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04-22-2008, 09:28 PM
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#16 | | Member
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That rule suggests that a 13-year-old girl should date guys who are no older than 12. I think there are some problems with the model at the extremes.
| Thirteen year olds should not be dating. | 
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04-22-2008, 09:29 PM
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#17 | | Member
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| JHS: Really? See, I figured it was a statistically rigorous model designed to accurately model for all ages...
Obviously, this is a rule of thumb. Works pretty well, though.  | |
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04-22-2008, 09:32 PM
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#18 | | Senior Member
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| I don't think 16 year olds should date anyone who is out of high school. Once both parties are out of high school, age difference is not so big a deal. | |
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04-22-2008, 09:46 PM
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#19 | | Senior Member
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| It really depends on the kids (both of them). I think it is totally misguided to generalize this rule. | |
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04-22-2008, 10:30 PM
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#20 | | Senior Member
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| I'll generalize - no more than a year older and still in HS. A 16 y/o HS girl dating a legal adult who's no longer in HS is asking for issues.
I don't buy the "but girls are more mature" argument. There are mature/responsible 16/17 y/o males as well and not so mature/responsible 16 y/o girls. For that matter, plenty of 18-21 y/o males (and females) aren't so mature/responsible either, depending, but at least if they're the same age give or take a year there's a better chance they're on a more even experience level. Note the inclusion of the term 'responsible'.
A 16 y/o shouldn't be dating some college (or post HS) guy or vice-versa. | |
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04-22-2008, 10:33 PM
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#21 | | Member
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| Not willing to generalize that girls are more mature than boys but willing to generalize that 1 year older and not out of HS is a hard fast rule? | |
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04-22-2008, 10:41 PM
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I personally don't find most of the immature guys my age attractive.
| My 16 yr. old daughter doesn't find guys her age so attractive either, and that's OK with me, because that means she doesn't date.
I'm with uc x 2 dad (a guy who has raised two daughters): no guys out of high school, and no guys about to graduate from high school if they are more than a year older.
Also, I would find it a bit unsettling if my college student son wanted to date a 16 yr. old girl. | |
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04-22-2008, 10:45 PM
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#23 | | Senior Member
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| I've never been in favor of generalized rules when it comes to parenting issues. Even if I wanted to, as the mom of 4 girls, I can't generalize a rule for this situation. In my experience, it truly does depend on the kid. | |
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04-22-2008, 10:45 PM
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#24 | | Junior Member
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| Size of the dad's gun collection/size of the date's eyes the dad shows him. | |
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04-22-2008, 11:02 PM
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| ^^LOL, SofO! We have no guns, but H's "german" accent and mean looks scared away many perspective BFs (they just assume there must be a gun collection somewhere). | |
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04-22-2008, 11:38 PM
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#26 | | Senior Member
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| in high school you can't date any one out of high school. | 
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04-23-2008, 12:10 AM
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#27 | | Senior Member
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in high school you can't date any one out of high school.
| so, do you break them up as soon as one of them graduates, no questions asked? | |
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04-23-2008, 12:11 AM
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#28 | | Senior Member
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| Pretty much.
actually hasn't been an issue- my girls are too busy for romance while in school.
It's not hard to arrange | |
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04-23-2008, 12:23 AM
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| I'm with EK on this one. The issue is moot - as soon as one graduates, the romance is usually over on its own. No "German" dads needed  | |
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04-23-2008, 12:23 AM
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#30 | | Member
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| I was smug too, until it happened to me. emerald, you tempt the fates. | |
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