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06-29-2009, 04:00 PM
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#106 | | Senior Member
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It doesn't seem as though you are willing to entertain the fact that you're not within the realm of "normal" in terms of your intellectual passions and your ability to connect with others.
| I've reflected on this on a long time.
But I've never gotten the opportunity to become tested. I'm kind of curious actually. Quote: |
No. That's deflection. You don't want to confront the fact that you were about to break ethical standards, so instead you pretend to be fascinated by where those standards come from. If I'm about to steal candy from a grocery store, should I deal with the fact that I"m doing something wrong, or ponder why societal norms have evolved such that stealing is wrong?
| Pizzagirl, for all your lecturing on social skills, could I kindly ask you not to stuff words into my mouth? Your analogy is insulting. Firstly, I do not think I have broken any widely-accepted ethical standards. I did not steal, I did not cheat; it's not cheating to try to seek exemption for coursework you have already done, and I don't think it's cheating to seek a breakup from someone you DID care about. And *I* thought it would be OK to remove qualifications or work experience you didn't emphasise or mention on your resume -- just like some students put their education at the bottom or downplay it massively in order to secure a job they KNOW they are just using as a stepping stone (and they don't tell their employer that).
I wonder how those standards have come about simply because I wonder what kind of standards we are talking about in the first place. There is a clear evolutionary advantage to a society that imposes social penalties on cheating, and how to make sure individuals respect that standard is a matter of game theory. But does society actually similarly condemn removing overqualifications?
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06-29-2009, 04:10 PM
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#107 | | Senior Member
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When you used the word "nobodies" to describe being taught by cc professors.
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Can you please stop stuffing words into my mouth.
I used it to describe PVCC professors, for one particular community college that was in C'ville. You know, if I somehow had a chance to attend another CC that is 30 miles away for a vocational degree, a CC that is part of the NoVa community college system and seems to have a much less sketchy program, I would be more enthusiastic. I still wouldn't like to retake coursework I've already done though. "Nobodies" was a passing remark and it wasn't my object of emphasis!
I also do not look forward to being lectured by UVA English lit profs in general, just because literary criticism doesn't jive with me and maybe it's just me, but I think its rejection of the scientific method makes its findings less valuable. But to each his own. But a lot of English language profs are not linguistics profs, and sometimes they say things that contradict linguistic theory, which is why I cringe (see: their promotion of Strunk and White, a book which has been denounced by the well-published linguists at Language Log.)
Not to say that a PVCC English Prof might teach Strunk and White, but it seems like a real possibility, because they would seem to be the type that would be elitist in general, believing that the English standards of the masses and that of the working class especially (the major demographic of these courses) are faulty and need to be improved, never mind the organic and biological nature of native language acquisition. Certainly, I have exprienced the sort of anti-Singlish, Singlish-is-broken-English rhetoric from English instructors in Singapore. It's how I got into linguistics.
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06-29-2009, 04:11 PM
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#108 | | Junior Member
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I'm not a parent; I think we're the same age. Some of the opinions you expressed in other threads are very similar to mine, yet you present them in such a way that makes you sound pretentious.
I disagree that age plays a significant role in determining the passion and curiosity of an individual. I often feel like my generation and the 20somethings are so much duller than the older generations... It seems like they never left their childhood. I've been noticing that even the language they use in everyday conversations is fraught with terms applicable to children, but that's another topic.
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06-29-2009, 04:19 PM
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#109 | | Senior Member
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I've reflected on this on a long time.
But I've never gotten the opportunity to become tested. I'm kind of curious actually.
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Sigh. If multiple people in multiple threads say they find your posts pedantic, boring, arrogant and pretentious, you don't need to be "tested" to know that you come across as pedantic, boring, arrogant and pretentious. You seem to be incapable of hearing what people are telling you.
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06-29-2009, 04:23 PM
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#110 | | Senior Member
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Why do children seem to be so self-centered and unappreciative?
| Because we get spoiled in all the wrong ways, but are wanting in all the right ones.
But yes, it was intentionally an inaccurate overgeneralization. And I also used the word "seem" -- that is, that's how it seems to me, but I suspect that this isn't the truth.
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06-29-2009, 04:24 PM
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Golly, honey: Quote: |
I've never been tested for autism spectrum disorder. I do wonder though, because my father was essentially a psychopath to the family -- his malicious acts were conscious and he displayed no love or affection, etc. (Except maybe, when he pretended to my mother, but I never got any from him.) Somehow the genes that lead to psychopathy are also factors for autism spectrum disorder? But no, I have noticed that am very empathyless and passionless at certain times, even when I don't want to, contrasted by periods of a sudden surge in empathy, emotion, etc. It's very annoying -- gets in the way of good customer service and fun at parties.
| Now I have to go ahead and feel sorry for you. Okay, you need to do some research, because you clearly are a person with a bristling intellect and even more prickly feelings. You are working things out for yourself by dropping some idea bombs on this group, and maybe you aren't getting a whole lot of love back.
Autism is not a "mental illness", it is considered a neurological disorder. There are marked differences, although 'pathological' behavior can also present in the autistic individual. You may have AS along with some mild bi-polar, for example. There is plenty of information online about all of this, but here's one article along with a fun quiz (scroll to bottom for link to quiz): Wired 9.12: The Geek Syndrome
First and foremost, please take care of yourself. You are really worth it. <3
p.s. I think you've seen a lot of passion from parents on this thread, probably more than you wanted, huh?
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06-29-2009, 11:25 PM
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#112 | | Junior Member
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ive read every single thread in this and cannot honestly tell if the op is a troll or not. If he is well played sir. If not stop rationalizing everything that you have done and take some advice from other people. I mean the whole point of coming on a forum is self improvement through seeking knowledge from a collaboration of people. If we are all too dumb to help you stop asking for our help.
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06-30-2009, 01:23 AM
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#113 | | Junior Member
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galoisien may be "pedantic, boring, arrogant and pretentious", but why are so many of you parents being so patronizing and harsh? Why the incessant squashing and arguing? Seems to me that he must have struck a nerve.
I'm starting to think, based on the posts, that being an intellectual here is an entirely suspect thing. (I'm not saying that OP is an intellectual.) Which is kind of ironic, on a college forum. OP sounds to me kind of geekish, and definitely a young, extremely intelligent, but immoderate individual, but according to some of you, he is either insufferably arrogant and needs to be put in his place, or has some kind of autism disorder.
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06-30-2009, 08:56 AM
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#114 | | Senior Member
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"I'm starting to think, based on the posts, that being an intellectual here is an entirely suspect thing."
Being an intellectual doesn't mean that one looks down on others and foists tedious discussions of arcane subjects on people who have other interests.
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06-30-2009, 09:03 AM
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#115 | | Junior Member
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galoisien may be "pedantic, boring, arrogant and pretentious", but why are so many of you parents being so patronizing and harsh?
| Um, because he's pedantic, boring, arrogant and pretentious? Quote: |
...according to some of you, he is either insufferably arrogant and needs to be put in his place, or has some kind of autism disorder.
| Yeah, pretty much.
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06-30-2009, 09:05 AM
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#116 | | Senior Member
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Galoisien, I'm interested in your reaction to my comment the other day: Quote: |
The real title of this thread should be: "I wish my mother and I got along better, that I felt closer to her, and that I felt she was interested in me."
| Others have commented but you have not.
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06-30-2009, 09:55 AM
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#117 | | Junior Member
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So, Galoisien, do you think think you are interesting? Do you have many young friends who like to hear all your detailed ideas? Do you attract or repel the gender to which you are attracted, whatever that is?
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06-30-2009, 11:27 AM
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#118 | | Senior Member
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I usually keep my interests to those friends who are interested. And parents in general seem enthusiastic about cooking...
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06-30-2009, 11:56 AM
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#119 | | Senior Member
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"And parents in general seem enthusiastic about cooking...:
I'm not.
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06-30-2009, 12:06 PM
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#120 | | Senior Member
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I'm not either. Why would "parents" be enthusiastic about cooking? Some are, some aren't. Like anything else.
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