tiffw

We are awaiting the first round of decisions from a couple of my daughter's auditions. Of course, this sounds so pessimistic, but odds are that we all will be receiving at least one rejection, if not more during this process.

I've noticed that the topic that has had the MOST views on this entire Musical Theater board was last year's Rejection thread. In reading through some of it, it appears that it was very helpful, and somewhat therapeutic for all who posted. Is it too morbid to suggest that we start a new one for this year's round? If so, that's fine -- I just wonder if it might be a helpful place to share and get support when those unwanted letters arrive. Moderators? Anyone?

flhope

I think that having a "rejections" list is useful if for no other reason than to provide some balance to CC posts. When I first started reading CC's MT threads last year, I got the impression that more often than not, kids got into at least one of the schools they were pursuing. Now that we're in the midst of this process, I'm nowhere near as confident that that will be the case. It's probably just human nature that those who succeed in the audition process continue to post and those students who don't get into schools, or those parents whose kids don't, kind of just fade away from this site.

Anyway, our daughter received her first rejection letter - from Indiana U. - earlier this week.

jasmom

Indiana U (1)

jasmom

And condolences, flh, it hurts so to see "our babies" disappointed. Better days to come!

freedom_fri911

I gues if we're starting this thread, I'll throw out my rejections:

Point Park and Elon

MTDad777

We got our rejection letter from University of Cincinnati (CCM). They had 822 audition and I estimate there were 650 girls (that number may be higher), I heard they were taken 24. Given that number if they take 12 girls and 12 boys that means that 98.5 percent of the girls were rejected. Now if you went to the doctor and they told you that you had a 1 1/2 percent chance of living, what would you think? What a waste of 100.00 for the application fee. I just hope that the parents reading this understand that the shear numbers will more than likely eliminate them. If your child is not the absolute best in their large superior high school program then between this school, U of Michigan and Carnegie Mellon you have better odds of hitting the trifecta at the race track. God bless and good luck to all.

tiffw

After I posted the first message on this thread, I watched as the number of views on this reached well over 150 without any bites. It looked like it was going to be the ugly stepsister topic that we all would rather avoid.

So I really want to commend those of you who are brave enough to share your disappointments. There's no question that no one wants to get those unwanted letters, but the reality is that most everyone will be a part of this club by the end. I'm not even the applicant, but I am pretty darn emotionally-invested in my daughter's dreams, just like so many of you! I guess that I hope there's somewhere that I can come and express my disappointments as well as a place for the great news we all hope for!

A big hats off to EVERYONE for WHATEVER your news is -- you are all to be commended for pursuing something that's certainly fabulous, but oh-so-challenging at the same time. Thank you for sharing this roller-coaster ride with us!

iacboi

I have been rejected at Indiana and University of Oklahoma.

Sporti2005

I haven't posted or really read CC in a long time, but another poster told me that this thread was here and I thought I'd let everyone know that if anyone (or their kids!) needs to talk to anyone who has been through a whole bunch of BFA - MT auditions/rejections/acceptance/waitlist and is now very happy with their situation, I would be glad to answer PMs. I never would've thought that I would be happy where I am now, but I am. And I KNOW how hard it is to get all those rejection letters and not know what to do.

Best of luck to everyone with the audition season, and let me know if I can help.

NewbieMTMom

Well here goes ... it was a difficult week with 2 rejections within days of each other. Indiana mid-week and most awful, the onsite cut at Penn State yesterday. That's not to mention my D's first rejection letter from Elon in December.

So I think we're ahead of everyone with 3 in hand. Now you know why I started the thread on parental stress. I'm desperately seeking the silver lining but I know it's not for this particular thread.

CAST MOM

My d got a rejection letter from Indiana U...she didn't feel like it was a good fit and sort of rejected them in her heart before she got the letter so it didn't have the sting that another one might have had. She got rejected (rather rudely, I might add) at the Chicago Unifieds by Oklahoma University. We are still holding out for hope though that one of the 11 schools she auditioned for will come through.

AZKMom

Baldwin-Wallace rejection in the fall.

musicmom1215

Just for clarification, Oklahoma University and Oklahoma CITY University are not the same thing. I believe OCU does their auditions on campus and the rejection comes in a very courteous letter! My D and I visited OU in Norman on the same trip as we did OCU the summer before her senior high school year, and she marked OU off her list completely after that visit because it was not a warm and fuzzy experience. I think they have a new MT director now, but apparently they still need to work on customer service.

Wishing good thoughts for all of you sharing your rejections on this thread. It will all work out in the end. Just ask Sporti!

petrels

Hi all. On a positive note, does an acceptance letter from a music department come in letter form or is it in the big envelope like the general college acceptance is? Isn't it amazing how stressful opening the mailbox can be this time of year?

MomOfAPrincess

D got rejected from U of Mich and then about a week later from CCM. It reminds me of that old joke "I've been thrown out of the best places in town". Traveling around and sitting outside audition rooms has really been an experience. But I know it doesn't even come close to what she has to go through inside those rooms. I'm so proud of her - she did 4 auditions in 2 days in NYC with a 100.4 temperature with an illness that had me wanting to just not move in bed.

I asked her about the rejections and how she felt. Her reply was she didn't have time to mentally deal with them now. She had to stay up and concentrate on the remaining auditions. This whole business seems to be audition after audition followed by some disappointments when you didn't get the role you wanted. In a way, it's just more of the same and a part of the world they have chosen to live in. If you can't deal with it, it would be a brutal career to choose.

I think one thing that has helped her deal has been my realistic viewpoint of the entire situation. I've never told her "yes darling you are the most talented girl in the world and you will surely get in somewhere". She does ask from time to time if I think she will and I always point out that the odds are against it. Not only are the odds against it but even if you are extremely talented they might be looking for a different type for their ensemble. BUT, the only fact that is for sure is if you don't audition and don't try you can't get in.

And I absolutely believe that we are lead down the path we are suppose to be on. So I can relate to what Sport said. If she had been accepted to U Mich or CCM she wouldn't be where she is suppose to be. It's a faith in the perfectness of life always working out right. Just sitting here waiting till March or April to find out where that place is. I'll miss the fun trips and time together but yes also glad it's only weeks left till it's over.

No matter what happens we have had a tour of the US and locales that wouldn't have been on my top 10 list and it's been an adventure. It seems like this is a time of year when mostly you hear of rejections since at least for where she auditioned we aren't expecting decisions till next month.