Say it here cause yo can't say it directly- the get it off your chest thread

[mootmom]

(Sorry for the aside: dmd77, he'll be at Fairleigh Dickinson in Madison, NJ. Apparently everyone in California believes it is "Farley" Dickinson, sigh. Yes, let the venting continue!)

[astrophysicsmom]

And the correct pronounciation is???? p.s. I still don't get how to say Bowdouin, either (did I even spell it correctly?)

[dmd77]

It's
Fairly Dickinson (or as we called in at my high school (in PA) Fairly Ridiculous)
and
Bowdin (as in bow-tie and a loud noise)

Fairleigh Dickinson is a great school!

[nacnlmom]

I remember seeing this thread and there is something that I had to write, before the end of the year, and what a great day to (mothers day!)

To the soccer coach at HS. S1 was very passionate about both soccer and baseball, he always was and always would have been if not for you. You never accepted him being on both the HS's soccer team and baseball team, even though he made great commitments to both, so you forced him to choose. S, loved playing soccer but he loved playing baseball even more. So he quit. When his twin sisters came into the school and tried out for the soccer team you gave them the hardest time, pointed out every flaw and rubbed it into their faces. You didn't put them on the team and instead gave the spot to a kid who openly admitted he had no interest in soccer, had no motivation, and no enthusiasm. My S has thankfully moved past this and as a rising senior has had amazing accomplishments as captain of the baseball team and would have put just as much into the soccer team had you not cornered him hoping he'd quit baseball. My daughters are also doing great and since have also acheived much on the baseball and swimming team. My two other kids in a few years will be at this HS and thank god that they don't like soccer.

Happy Mother's day!

[VeryHappy]

I just re-read a lot of this thread (trying to figure out where I last left off) and I'm seeing a theme here: We're p*ssed at all the people who tried to "box" our kids, to pre-judge them, to decide early on, before they had become real people, what they were, Either because of how they actually were in kindergarten, or because of how their older sibs were, or because of something else. When our kids turned out to belie those expectations, it's makes us pleased with our kids -- but also angry as h*ll with those adults who tried to "box" our kids.

Well, that's probably not particularly profound; it just seemd to be a recurring theme here.

[nacnlmom]

I noticed it was a theme in some of the posts. But other than this soccer coach, I have had a great experience with the kids teachers since my kids shared some of the same teachers. (All 5 had the same English teacher for 6th grade) and I still keep in touch with them and they love to hear how the kids are doing. I did understand how this soccer coach would have wanted S1 to dedicate himself to one sport, but he was able to be commited to both sports and was at all the practices, games, etc. And then he took it out on my daughters, which bothered me for a while. I talked to some other moms and this is not the first time he has done something of this nature.

I for one am just glad its behind me! Happy Mother's Day (again)!

[bluealien01]

Dear world,

It's not funny to reject gifts to someone's face (among other problems I have with the living). Parents, please raise your kids to understand this. Make sure they raise your grandkids to understand this so the tradition of appropriate behavior continues.

Happy day!!
Dead people (I work with remains, yes), on the other hand, are awesome; they don't hurt your feelings.

[Mawrter]

In no particular order, and some of these may be out of date:
To an un-named Bay Area public school: You offer honors, etc. everything for math and science. English honors wouldn't be that hard, either. But then again, everyone thinks their child is brilliant in everything, so you might actually have to *gasp* reject people. And why are the social clubs still allowed to exist on campus? Sure they're disallowed, but not really.
To random West Coast non-academics: please don't look at me like I'm nuts just because you cannot pronounce my undergrad college name.
To Columbia grad admissions: what's with the patronizing rejection letter? Never mind I was already in the top-ranked program in the country, I didn't need to hear that this rejection was going to greatly distress me.

This is a good finals-week activity!

[mathmom]

Darling, if I put a Mother's Day ad for cell phones inside your lap top a week before the date, it's probably a HINT.

[cameliasinensis]

Mom and Dad,

I don't think it's entirely fair that you expect me to apply for summer jobs from across the Atlantic when I've never even been to Geneva, or entirely rational that you apparently expect that someone there will hire me out of charity (mom, I'm sorry, but I refuse to prostitute myself on your work mailing list begging for any work that anyone will give me). It isn't my fault that my US work authorization card expired and you waited until last week to find out how to renew it, an arduous process that's too late to start now, when I've reminded you repeatedly for the past half a year. How do you expect me to put myself through college-- with your generous gift of one-third of our $22,000 family contribution-- when there is apparently no way for me to find employment?

Regards,
Your frustrated, bewildered, and broke daughter

[drb]

Seeing the soccer post above inspires this post. Thank you to D's HS coach, who made her varsity season the worst sports experience of her life. You were a no-class act all the way - even the last game of the season, when you did not play several seniors, despite the fact the game was not close (fortunately D got a few minutes). Guess what - kids get better when they get a chance to play. D sucked it up, had a great indoor season, and is having a fun spring season. She loves the sport despite you, not because of you - and that is wrong. You think you get to make your judgments on player's merit? Then you should be judged similarly - and 3-11-1 should have meant sayonara - our HS girls deserve better. Now I hear you are not coming back - good riddance.

wow, that felt good.

[ja189386]

Dear Sister,

Once again, I kept my mouth shut yesterday to keep the peace in the family. I am thrilled for your daughter's accomplishments. She is planning to follow her passion and hopefully will be happy and successful. I do not look down on her because she did not choose to go to college right after high school. I love my niece and want only the best for her. Now why can't you feel that way about MY daughter??? These two girls were once as close as sisters. Why didn't any of you care enough to even ask which college she chose? Are you really that jealous, or just insensitive? I'm tired of not speaking of her accomplishments for fear of setting you into yet another snit.
I tired of your judgmental looks and comments. I'm tired of you making D feel uncomfortable. Grow up and get over it! I'm done being quiet!

That felt good...

[tanyanubin]

Ugh! I need to vent!
To my mother in law: You have treated my husband as a second-class member of your family since his birth. When I had my second child, you advised me to treat her as a thing, saying "Ewww, yucky baby" to prevent my firstborn from feeling jealous in some misguided and twisted mothering philosophy. You did this to him all of his life, and continue to do it. This weird and hurtful attitude extends to me and my children. Yesterday on Mother's day, you opened my husband's thoughtful gift to you (a double silver picture frame engraved with a sentimental inside-joke message, containing pictures of you and your children from the 60's that we had painstakingly restored), said nothing for a few moments, then said "I look ugly in this...Too bad I have nowhere to put it." Following an uncomfortable silence, you put his present down and opened your firstborn's...as usual you thanked her generously and complimented the gift. I've had it with you and your unholy family dynamics. The whole crew is so skewed that I just sit there trying to smile, not knowing what to say in case I **** someone off. So do my kids. I've been doing this for 23 years to keep the peace. You are a wicked and mean-spirited woman, and you have begat a wrathful ***** of a daughter who thinks the world revolves around her. Golly, wonder why?

[bluealien01]

ahhhh, another person who dealt with a rejected gift. thank you tanyanubin, i feel not so alone now.

[stargazer123]

Sorry folks, but for those of you who gloat when someone else's child gets rejected, you guys are mean. For those of you who cannot be happy when someone else's child got in to a top college and your child didn't, you people are petty.