When you child is meeting with or getting a sample lesson from a prospective professor that they later want to audition with and the professor asks "what other schools are you looking at"? Are you supposed to tell them some other schools, is it good to let them know who they are in competition with? Should you then say that the person you are speaking to is your first choice? Isn't this a bit like a poker game--letting them know who the competition is but still letting them think you want to study with them so you aren't turned down. So far my D is looking at large state public universities (not conservatories) and both professors she met pressed her to say where else she was auditioning and one professor really wanted to know how serious she was about *his* school vs. the others.
Along the same lines, if you know you child needs to audition at a few places (backup, in case of being turned down at 1st or 2nd choice) is it ever appropriate to ask one of these professors what other places she should consider since she can't afford to put all her eggs in one basket? One professor told her "I'll take 2 students for my studio next year and right now at this music academy there are 6 of you who are interested."
D's instrument is very competitive, so it's not like we have professors chasing after a double-reed student.
Gee, life seemed simpler when I thought a kid with great grades and test scores could just apply whereever they wanted and get in!