigorous they are, he doesn't know much beyond that. He will lecture my if I get below an A in a class and he knows a few colleges I want to go to. Beyond that, I rely mainly on my friends who can drive to drive me places or I just walk. My dad drives me to school in the morning but that's really it. He disciplines me when I do something stupid but for the most part, I'm pretty independent. I'm paying fully for my own car and finance my social life. But he does pay my phone bill, cable, and many other things so I would not say I'm completely financially independent.

jsk4ever

Mine are willing to do pretty much anything to help me get the best out of my education, but they leave it to me in making college decisions, SATs, ACTs, classes, E.C.s, etc. They will pay any fees, take me to any school-related things, buy me anything I need, but they trust my decisions enough to not get heavily involved. Having Asian parents and being the oldest in the family, the "Education is everything" speech was drilled into my brain almost every day. I didn't mind those talks though; they actually motivated me even more. My parents don't pressure me to get As all the time (I actually pressure myself! ), but they would be extremely worried if I didn't because that would mean that something is wrong with me.

ArtsyGirl13

My parents are really involved with some things, not so involved with others. In terms of transportation and financial support they are there when I need them (though I take busses to almost all of my ECs). As for school they expect me to go to college, beyond that it is up to me/tend to support my decisions. I am not pressured to take hard classes/get the grades I do, they just expect me to try hard in whatever I pursue.

kikikaylen

My parents aren't really super involved in anything. They've obviously instilled in me that I should succeed academically from an early age, but since middle school, my grades have been available online and my parents have never even been on the site once. Whereas I have some friends whose parents check weekly.

I sign myself up for my SATs, ACTs, etc. I do my college apps and everything by myself. They know where I'm applying and occasionally give input, but I did all of the research solo and basically just relayed my decisions to them afterward. They haven't read over any of my essays either.. I got a car this year, so I don't rely on them for rides anymore... They know what ECs I'm involved in, but not too many particulars. My dad comes to my soccer games because he's super into athletics, but that's it. I stay after school until at least 4 everyday for ECs and my parents never ask which specific one; it's just an unsaid thing that I'm clearly busy. They know that I'm taking intense classes at school, but it's not as if they know my schedule by heart or anything. At this point, I get good grades for myself, and I am the main source of pressure in my life. My parents reward me for good grades sometimes, but I would do it regardless.

My parents also let me exercise my judgement most of the time. I don't really have a set curfew, specific rules about things. I've never been grounded. Yet I always keep my own room & bathroom clean, feed my dog, come home at reasonable hours, etc. And if my parents ask me to help with something specific around the house then I always do it. I get about $25 a week, which accounts for school lunch and anything else. Whatever else is left I slowly save up and that's my personal allowance for hanging out with friends, random Starbucks, clothes, electronics, etc. I'm not completely independent, but everything is relatively laissez-faire for me...

BigE96

Oh, my parents? Involved? Not really, but that's fine with me. My dad's kind of my source of transportation, but I don't talk to him nor does he to talk to me about school that much. He was an average student in school and my mom didn't go to college, so I'm pretty much on my own. I like it that way.

SerenityJade

My parents left it up to me to find where I wanted to go. They wanna know the plans but it's ultimately my decision.

And while they care about how I do in school, they don't care as much as they used to and trust that I'll get the grades I want.

Cynosuree

My dad is retired and extremely involved. He basically checks my grades every hour of the day, and he actually filled out all of my college applications (except the essays) and spends all day researching colleges. I'm pretty sure he is more freaked out about this than I am.

kikikaylen

Cynosuree, wow. I feel like that would make me feel so claustrophobic!

ecouter11

I feel like there are better ways to teach the value of money than by stressing your daughter out all the time about whether she can afford basic necessities. We're in high school; our job should be to learn and grow- that lesson is one I'm sure everyone learns sooner than later.

Rob1995

They are extremely involved financially. They pay for everything - my gas (which I take to school, to sports, and for leisure), my food (we get free breakfast and lunch), my clothes and my electronics. I am very grateful to be this privileged especially considering we don't have that much money.

Outside of finances, though - they aren't really involved in much else. I drive everywhere I need to go on my own, handle all my college-related things on my own, and they pretty much support me with whatever I do with minimal interference. I am very lucky and privileged in that respect.

Philovitist

Any minimum wage job can cover the basic necessities. Parents won't let the child go without if some mistake occurs. The stress doesn't come from that.

It's seeing the money dwindle with each expenditure, the self-exploration involved in the doing of things you'd rather not do in order to buy things you aren't sure you want, that constitutes the learning experience. You get a better idea of who you are, what you want, and what is valuable.

It also helps ease your parents' load.

alexissss

My mom has paid for everything she's had the funds for. I am extremely grateful. She blames herself for the hardships we've been through, however, and for that I'm pretty sad. :\ She's a single parent, so I don't expect too much involvement. I did my college list on my own (researched extensively), signed up for tests, bought study guides on eBay, wrote my essays, contacted my old hs for transcripts and teacher recs and even took a gap year on my own judgment. I ensured my classes while in high school were the most rigorous and brought home straight As (expected). We didn't have money for lots of outside travel for ECs, so I limited myself to a few afterschool clubs. I'm super involved in my mom's business, lol. For reasons. xD
I still don't drive, but I'm working on it (we haven't had a car for a couple years and we've just relocated to a different state). I'm a pro at riding the bus in my new area, though. I'm looking for a job now to take care of any future fees relating to the college process and to supplement my mom's income. I've always been rather independent, Imo.