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Say it here cause you can't say it directly- the get it off your chest thread

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Replies to: Say it here cause you can't say it directly- the get it off your chest thread

  • MotherOfTwoMotherOfTwo Registered User Posts: 2,110 Senior Member
    To a relative who gave up an excellent professional career when she had kids, and criticized me for working professionally when my kids were young, saying that she and her husband would never put their kids in daycare. After staying home for 12 years, she could only find a very low paying job and whines at me that my kids have had "every advantage" educationally, while her family cannot afford the same opportunities for theirs.
  • lamomlamom Registered User Posts: 1,319 Senior Member
    I just tell myself-when you feel you have to compete or tell someone how much better you are-you've lost. I don't say anything, why should I? They lost at their own game.
  • cheerscheers Registered User Posts: 5,163 Senior Member
    Amen, Mof2, amen. To all: thanks for the patronizing lectures on 'spoiling' my children. I'm glad you are all so charmed by my boys. Turns out, there was method in my actions.

    Also, (warning: pet peeve to follow), while I appreciate your lectures and your disdain, I have a laugh when you leave the room. Your 'holier-than-thou' righteousness is hilariously hypocritical.
  • thumper1thumper1 Registered User Posts: 63,043 Senior Member
    MotherOfTwo...yours made me think of another one...to the relative who was too poor to exchange Christmas presents. "If money is so tight, why aren't both of you working?" (btw...both kids were in college...).
  • parabellaparabella Registered User Posts: 533 Member
    How could you give a "sportsmanship" award to the racist, homophobic, generally bigoted and disliked by a majority of his teammates senior, suspended for most of his last soccer season because of drinking and academic probation? I don't care that the football team won the state championship and he was one of the star players, you could have found a better candidate.
  • MotherOfTwoMotherOfTwo Registered User Posts: 2,110 Senior Member
    This happened a while ago, but - "To the ignorant teachers and administrators at our high school who did not bother to find out how to pronounce the students' names they read at graduation or the senior awards ceremony. None of the names are at all terribly difficult, and it must be humiliating for a parent from a non-Western country (e.g. India) whose name is easily pronounced just by reading the syllables phonetically to hear their name garbled as if it were written in hieroglyphics or something while their kid is being recognized for his achievements. Oh yes, I also must add that they must not read CC, because they also mispronounce the names of well known colleges. For example Middlebury became Middleberg, etc."
  • mardadmardad Registered User Posts: 1,120 Senior Member
    To a relative: "I know that in your heart-of-hearts you believe my wife and I are incompetent parents, as are all of your siblings, and our children as well as the chilidren of your siblings are just waiting for their parents' incompetence to be exposed so that you can step in and rescue them, but please don't keep telling us about what good parents anyone who is not related to you are. The children of your siblings are in college, graduate school and medical school and we don't want to make them insecure. And No! I will not carry that bulky graduation gift across a large field at commencement to the child of someone you know only socially when you could drop it off at his house. I don't want to carry it. He doesn't want to cart it around. I know you want him to remember you, but this is not the way to do it. Praise your relatives and quit trying to buy the favor of outsiders."
  • MarianMarian Registered User Posts: 12,484 Senior Member
    To the ignorant teachers and administrators at our high school who did not bother to find out how to pronounce the students' names they read at graduation or the senior awards ceremony. None of the names are at all terribly difficult, and it must be humiliating for a parent from a non-Western country (e.g. India) whose name is easily pronounced just by reading the syllables phonetically to hear their name garbled as if it were written in hieroglyphics or something while their kid is being recognized for his achievements.

    This happened to my daughter at the elementary school awards program, and she has an ordinary German/Jewish last name. She was called up multiple times, and the principal mispronounced her name every time. It got to the point where the entire fifth grade was calling out the correct pronunciation every time the principal got it wrong.
  • MotherOfTwoMotherOfTwo Registered User Posts: 2,110 Senior Member
    A similar thing actually happened to my daughter at the senior awards ceremony for 12th grade, but I didn't include it in my gripe above. The assistant principal first recognized her by announcing the name of another girl with the same last name who graduated three years earlier. She was a terrible student and her brother had been arrested for vandalizing our school. Then, when the other kids called out my daughter's name to correct him, he messed it up (similar to saying "Christa" instead of "Christine"). Then, realizing he was still messed up, he said, "Let's just call her 'C. Smith' !" (This is not her real name, but you get the idea.) The administrator announcing the next group of awards was so horrified that he made a point of recognizing my daughter using her correct name and making her stand up again. She took a lot of teasing from her friends and parents of her friends for that one!
  • marlenemarlene Registered User Posts: 205 Junior Member
    I realize the private school/parochial school/day academy/well funded suburban school your children attend produces high test scores and even higher college acceptance rates. The urban public school my children attend cannot compare. Fifty percent of its students are from poverty level families. Sixty percent of its students are minorities. And its drop out rate is too high.

    But its teaching staff is just as dedicated and there are sufficient numbers of honors and AP classes.

    More importantly, my children have the ready compassion and ease with those of other backgrounds that life in an urban public school can teach. And that is more important to me than all the bragging rights your school provides.
  • billsbillsbillsbillsbillsbills Registered User Posts: 142 Junior Member
    Wow I've been holding this in for 2 years!
    To my brother-in-law and by extension to my sister
    Yeah yeah yeah we have known since birth that your oldest is Sam Superior. He hasn?t set a foot wrong except for that 5 minutes when he was 14, had a zit and was grouchy. I?m well aware that you make more money than we do and your 4 children have thrived at their various private schools while our DD was in public schools. We know that Sam has so many wonderful offers with full rides to the most marvelous colleges. But I swear to the heavens if I hear one more snide comment about lowly state schools or the fact that we only have to pay one tuition, I will have to be restrained. Yes our DD is bright but not brilliant like her cousin. Yes, we make less than you do and we are stretched to the limit paying for her OOS tuition. And yes we would have been overjoyed for her to have siblings but it didn?t happen. But guess what! Our DD chose her school. She is as happy as can be there and we?re thrilled for her. SO SHUT THE EFF UP!! And by the way, we all did a little jump for joy when Sam didn?t get into any Ivies?.
  • MarianMarian Registered User Posts: 12,484 Senior Member
    Some of you will not like this one.

    To certain Asian parents: For years, you've been trying to discourage your kid from associating with my kid -- just because she isn't Asian and therefore you could never be sure whether she was serious about academics. Well, guess what? She got into an academic magnet program, just like your kid. She has an A average, just like your kid. She's a National Merit Finalist, just like your kid. And she's going to a top college, just like your kid. If you had ever looked at her as an individual, you would have realized that she wasn't going to corrupt your kid by setting an example of academic sloth; she has always been your kid's academic peer. But you could never see beyond the green eyes and the brown hair.
  • NJresNJres Registered User Posts: 5,849 Senior Member
    OH MY GOD YOU ARE SO FREAKING ANNOYING!!!!!

    ok honey, I'm coming to bed now! :D
  • kayakmomkayakmom Registered User Posts: 566 Member
    to the teachers who said academic 'doors are closed' to my son when he was 10. why don't you just look at him now!!
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