Say it here cause yo can't say it directly- the get it off your chest thread

[jessetfan]

I told you about my new boyfriend as a courtesy not so you could judge him or give me the third degree. I haven't talked to you in a couple of months so how in the world do you think you know what is best for me? I figured you would rather hear about him from me than from another family member, I thought it would make you feel good.

I am an adult, able to make my own decisions about who I want to date. I have talked to my boyfriend more than I have talked to you since the last time I saw you. I don't think you have any idea about what is best for me, and just because my relationship may seem unconventional to you and maybe to everyone else doesn't mean that you get to judge it. I don't know if I even want you to meet him; I want to be able to deal with the dating without getting my crazy family involved at least for now.

I don't think the age difference is weird, I don't think his personal life is weird, I think we're very similar in a lot of ways, and I'm glad to have him in my life. Does that mean I think the relationship is going to be perfect? No, but I do think I'm lucky to have someone so special in my life. So be happy for me because I found someone who is considerate and respectful rather than judging him. Being judgmental is just going to make me push further away from you, not make me want to tell you more about the special person in my life. If I can't explain it to you in a way that makes sense than fine, you don't understand, but you don't need to think that the guy I'm dating is weird because his history doesn't match your expectations and because we're vastly different in age. We care about each other and we want to see if that can be enough to make a relationship work in a way that it should, I'm not going to share every detail of that relationship with you because we barely talk any more. I realize that you think for some reason that you should look out for me, but I've been on my own for a while now, and I don't need to be taken care of. If you want to actually help me just be happy about the good things in my life, don't downplay them just because you've made different decisions. I'm not you, and I have no desire to be, I like who I am and the decisions that I have made in my life, if you don't then tough luck.

[mootmom]

You three were employed by my father as care aides while he and my mother were still alive. He paid you well and gave you holiday bonuses, and you were all thoughtful and caring people. When my brother and I got to a point in settling Dad's affairs a few weeks ago, we decided it would be appropriate to send you each some money, in a thank-you card, as additional thanks for the care you provided our parents. We see from the bank statement that you've all cashed the checks we sent.

Couldn't even ONE of you have acknowledged the gift?

[citygirlsmom]

Dear Husband..the car is dead, it can not be revived, well almost dead...and one scary thing to drive...and you worry that your D is driving on the freeway in that beast...so please please please don't put any more money into it...it is dangerous and if your D gets hurt you will be sorry you were penny wise and pound foolish

let it go....and we can afford a decent used car...please please please.

[hamtaro fan]

Stop blocking the hallways when you're making out with your boyfriend and stop talking about him incessantly. I don't care. You two just started going out in the middle of this school year -- you're talking about getting married? Seriously, I have lost all respect for you over this, you're clearly in over your head. And frankly, I hope you realize that you're an idiot for deciding to follow him to an urban university with an unsafe repuation just because "(name) will never let anything happen to me". I can't wait to see the two of you broken up by Thanksgiving.

[aibarr]

Don't talk on your cell phone to your friends while you're in the bathroom stall next to me! Gross!

[BengalMom]

I'm still hurt that you left us. I still miss you every single day, and it's been 11 years as of last Friday. Why did you have to go? Why didn't you call an ambulance that night when you couldn't move well? It still seems so unfair that my 2 kids, the only grandkids on either side of the family, had to lose both grandmas within 2 months.
You know I talk to you often, and it's comforting to know you are still around us, but it just never seems to be quite enough. I am very grateful for the years we did have -- in that time you were more of a mom to me than my own ever was. One of the best things I got when I married was an amazing new family. Thank you, Mom, for the love and the memories. I will see you again. I love you.

[zoosermom]

When you say something, it's meaningless to claim afterward that you didn't mean it, because you can't unsay it and the words you chose will always be between us.

[mom60]

To my son- I pay for a cellphone so we can talk with you. When you see we have called 5 times in one day trying to reach you maybe it might be important. Try calling back. And it would not hurt to at least once in awhile check your voice mail!

[NorthEastMom2]

Today you had to stay at the school an extra 2 hours because you did not have your cell phone - I could not coordinate pick up with you.

I don't mind the additional $ 10 for the family plan cell phone - but when you "forget" it all the time because you're sooo busy I view it as an indicator that you do not value what you have.

From now on, when you call from your friends' phones (I recognize all the numbers !) I will not answer.

[Grande Antilles]

I ‘m not a mom but I will post here because I am naturally a direct person but I have been hurting people with my frankness. So I am trying to be nice and ignore them


-To the drunkies that I met ( specially underage) : Stop bragging that you got drunk. In my country, there’s no legal age for drinking. I drink whenever I want. I learnt to drink responsibly with my family, because I did not have to hide to do so and even if there was some law, I would have wait like I do it when I am in the US. Hence, you do not impress me because you are not cool at all when you are drunk and you don’t impress me for breaking the law because where I am from, there is no law.

-To the losers who think that everyone should do like them: Stop telling me to get a friend. Don’t you understand that I just don’t want to be in a relationship now? Let me be the way I want. I don’t have to follow the crowd. I am not gay, I am not weird, I just don’t believe in this kind of love so stop annoying me. I have my priorities in life and having a …. Is not one of them.

-To some people who were in my freshman seminar class: If I wanted to know your whole relationship history, I would have major in psychology and listen to your boring love adventures blah, blah, blah. So if you could register for this class again, I would advise you to register at the counselor’s office instead.

-To the three of you: I want to kick you for telling me that I would be happy there. It is not that bad, the people are nice but two of you are just liars. You have never been there and you never knew that they were not ready for someone like me.

- To you: Stop complaining to me about going broke because you are spending too much money on your boyfriend because it’s none of my business.



-To whomever you are : You know that I can be abruptly frank but if I did not promise myself to be nice, I would not write those things in the forum so be careful because I might not always be nice and be ready to get them in your face at any moment.

[rrah]

Yikes!! Okay little four year old girl at the restaurant. I DO NOT look like your classmate's Grandma. Yes, technically I suppose I'm old enough to be a grandmother, but sheesh....my own children are still at home. Okay, I have a stray gray hair now and then, but I am middle aged. Most people I know my age have a full head of gray and lots more wrinkles than me!

I know it was innocent, but what a wake up call!

[TheGFG]

To D's guidance counselor:

I decided that perhaps I was spending too much time reading the advice posted by anonymous people here on CC, good as it often is. I had convinced myself that I had to do it because there is no one at D's high school who has the wherewithal to offer her any guidance about the admissions process. But then I felt guilty. I considered that perhaps I might be rationalizing, so I called you with some specific questions. You've been doing your job for a good number of years, and you claim to be the resident "expert" on NCAA matters as well. How is it, then, that you were not able to convincingly answer one single question I asked? I wasn't asking for absolutes even--just general ideas and ballpark figures. How is it fair that you get paid to do this job, but I have to do it for you?

Well, I'm back on CC....I have to be, lol.

[mom60]

I hate the FAIR!

[Youdon'tsay]

I can't believe I forgot the baking powder!

[CountingDown]

DH, It's baking POWDER, not baking SODA!