Say it here cause yo can't say it directly- the get it off your chest thread

[Georgia30720]

To my in-laws--I know that this is your first grandchild to go off to college, and you are concerned for his future well-being. He is happy with his college choice, even if it is 7 hours away from his hometown and the grandparents he has lived close to for the past 18 years. I know you will be very displeased also with his decision to get a performing arts degree, instead of becoming an engineer, lawyer or doctor. Please just let it go and don't say anything hurtful to him, because he loves you. But he also wants to live his own life, not the one YOU necessarily want him to live.

[HarrietMWelsch]

I didn't return your phone calls. You're right. I didn't call you back because I did not want to talk to you.

There are times when I have the patience and perspective to talk to you (or be talked at by you), and there are times when I don't.

[Youdon'tsay]

You are a horrible coach. I'm glad you won't be back next year.

[A.S.A.P.]

I know it's been more than a week and I haven't called. I have no idea what I will say to you if you call me. I suppose you want me to apologize for telling you that I don't want to hear any more of your complaining and badmouthing my mother-in-law, the woman who has been another mom to me for the last 36 years. Yes, it bothers me when you say things like,"K only thinks of me as a chauffeur," or "The problem with K is that she only wants to go to the most expensive places for lunch and she knows I can't afford it," and you expect me to agree, and maybe even add some complaint of my own. But it's not true! I'm sorry that my defending her irritates you. I'm sorry that the fact that everyone enjoys her company bothers you so much that you have to tear her down with comments like, "She just won't stop talking! She's always dominating the conversation and I can't even say two words to the kids." It's all in your head, mom. And it's completely untrue that "I never take your side." I'm perfectly happy to do that when there's an injustice, but in this case, you're just trying to stir up bad feelings. I don't want to hear it anymore, and I'm sorry that telling you that made you angry to the point where we haven't spoken for a week.
But, on the other hand, it's been a very peaceful week.

[Kelowna]

Please, no more pictures of my kids!

[dmd77]

I really can't defend your behavior any more. People ask me how I can be your friend and I used to say "well, she's actually really nice" but now I feel like you're taking advantage of me, too. It is NOT okay to say you'll volunteer and then find some excuse over and over and over. It's two years now and I've seen you volunteer once. Saying you'd be there at noon and canceling at 11:30 because "I need to get the house clean" is not cool.

[owlice]

TURN DOWN YOUR STEREO! You live three houses up and on the other side of the street, and I can hear your stereo in my living room, with all the doors and windows closed, and I'm SICK OF HEARING YOUR STEREO! Yes, I'll be calling the police. Again.

How STUPID are you to do this over and over and over and over and over again?! Yes, it annoys the neighbors. It annoyed the neighbors last year, last month, last week, and yesterday. WHAT makes you think it's not going to annoy the neighbors TODAY?! Magic? Changes in the laws of physics? Your neighbors all simultaneously losing their hearing?

But we could still feel the d*** bass, and still wouldn't like it. So....

TURN DOWN YOUR STEREO!!!

And get rid of that noisy little car you race up and down the street, too!

[galoisien]

"Dear mom,

I hope you do see this one day, because then you'll be able to understand what we've kind of never managed to say in conversation, because at least when we're using a written medium, we won't be constantly interrupting each other with our own points of view.

I do love you to the fullest, and don't take this the wrong way. But when I make an observation about an action I think you should have done differently, please don't be defensive. Similarly, I realise that many of our communication breakdowns stem from my being overly defensive too. I recognise your immense sacrifices, blood and toil over the last seven years as a single mother raising two children, on some years with only $11,000 as income from child support. I am thoroughly grateful that I have managed to come this far.

But really, sometimes we argue over the pettiest of things. I don't like it anymore than you do. Just this afternoon, we had a shouting contest for five minutes about the role of a parent and the proper behaviour of a child to a parent .... that escalated from a minor disagreement from whether I should store my password for the US Immigration Services website on a slip of paper by getting a pen (your way) or by storing it on Google Documents (my way).

Seeing how much we love each other, this really shouldn't be happening. I've come to realise we both sort of have the same argumentative and debating personalities that have frequent conflict whenever they're together. Normally, our personalities have taken us places, and I've observed we've both won commendation for our essays and won prizes of distinction in debate. But it's especially bad when we're coming from different directions and neglect to take a step back and wonder if our own positions are mistaken.

Till then, I hope when you realise when I stop defending myself and surrender completely to silence after another escalated argument over the most petty of disagreements, I hope your sharp and critical mind will realise what needs to change too.

All the love,
your son."

[owlice]

You're a jerk. The current continuing time-sucking problem (mostly my time, of course, and precious little of yours) came about solely because you couldn't be bothered to do what you were supposed to do 18 months ago; it would have taken you five minutes or less to do it, and, because you didn't, we have an issue that at this point may involve attorneys and a court order, and definitely involves two offices from two different Federal agencies and a major company. This could all have been avoided. And all of this is not for the my benefit, as I suspect you are thinking, but for our son's benefit, which you would have realized if you'd taken the time to sit down, think this through, and understand it. Yes, I explained it to you once, but you shut down, as you often do. It's not complicated, but you couldn't be bothered to try to grasp it.

You still don't get it. You haven't even tried to get it.

You're a jerk. A colossal jerk. And as always, I'll be the adult, because you just don't have it in you to play that role.

[beefs]

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Okay?!

[Lafalum84]

I have no idea why you randomly chose to pick a fight with me in the car tonight. You already knew the answer to the question, so why did you ask it? And then when you tried to argue me out of it, and I answered your arguments, you threw a fit and said I always accuse you of things. I was not accusing you of anything, I was merely responding to YOUR comments. Obviously something is stressing you out and it was easier to pick a fight with me than to deal with it. You can say I don't trust you, but I'm never going to blindly approve of everything you ask to do. I do NOT think you're a bad kid, but I'd be a bad parent if I smiled and let you do whatever you wanted to without at least asking a few questions.

And do NOT ever ask me to highlight your hair again. I only did it because you asked me to, and if you don't like it, don't blame me.

[galoisien]

Dear Collegeboard:

Your "no discussion of multiple choice questions ever" rule is plain stupid and is an outright repression of intellectual freedom. One of these days I'm just hoping for a big Supreme Court case against you.

[OaksMom]

Dear Horrible Woman who thinks she can flaunt the rules whenever she pleases because her money will smooth any troubles over. When will it get thru your VERY THICK SKULL that your kids are trouble makers because you do not hold them accountable. Thanks for providing the neighborhood with the perfect example of what NOT TO DO. Your kids get booted from sports teams because of bad sportsmanship and disregard for adult authority, kicked out of summer camp because they steal from other campers and you have kids who cheat, get caught and have Mommy bail them out. Your kids are not yet teenagers and you have set them up to become the university (name of school you are going to buy their way into here) drug dealers of the future...you'll bail them out then too...won't you?

[rrah]

What the heck? This was on page three!

Can you NOT read??? No wonder you're being sued. What must be done is spelled out in black and white. You can't make up your own rules when it suits you. You are a real *** I hope you lose your license.

[TheGFG]

To all teenagers and young adults out there:

Your parents are not stupid. Once upon a time, we moms and dads also came home from high school and college and decided were knew more, and were more intelligent than our folks. However, let me warn you to be prepared. Something odd happens when you grow up. In all the business of being a responsible adult, earning a living, and caring for children, there just isn't the same amount of time to spend bettering ourselves like you're doing right now. And all the adult information we need to keep on tap has pushed some of the rest of our knowledge to the background of our brains. I know the family's sports schedule by heart, but forgot the name of capital of Myanmar. I'm sorry. The fact that we can't remember the plot of The Grapes of Wrath or how to do calculus does not mean we are ignorant clods. Be kind to us.