How to deprom a girl - Page 2

Anonagron · 05-10-2008, 01:09 PM

And I second Mattmoosemom: It is the honorable thing to do.

Northstarmom · 05-10-2008, 01:14 PM

You don't dump her. You stand by your promise. More than likely, too, she is already making preparations to go with you. You go to the prom and have a nice time with her, not with the hot girl whom you prefer. Afterward, if you'd like to date the other girl, you do.

How would you feel if you were dumped by a desirable girl who had agreed to go to the prom with you?

If you proceed and dump the girl you've committed to take to the prom, your reputation will be garbage including more than likely with the hot girl whom you'd rather go with.

thelittlemermaid · 05-10-2008, 01:32 PM

Go with her. After all, you did already say you'd go with her, so you should keep your word. Especially since you'd still be going even if you didn't go with her. And leaving high school on a bad note is not good.

HisGraceFillsMe · 05-10-2008, 01:34 PM

Don't dump her...like Northstarmom said, this type of stuff spreads FAST....girls talk to each other about these things, ESPECIALLY around prom.

You dump her, and you ask the other girl, and she goes "Oh sorry, I heard you already dumped ________."

Sends the wrong message, dude. Go with the girl you planned to go with.

yournamehere · 05-10-2008, 02:06 PM

if u want to deprom her for another girl, then that's shallow.
since you have already made the decision to ask her to prom and she said yes, you should honor that decision.
plus, it'll be hard on the girl if u want to ditch her for an unjustified reason.

btw, i'm a girl and i would not like it if a guy does that to me

goyanks193 · 05-10-2008, 02:49 PM

Nope, you simply cannot do it. A prom invite and acceptance is as close to a binding contract as you could get.

sax · 05-10-2008, 03:00 PM

Honestly the sooner you tell her you no longer want to go with her the better.
There is no easy out here. You will hurt her feelings. I don't think you care so just tell her. It will save her the embarrassment of having you act like a disinterested jerk for the entire night and have this as her senior prom memory.
Prom is a huge deal for girls. If you had any class you would honor your committment and go and show her a great time. But I don't think from your posts that this is possible. Hope I am wrong but I doubt it.

chickenboi8008 · 05-10-2008, 03:48 PM

maybe around prom night u could be like "oh my cat died" or something

ok but seriously, ur pretty much bound to it but unless u have a real, legitimate excuse not to go, i suggest u just go.

sheena · 05-10-2008, 05:05 PM

Oh, it's not that she's questionable or anything. In fact she's a really nice person. The thing is, it's a double-edged sword. Like I know that it's not a good thing to hurt a nice person's feelings who did nothing to deserve it, but, I know she's not the type of person who would retaliate in a way to harm my reputation significantly. I know that's a really bad way of looking things, but that's the way I see it.

enderkin · 05-10-2008, 05:08 PM

so take advantage of her discretion then, ya bastard.

johnba · 05-10-2008, 05:11 PM

ok people stop being so hard and judgmental on this guy, i think its just something he has to handle on his own

springisintheair · 05-10-2008, 05:16 PM

It's all about character - yours and hers. She's a nice person, so just show her a nice time = good character. This is something she will always remember and something you may regret at a LATER time if you choose to not demonstrate good character. Life has a way of fulfilling what goes around comes around...

anna5631 · 05-10-2008, 05:35 PM

If it were me, the guilt would ruin my whole night. I mean, is going with this prettier girl such a big deal? You can always dance with her there.

No one cares about your reputation. In a few months, you might never have to deal with these people again. And there will be lots of pretty girls when you leave high school. I think the problem is you're not letting yourself consider that you might feel really bad about doing something like that.

eva10127 · 05-10-2008, 05:40 PM

I don't think it's nice to dump someone like that. If you choose to do so then you'll get a slap across the face.....or maybe even worse situations can come........so do it at your own risk.

APOL · 05-10-2008, 05:51 PM

It sounds like you may have been attracted to her, and now don't feel the same way....in any case, if you want to go to the dance then you should create ways to go with her and still have fun. After all-it's your Senior Prom-"the last time" to spend time with all your friends. Why not change the way you attend, by including some of your other friends and go together. That way its a group activity, and both of you will more likely dance with others.