Just got an invite from late brother's widow to their oldest son's 16th birthday party.
We haven't been invited to the kids' parties for at least the last three years, so this comes as a big surprise.
I know she has a new, serious boyfriend, and I can tell from the evite that he will be attending.
I really don't like going to their parties, as everyone drinks, and it is a totally different crowd than we grew up with.
I'm torn whether I should go for the boys' sake, though, to let him know we are still there for him. Since he's turning 16, he may realize that we were invited and chose not to attend.
The invite also indicates there will be a special surprise. I'm guessing it's either an engagement announcement or a new car for the boy, both of which will be upsetting for us.
Would love some insight on this, advice.
I just feel weird about showing up at a party after not being in his life for the last three years, but worry that he would hold a grudge if we did not come after finally being invited.
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