My daughter went to a private high school, did well in class - National Honor Society, etc. She is now a freshman at a small university - about 2500 students (not a party school either). In high school we were always getting updates from her after every test, and she did very well taking advanced classes all 4 years and ended with a 3.9 GPA. Since she has been at away at college, we'll ask her how classes are going, and we get the standart reply "Good", but never hear any test scores. According to her, she is always studying also. Last week I pulled up the cell phone usage and noticed that she is up till 1:30 every night texting people, and is texting in class. I told her that it was not showing respect to the professors by texting during class and to turn off the cell phone. I also said that it was impossible for her to get any studying done if she's texting a hundred times each night and is up till 1:30!
Well yesterday the mid-term report came home, and she has unsatisfactory ratings in 2 classes and one lab. (no grades are reported, only S or U). We were shocked - this is a kid that always did well in school and has been told about the importance of education and getting a good job, etc. her whole life. I pulled up the cell phone records, and she backed off of the texting in class a little, but still continues.
I talked/yelled at her last night telling her how upset we were about her grades and the texting is still continuing at night and in class. We asked her about what help she is getting, and she said that she hasn't met with her advisor at all, and has not sought help. (This school is set up for success as they have tutors etc. and she is not utilizing them)! We told her that this will be her one and only semester at school if she continues on the path that she is on right now, as we will not pay for her to go to college and do poorly. My wife and I are at wits end as it seems like we're talking to the wall.
We want her to succeed. My wife and I both are college graduates, so we know what it takes to succeed. Our daughter is very bright, and has proven it in school for 12 years. I feel that her problem is the phone texting and lack of studying seriously, and not getting any help! Maybe I'm wrong. Can anyone offer advice?