Thinking about my own parents, and then about my kids, I'm wondering if the tendency to be nurturing is somewhat inherited. My mom was never the "mothering" kind, although she dotes on her dog, or whatever animal she happens to have at the time. I won't go into the details here about her tendency to let her kids raise themselves, but I'm wondering how much of this trait is inherited, and how much might be a product of the times. It was sort of a, "kids should be seen and not heard" era. Think "Mad Men." On the other hand, I had friends whose parents were very involved- even in the 50s and 60s.
As a young child, I felt that I missed something. I remember that spending time with my mom was limited, and special. As a teenager, however, I was glad she wasn't around. I was a cheer/song leader at my high school, and my mom never went to a game in two years to see us perform- but then she didn't criticize me, either, which I also appreciated.
Looking at my own kids, I see differences in how they might be with their children. Son will definitely be involved. I'm not so sure about Dd (27) if she chooses to have children, and she says she probably won't, which makes me a little sad. Funny thing is, she is great with kids and they love her. But she doesn't think she is wants to be a parent. She says they take too much energy, and she says she's too self-centered. Thinking about my mom, maybe she's right. But then, I turned out ok, even without the hovering our kids get today.
How do your kids feel about being a parent? Do you talk about it, and do you think their inclinations are inherited, or something that the times we live in influence them to a great degree? Curious.