chocoholic

We do different rooms. Our child would sleep in his/her own bedroom, and there's a guest room for the gf/bf. They respect us, and know that those unwritten rules would hold through their undergraduate years.

They may do differently at college, but that does not mean I will sponsor it in my home. Just like they may be drinking in college, but I will not serve them a drink in my home.

NorthMinnesota

We've run in to this situation many times at our house. D1 has had two long term bf who live out of town....she goes to OOS school. The first BF stayed in the guest room but D2 didn't like having to share a bathroom upstairs with a "stranger". Ok...we get it, too, since that meant H and I couldn't walk around in our jammies in the morning with a guest roaming the hallways. But how do you change after the guest room was first offered?!?!? The second bf is now firmly established in the finished basement with his own bathroom for "his own privacy". D2 is much happier and D1 didn't have a problem with it.