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04-23-2008, 12:25 AM
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#31 | | Member
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| Let's see...
26/2 = 13
13+7 = 20
I guess I can only date 20 year olds??? | 
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04-23-2008, 12:27 AM
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#32 | | Senior Member
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The issue is moot - as soon as one graduates, the romance is usually over on its own.
| this definitely was not our experience... | |
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04-23-2008, 12:29 AM
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#33 | | Member
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| 16 year old girl? Up to 25. | |
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04-23-2008, 12:32 AM
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#34 | | Senior Member
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| ^ LOL, what formula are YOU using?? Why 25? Why not 23 or 27? | |
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04-23-2008, 12:32 AM
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#35 | | Member
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| Keshira, if you were my 16-yr old, my H would have beaten the cr@p out of that 25-yr old BF wannabe! Seriously. No more than 1 grade level, and no more than 1-yr in age diffrence, as our experience tells. | |
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04-23-2008, 12:47 AM
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#36 | | Senior Member
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| there could be legal ramifications if one is a legal adult.I think it is better that they both are on the same side of 18. | |
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04-23-2008, 12:58 AM
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#37 | | Member
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| EK, when it comes to sex, in our state a 16-yr old has the same say as an 18-yr old. 15-yr old - different story. D's 18-yr old BF wannabe researched this issue, and was told to stay away from her (with stern "German" accent). | |
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04-23-2008, 01:01 AM
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#38 | | Senior Member
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| I was thinking more drinking, smoking, signing papers.
D only has a month till she is 18 anyway & I have not heard her talk about boys for a long time- she does have one that she writes- but he lives 7400 miles away...for now. | |
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04-23-2008, 07:05 AM
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#39 | | Junior Member
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| zoosermom - our Ds are about the same age, and I think up to 2 years age difference is fine. In fact D's BF is two years older than she is, and they have been together for over a year now. | |
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04-23-2008, 08:03 AM
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#40 | | Senior Member
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| Zoosermom: Do you want to share the particulars of what led you to ask the question?? | |
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04-23-2008, 08:16 AM
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#41 | | Junior Member
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| as the mother of a soon to be 18y/o son and one who at 16 herself had a 20y/o BF for 4 years I can attest that it is the parents of boys who sometimes should be worried about "mature" 16 y/o girls.  | |
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04-23-2008, 08:25 AM
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#42 | | Senior Member
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| It depends on the people, but half plus seven is a decent rule of thumb.
karabear1: No, at age 26, using the rule, you could date anyone from 20 to 38 (younger than that, you're breaking the rule, older than that, they're breaking the rule  ). | |
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04-23-2008, 08:33 AM
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#43 | | Senior Member
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| When I was in high school, it was pretty common for senior boys to date 9th or 10th grade girls. Part of that dynamic was the fact that the school had been single-sex until I was in 11th grade. My class and the class below mine had a M/F ratio of about 9:1, and there were significant cultural differences between lots of the girls and the boys. The subsequent classes had many more girls, and the majority had been admitted by the school they were attending (not the merged girls' school), so they tended to be a lot more like the boys. My senior prom date was a (very mature) 15-year-old 9th grader (who was also my best friend's sister).
Anyway, I don't recall any serious long-term damage anyone suffered on account of that. I'm sure there was parental stress. But it was a close-knit community, in general, so the boys were seldom unknown quantities to the girls' parents, and vice versa. There was no question of impunity. | |
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04-23-2008, 09:12 AM
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#44 | | Member
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| I PMd the OP on this topic, but I think JHS has hit on a key point: if you live in a community where the families know each other, the moms chat at the store, and so on, there is a different sense of accountability. My kids know the mom switchboard will light up like a Christmas tree if they are seen doing anything resembling impropriety.
I could be way wrong about this (and I'm sure you'll tell me if I am), but I think the girl's family having a relationship with the boy and his family creates an atmosphere of mutual respect. I'm not saying it means "nothing will happen" but that things might move at a slower pace. The OP has not said if the families are friends, but JHS brings this up as a mitigating factor for age-difference relationships in general.
And once girls are 18 and heading off to college, I don't think mom's opinion about a 21-22 year old boyfriend is going to be solicited. | |
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04-23-2008, 09:28 AM
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#45 | | Junior Member
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| Back home, the minimum wage for the first boyfriend/date is 18. Some parents prefer when their girls start dating when they finish college. I think that a 16 year old girl should date a 17 year old boy who is in HS but not leaning toward graduation because things might fall apart once he is gone. I would prefer it, if my little sis start dating when she is older than 16. I hope that she will not date someone who is older than the older brothers or someone who could be our dad  or my parents' little brother | |
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