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04-23-2008, 09:28 AM
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#46 | | Junior Member
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| Are you talking about the Demi-Aston formula? It works for them! D was not allowed to date until 16 and no older than his closest brother (15 months older than her). Now she is 23 dating a 21 years old guy 
Older S dated a girl one day older than him, now they are married expecting their first baby (happy grandma here!  ) | 
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04-23-2008, 09:36 AM
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#47 | | Member
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| My freshman daughter is dating a senior. It entirely depends on the context and the person. There are freshman boys I wouldn't want her dating. Her boyfriend treats her well, we've known him a long time (long before they were dating) and I'm happy she's had what would now be considered an old-fashioned romance as her first relationship. Too many of her peers are having random hookups (get a text message from a boy you met a party and sneak out of the house after the parents go to bed stuff). | |
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04-23-2008, 09:38 AM
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#48 | | New Member
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| one year!
I wouldn't be comfortable with my 16yo dating anyone more than a year older than she is... and my husband is not comfortable with her dating ANYONE! ha. jk | |
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04-23-2008, 09:41 AM
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#49 | | Senior Member
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| when I was in high school, 9th graders attended school with 7th & 8th graders.
When I was a sophomore, I did go on a few dates with seniors- however, those boys were way more sexually experienced than I was & came on hard and fast- I was overwhelmed.
I think closer to their own age is better, unless as someone mentioned, it is a very small tight community & everyone knows everyone.
But in a high school of 1000 to 3000+, no . | |
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04-23-2008, 09:42 AM
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#50 | | Junior Member
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| I think JHS and riverrunner made good points about how the type of community you live in might be important when your kids start dating (no matter what the age difference). I know that I felt comfortable about D dating her BF because I had heard so many positive things about him. Also, I had met his family before they started dating, and his parents and I had several friends and acquaintances in common. Really, the 2 year age difference hasn't been a big deal - except when it came to D's curfew. I altered it a little so that if she wants to stay out past her curfew, she must call first, and she can't be out wandering around - they have to be at someone's house. | |
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04-23-2008, 10:06 AM
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#51 | | Senior Member
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| I'm going to disagree with JHS and riverrunner here based on personal experience. At 16 I dated a boy four years older in the kind of community you are talking about. The families knew each other etc. We were not having sex at any time in the relationship. However, what did end up was that the boy was a lot more serious than I was about the relationship and at a completely different point in his dating life. I ended up breaking up with him and feeling very emotionally responsible for him. It matters little about the whole sex thing...I would be way more concerned about the emotional difference and time of life difference. And don't give me the "but the girl is mature for her age thing." I just don't buy it. | |
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04-23-2008, 10:18 AM
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#52 | | Member
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| i just don't think it's possible to set a standard age a 16 year old girl can date. | |
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04-23-2008, 10:22 AM
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#53 | | Junior Member
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| Well, ebeeeee, 4 years older is a bit much when a girl is 16 and the boy is 20, no matter what type of community you live in. As you pointed out, you and your bf were at completely different points in your dating lives. | |
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04-23-2008, 11:32 AM
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#54 | | Junior Member
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| Mom said no dates until high school is over (that was two years ago)...how can I find a date now? All nice guys are already taken  | |
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04-23-2008, 12:09 PM
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#55 | | Member
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| The older I get, the more I don't see issues like this as black and white. I'd love to see this question posted on the High School Life forum of CC, but I don't think I'm allowed in that room. Trapper, I know you're not in HS anymore, but maybe you can help us. By the way, there is probably an untaken "nice guy" within 100 yards of you right now who wishes someone like you would notice him.... | |
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04-23-2008, 12:32 PM
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#56 | | Senior Member
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| Trapper I second riverrunner. Get to know guys through activities and you will have an easier time finding someone to date. | |
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04-23-2008, 12:38 PM
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#57 | | Junior Member
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| Trapper, there is amybe a secret admirer who is waiting for you to make the first step. They are plenty of good guys who are burried under their text books in their room but would not mind leaving the room, if a nice gal wanted to hang out with them. | |
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04-23-2008, 12:46 PM
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#58 | | Member
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Originally Posted by bethyy I think parents need to recognize that girls really do mature faster than guys. | Certainly true for 13-year-olds, not so much difference by the end of high school. | |
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04-23-2008, 12:51 PM
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#59 | | Junior Member
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| He should be in high school and not because he was held back or works there.
Trackie, girls maturing faster is exactly why we're on the case. | |
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04-23-2008, 02:24 PM
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#60 | | Senior Member
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Mom said no dates until high school is over (that was two years ago)...how can I find a date now? All nice guys are already taken
| Trust me, they aren't (coming from someone who voluntarily didn't go on a date until she was a senior in college and is now in a happy relationship). | |
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