deepsouthmom

I am right there with you all. First child going away. He does have a couple of acceptances which is a blessing. He will be happy if he doesn't get another acceptance, but I am waiting impatiently to know what his options really are. I just want to put all the puzzle pieces together and see the picture before him. I also want to book airfare if he needs to visit etc before the time gets too short for low priced fares.

I remember before early admit several of us were have tooth pain because we were grinding our teeth from stress. Now I think I am stress eating. I need this to end soon. Too much good comfort food (fried, gravy, grits, etc) where I live. Salad is just not a comfort.

jude_36

deepsouthmom, that really hit home... I've been having aching in my teeth too, and I realized it's from clenching my jaw so tight it makes my teeth throb. I'm trying really hard to NOT do it, but it's hard because I'm not aware of it until it's too late.

owlice

:: sets a plate of brownies on the table in the Vigil Lounge ::

:: puts out clean bowls and spoons ::

Ice cream's in the freezer, folks. Good luck to all!

lindz126

just read thru all of your posts--and needed to join in--what a relief to see I am not the only addicted to CC--or the only one whose kids mock how often we are on here. (I knew I was an addict when I started to explain to my s why I needed to be on CC so often--because my d is only one year behind as a junior so I have sooo much to read..

I realized the other day that though this waiting period is stressful once all the acceptances are in we'll be really having to deal with them leaving. (stating the obvious I know) but it kind of makes me want to hold onto this moment in time when we are actually still so connected to our child, rooting for them, talking etc. reminds me of waking up to feed my crying newborn ann wishing they would sleep thru the night--then realizing that those quiet 2 a.m. feedings, rocking my baby were golden moments not to be wished away but relished--even though exhausted. thanks for all of your humanness in these posts.

DeniseC

uh, thanks, i finished the brownies, did anyone else get one?

not ready for ice cream, mail's not for 3 hours....anyone got cookies?

lindz126

will chewy chocolate chip do? definitely a time we crave comfort food--

jude_36

lindz, I think that's what makes this SOoooooo anxiety-producing... that it is so bittersweet. I've so enjoyed being a mom, and I know that's not going to end, but it IS going to be redefined. And as much as sometimes they drive me to distraction, my kids also ground me. It's going to redefine ME as much as my D and our relationship.

I just want her to go out and be happy and successful (however she decides to define that), and this waiting to see what the next phase will be is just hard. Honestly, I don't care which college she chooses, it's just the idea of her having to make such a huge decision...

So now I'm going to cry...

mystery2me

Regarding state schools, after 4 years in a boarding school where I felt like a fish out of water with my middle class sensibilities, I felt like I had found my natural environment in a state flagship which I chose only after my parents wouldn't hear of me attending my private dream school in another geographic region. Flash forward, and S is at his dream school, a top 20 private in another geographic region, after a public education in a midwestern college town and has fish out of water feelings that remind me of my high school days. Now D will be choosing between 1 (maybe 2) privates in other geographic regions that seem to fit her interests closely and 3 state flagships (2 of which are in other geographic regions and so would still fit her out of the midwest urges). I'm wondering if a state school might be a better fit for her and wondering even more if I should try to talk to her about it. (She and her brother are very different personalities, so I'm not sure it's the same for her.) I guess I'll have a lot of second-guessing until she's happily at whatever her final choice is.

rodney

"Honestly, I don't care which college she chooses, it's just the idea of her having to make such a huge decision..."

Yups, that is why I have a stash of Hershey's Dark chocolate kisses on hand......("though I've heard that dark chocolate is actually an antioxidant", she rationalizes after eating a handful....)

Consolation

re #95: Cookies, schmookies....Denise, I hate to tell you this, but I have a small business making truffles and chocolates and other confections.

Anyone want to come over?

jjcddg

everybody stop eating..... You don't have money for new clothes.... you need the money for tuition....

timely- thanks the "at least we have it better than some usually does the trick", and since my son's state school is in Bufallo (so very,very cold) I've been sharing info about their ski club. I'm definately trying to remain optomistic.

atg4ever

I have been obsessing for about a month now. Once we entered March, the time going by could not go fast enough. Funny, but my S has never really shown any anxiety at all until yesterday. I was very happy that he was not stressing the accept/reject/waitlist issue and actually had made comments that he was going to wait until all of his letters were in and have a letter opening party. That idea is now gone, he told me yesterday for the first time that he is ready to know now and whats to get it over with. He starts his spring break on Monday of next week and hates the idea that he will have to spend an additional week before he can tell his teachers.

So now I have gone from the internally stressing parent to the comforting, patient, "its all going to be alright, lets go out and do something parent. But I still lurk on all the forums for my S' applications to see if there is any word out on notifications. I keep telling myself, one more week, thats all. Then, we will know and make the necessary arrangements for visits, FA, deposits, etc.

The worse part is that my W is oblivious to all this. Maybe because there are too many other things to worry about or because she is very content with our S' EA acceptance that as far as she is concerned there is no need to look anywhere else. I expect that CC will be extremely busy over the next 7 days as most parents and many students will be using this avenue to try to relieve some of the stress (I do not see how that is possible). I know that I will be checking several times a day for anything new.

Goos luck to all students and parents. Our little ones have grown up and they are leaving the nest. Luckily, I have two more that I get to do this with all over again in the next couple of years. Of course, I will have CC to help guide and reassure me that all is OK.

owlice

Bourbon will be available at 4 PM for those who missed the brownies.

:: heads to the kitchen to wash the shot glasses ::

atg4ever

4 is a little early for me, but I'll catch you all at the end of happy hour.

My youngest D promised to make a chocolate cake this afternoon. I'll eat an extra piece for the CC parents.

bethievt

Rodney, the weasther is no excuse. I live in VT, where it's *warmed up* to a toasty 26 degrees!