jude_36

mountains, that doesn't sound good..... We're down to three schools, and we're going to visit two next week. The third one we can't get back out to. I hope something 'clicks' pretty soon or we're going to be drawing names out of a hat!

mountains

jude_36 - It'll click - this child has always been a very careful decision maker, so I probably would have been more surprised if he has already made a choice by now ("Mom, what's the rush, it's only April 14?"). He'll get there; just not on my timeline, I guess.

mythmom - I'll take two.

bethievt

Not really how to make them, just how to drink them--slowly, with great enjoyment! My son didn't make his decision until the last minute because of late revisits--it will all work out.

mountains

bethievt - I'm encouraged. I did tell my son that he can definitely take a gap year and do something productive if he feels he needs it. That was met with a resounding NO. He told me he will decide when the time is right. I reminded him that better be before May 1! I'm off to check if we have ice cream in the freezer.

2blue

With ice cream, chocolates and drinks there should be something here to cure whatever ails us! CC has made me realize how limited my knowledge of mixed drinks is. mountains and jude, wow, those are a lot of visits! S is going to decide by tomorrow if he wants to make a third visit or stick with two.

mountains

2blue - Yes it is, and I know I'll be sick of packing, unpacking, packing (with arguments in between). And the 17-year polished off my ice cream. Can't seem to win nowadays but the tide will change - I can feel it (but then again, I've always been accused of being too positive).

Dad II

One letter + one phone call = $6000 more $$ a year. This actaully makes thing more complicated than ever. Be care what you ask for!!!

mountains

Dad II - Congratulations - but yes, the decision making is now tougher.

bethievt

Yes it is complicated, but exciting. Congratulations Dad II and your talented daughter!

Dad II

^^^ Are you implying that I am not talented???

bethievt

Ha,ha,

Dad II--you and I know you did your part in helping to produce a wonderful human being. Enjoy!

acme

mountains-- congrats on holding your own opinions aside while the child who is not on your timeline makes his decision. I think that's the hardest part for me-- not that I want to interfere with the choice-- I just want my S to go about making it the way I would, which of course is not my S's way at all...to me, the May 1 decision day (d-day?) is practically in our laps, and to him it is still in "the future"!

mountains

acme - Thank you but I still need to back off more - after all, there are still two weeks left! I have to start seeing the world through his eyes and just be patient (unfortunately, I was out shopping when God handed out this virtue). Double sigh.

bethievt

The final visits as an accepted student can bring a lot of clarity. These kids are choosing their home for the next 4 (we hope) years. Even if the visits are over, a student might need this time to let things gel. Given the build-up--the years they have spent with thoughts of college--it's a very narrow window of time to make a selection. The good thing is that their top few schools are likely to be all good fits. Another day, another deep breath.

nceph

I'm so glad other kids are heading into the second half of April without having made a decision yet. My son decided to visit his top three choices and is currently visiting the last of the three. He had pretty much narrowed his choice down to a top two but decided to visit the number three school just to make sure. After visiting, the number three school remains in the third place and has therefore been eliminated. He feels a bit guilty about that, because they've been so incredibly nice to him.

So, he's left with two final choices. The first one he visited didn't have any overnight stays available, so he felt that he didn't get a whole lot out of the day-long visit. He still likes the school a lot, but it's just hard to know if it's the right one. He's on his final visit now, and I hope I'll know tonight when I pick him up at the airport whether he has enough information to make a decision. He and I both agree that the decision will be much easier if he either loves or hates this final school. If he's generally positive about it, that will put it in a tie with his other top choice, and I don't know how he'll break the tie. There won't be a wrong answer in that case, but I'm afraid it won't be as satisfying a decision.