kitkat82

I honestly believe one of the biggest things we can teach our kids is to fail with grace. Not being accepted at a college is a great lesson for them - and in most cases there are other options or other opportunities out there for them where they can thrive and succeed.. Our kids are all mega-overachievers, and obviously we are all too (hehehehe) or else we wouldn't be here and they will do great!

DeniseC

Mythmom - I read your last line as "Thanks for letting me wait on you"

OK, major analysis paralysis here. Could daughter give us a hint of her rankings in case she hears and we need to make a trip? She has heard acceptances from 4; waiting on three veryveryvery slow non ivies. Oh and spring break starts tomorrow but we probably won't hear from those 3 schools until mid next week, guess we can't visit them for spring break, should make other spring break plans. She does have siblings. Should go away for a break. HOW WILL WE CHECK AND KICK MAILBOX IF WE ARE AWAY? Totally forgot about older siblings spring break plans until he called the other night and asked for a ride home from the train station. (his plans WERE vague)

sniffs around for a 3rd (or 4th?) biscotti

timely

We are really done, but I'm having trouble letting it go. S has an acceptance to the film school at Chapman, and he is delighted about it. Only USC is still out there. He did not get into USC's film school. An advisor told him that on the phone. But, he might still get accepted there as general studies. He is perfectly fine with that. He thought it would be great to go to USC's film school of course, but he also thought Chapman would be great. He is on board with Chapman all the way. He has an ROTC scholarship to attend there. He'd almost surely be offered an ROTC scholarship at USC if he were accepted, too.

But I keep thinking, "USC is such a great school! Even if he's general studies, he could minor in film or try to transfer in (about as impossible as getting accepted in the first place). He would have such a great college experience there! Chapman is small; it wouldn't be as much fun. He just cannot rule out USC if he's accepted there in general studies!!!"

It's like I'm giving myself an excuse to obsess about waiting for the USC envelope. In mid-April we are planning a trip to California to visit Chapman, and I made sure to allow enough time there to visit USC if it's still in the picture. It's really stupid, and I don't know why I'm doing it.

mythmom

Some schools will understand your plight and give results if you are away. And you can check in via computer anywhere you go.

Make a mailbox effigy and stick pins in it.

Sorry about Spring break. You'd think colleges would be a bit more sensible. It's hard to understand sometimes what takes these tiny LAC's so long. S's final decisions came in last year on 3/31!

BunsenBurner

Scripps is actually giving out their results by phone to all applicants! Yikes! D would not call. She thinks she is getting a thin envelope; hearing about being rejected is more painful than reading about it.

rodney

"OK, major analysis paralysis here. Could daughter give us a hint of her rankings in case she hears and we need to make a trip? "

haha...we tried to get that out of our d at least a month ago....still refuses to rank her schools (except for the ones she has already been accepted to)....me thinkin' this is all a defense mechanism and me thinkin' this was the smartest thing my daughter has ever done........

DeniseC

"me thinkin' this is all a defense mechanism and me thinkin' this was the smartest thing my daughter has ever done"

wise words





but she won't rank what she already knows

at all

mythmom

Denise: Happy to wait on you. You gals are stressed!

It all gets clear. I promise. Think about comforters. That was my strategy. And I knew S was going to SOME cold weather place (Chi or NE) so I bought super on sale pea coat, etc etc. S said he didn't need another jacket, but now he wears it every day.

So these are fun diversions. And then there's prom stuff.

kitkat82

My son is the same way - has categorically refused to categorize! LITTLE WRETCH! I still believe his first choice is Emory but I believe he is pragmatic and knows that there are other choices if a) he doesn't get in or b) gets in and gets no money which would in fact be even worse.

I have told him to plan on roadtripping the next few weekends. He says he does not need to see Emory or Clemson again (which would entail air travel) unless a coach wants him to come down. So that means the travel will be within 6 hours of home. Not sure how I will pull off the whole overtime/tax season/CPA thing but it will work, it will!

Oh yeah, PROM!

mountains

And then there is my super laid-back son who said, "I'm not concerned about the decisions. I'm actually excited to find out how I did in the 'lottery'." Lottery, indeed. I am so glad he is busy in an upcoming drama festival where he plays the lead. He is definitely not thinking college right now as he worries about his cues.

By the way, I bought the Tagalong Ice Cream last night (Edy's limited edition, but not limited calories). Didn't need it, but it's yum.

CountingDown

DeniseC,
I hear you about wanting to make plans. We are on Spring Break this week. SO are two of S's top choices. Fat lot of good that does. The other two top choices haven't made decisions yet and involve air travel. No point in springing for plane tickets without a decision, esp since S wants to return to interrogate profs and advisors once he has a 'yes' in hand.

Meanwhile, we are blowing a week that could have been productive. The attendance people are going to be miserable and snarly when we pull him out for visits.

Mac and cheese sounds good about now!

rodney

DeniseC: We kind of made a rule that forced her to rank the schools she was already admitted to: Spring Break is 4/7-4/11....we will only pay for re-visits to 3 schools that require plane rides (just to make her decide; not etched in stone!).....It got her to eliminate so she can plan to visit over the break the one far school she was already accepted to......that leaves the two that she hasn't heard from yet....If she gets in, great...If not, she has already revisited one that's far, one that's relatively near.......Sneaky on our part, but it worked...

mythmom: don't even get me started on Prom.....multiple dresses anyone? or do you all have boys????

Time for lunch......c u later.....

DeniseC

oh yeah, revisits.

My DH is totally not getting that. 'Hasn't she already seen them all?'

He stepped off the plane, took public transit, stepped onto his campus, 3000 miles from home the 1st week of classes.

acme

limner and 2blue-- now that I know the dates the decisions are being mailed (today) rather than thinking they have already ALL been mailed and somehow my son's got lost it has really helped me. Honestly, we have terrible mail service and I am always putting someone else's mail back out for the post-people to redeliver to their correct addresses. This last week, I've been agonizing that someone has my son's mis-delivered letter and just hasn't gotten around to letting the mailperson know.

CountingDown

We had one college acceptance go to the neighbor's house. Was VERY glad it was the in-state flagship and it didn't say "THIS IS A BIG FAT ENVELOPE!" or something similarly obnoxious, as we have been trying to keep very low key.