Puddly

I am the older sister in my family, and, yes, my mom tends to ramble on and on about me, neglecting my little sister. I think the only way the younger one can be recognized as brilliant too is to specialize in something -- either do math better, write better, etc. My little sister chose to be prettier, so she puts on makeup and stuff and spends hours in the bathroom.

Needless to say, her grades suffer, and I can't seem to do a thing about it. I'm going off to college next year. Let's hope she gets into shape.

afruff23

Did you ever think about communicating this to your parents by any chance? What a RADICAL idea!

CrzyGmer789X2

GPAx213, I feel you. I'm in Precalc H right now, and there is a kid who is a freshman and is twelve, turning thirteen in June. He has a 98% YEAR average and had an A+ in Alg II H as an eighth grader who turned twelve (he went to the high school in the morning for it and went back to the middle school). He went from second to fifth grade in one year and is a year ahead in the math that that GRADE level should be at, let alone the two or three years he already has. You're supposed to be in seventh grade when you turn thirteen. He's going to be on AP Calc BC as a sophomore who should be in eighth grade -_- But I hear he's stupid in every other subject X_X

Abbie10390

I completely have the same problem with my older sister. I LOVE her to death but I don't think she even realizes how bad things can be. My sister's just the typical "good" sister who has graduated, is engaged, and is doing great right now. My mom loves me equally but my sister has made her much more proud of her accomplishments. Basically my sister gets all the positive attention and I generally get the negative attention. I just really can't wait until I'm out of college and fully independent.

jkjkjkj

I know how you feel, OP. I am totally overshadowed by my sister, it's not fair. When people hear where Im going to school, they are shocked. They seriously told my mom they thought it was a mistake and I was lucky, and my mom has to explain that I actually had better grades, scores, and ecs. This lady even said "i thought your sister was smarter than you" to my face. People totally underestimate me. Some people at my religious gathering place say hello, how is your sister? Seriously, it is so frustating. Hellooo, it is polite to ask the person right in front of you how they are doing first! It doesn't help that she just got engaged, she is all the rave. I don't want attention, I just don't want to be treated like crap. Even at my school, I can't seem to get out of her shadow. I can't wait to go to college where I won't be know as _______'s little sister.

GPAx213

CrzyGmer789X2, imagine having that kid as your brother lol.

But if my brother was only good in math, I would be totally okay with that, but since he is so freaking well rounded, he sometimes makes me really jealous of him.

lax_a_daisy

Puddly: your case sounds really similar to mine... except i am the little sibling? although some may not say that my grades are "suffering", my family would definitely categorize it as so. i chose to be popular/"hot" and now i am beginning to recognize that it was the wrong decision.

another thing is that everyone keeps saying the overshadowed sibling should become really good at something. I AM really good... at MANY things. i mean, i hate to toot my own horn, but it is necessary to paint this picture for you, and show everyone how TRULY and blatantly ignored i am. I am a 4.0 student taking the most possible honors/AP classes available at my grade. i play three sports for my school, and even though I only made JV for them (which is a rank higher than freshman but one below varsity), I am only a FRESHMAN and will probably get put on varsity next year. i play piano and sing competitively. and i have over 30 hrs of community service this year - i guess thats average but whatever.

HOW MUCH MORE CAN I DO? true i do all these things for my own personal benefit, but can't other people at least recognize this and talk to me about MY accomplishments, NOT my sisters. Or at least, they can stop degrading me by comparing the accomplishments of a FRESHMAN to a SENIOR

lunar_years

Not siblings. Cousins. Crazy, bespectacled cousins in Beijing who, at thirteen, are learning the same science I'm learning in my honors physics course.

I'm first in my class and reasonably successful, but I'm the dumbest person in my family.

Oh wellz. At least I have a life?

khrushchevtm

No. No you don't.

I think I'm the overshadowing sibling. My sis used to be the superstar for a number of years until I was 12, but due to a culmination of unforeseen events I now own the spotlight.

It's nice, I do admit. Verrrry nice. I'm not evil like she was though.

trojanaggie

My brother is a frosh at stanford and did everything perfectly and excelled in everything from grades to sports to guitar. I am going to USC and have done everything slightly less than perfectly. Most parents would be more than thrilled with my performance but I can tell that I am not living up to my parents expectations and its hard when I am following a perfect act. It is like I am Green Day and I just had the Beatles open for me. No one is going to be happy with Green day after such a great performance. It sucks

proletariat2

My sister did overshadow me for a while until I began memorizing loads of random information, which makes people think I'm smart.

People used to think that we were twins and I got held back a year. In reality, we're two years apart and I skipped a grade.

whitelulu

I'm the wonder child of the entire extended family. It's not that fun.

alexx

I don't know, if it's all bothering you so much, why don't you just tell them about it? Or let them take the spotlight. This leaves you more room to explore and do your own thing.

Alex