I need perspectives from those of you coping with very long driving commutes. I am exploring a job opportunity that is 60 miles from my home, about 70 minutes drive.
The good: its a reverse commute (going out of the city) and its mostly a straight-shot drive on an interstate. And the job itself is in many ways exactly the right next step for me. The bad: we currently only have one car, so would probably need to get a second and more fuel efficient vehicle; and winter driving conditions where I live can be brutal. The ugly: gas prices; the need to hire a dog-walker, since I couldnt possibly come home to walk the furry ones at lunch (as I could do when I worked 6 blocks from my house); and the opportunity cost of 3 hours spent commuting every day.
Ive had long commutes before, but nothing quite like this (and I was much younger then LOL). For ten years, I did the Northern NJ commute into Manhattan (often using 3 different modes of transport, at least 90 minutes each way). Then for three years, I had a 30 mile, 45-minute driving commute when we lived in a rural area and I worked in the nearest small city.
I am really hoping that my next job will be one where I can settle and stay and sink my teeth into challenging work for the next 3-5 years, and at that point Ill be thinking about retiring. This potential position is in my field (they are few and far between where I live) is a good match for my skills and background, and is very appealing. But am I going to regret burdening myself with a commute like this?
My H thinks I should be choosy, take my time and make sure any job I take fits into our lifestyle and doesnt add stress and complication to my (and our) life. Im lucky to have that choice and his support for whatever I want to do. Im not ready to go out to pasture quite yet; I have been doing some consulting and freelance work, and in many ways that really suits me, but I think Im too lazy to aggressively seek clients.
So Id love to hear stories anyone would like to share .