I am already a member of the CC community, but I have created a separate account for this thread for an understandable reason.
I have just been diagnosed with advanced stage cancer. Last ten days was a lot of fun - transformation from a picture of perfect health to a pretty scary place. I will go in for a major surgery tomorrow (Monday). Though the published stats are pretty grim for this cancer discovered at this stage, I have a reason to be very optimistic about my prognosis, not because of ignorance, denial and delusion, but based on some rational interpretation of the statistics that went into to the published odds of survival and what not.
The first thought that occurred to me when I learned this is how to help my kids.
I have two kids: a college sophomore and a HS senior, who just got an ED acceptance from his #1 choice school and a full ride merit scholarship (yay!!!)
I have already visited the GC of the second kid and let her know what's going on. The S2 needs to maintain good GPA for the rest of the senior year (as part of the condition for the full ride merit scholarship he got). I figured his GC should on top of his case, and intervene if necessary at a first sign, given what's going on.
As much as it is highly suboptimal that S2's final HS year, that should be otherwise carefree and happy, will involve watching his mother go through a whole lot of medical issues, at least he will be around with familiar faces and support network.
For the S1, this may be tougher: he will be far away at a school that he needs to fly from/to home. I am planning to do some research as soon as I can to see what resources are available at his school for counseling or support groups etc. For that, I am planning to enter a separate post on the forum of that college. It's good thing that he is a "talking type". that will help.
I cannot be the only one who is in this situation. I would like to get some advice from other parents regarding what to look for in terms of the effect of all this on my kids. Obviously, I have never dealt with a situation like this. I would welcome any advice, observation, and insight on the reaction from the teenagers. I know all kids are different, but still, some collective advice will be helpful.
P.S. If I don't come back to immediately respond to your replies, don't think I am a troll (I have seen posters who say "the OP started this thread, and never came back. this is a troll). You can all imagine I may be out of touch for a while. But, I will gratefully read every post you enter as soon as I can - it just may take for a while.
(Ha! There are some silver linings here also
. Things are going so well for my two kids, I have always been very careful not to brag too much. Now, I think I have a free pass. People will feel so sheepishly fortunate compared with me, they will think "oh, the poor thing. She needs to talk about SOME good things in her life!) See, I am an optimist, trying to see the upside of all this.....