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When to send out Graduation Announcements?

puma12puma12 Posts: 202Registered User Junior Member
edited February 2011 in Parents Forum
S will graduate from college in late May and the grad announcements just arrived (!)
How far in advance do you send these out?
Do you send them to the same crowd as high school grad announcements?

Is it ok to include a photo and a blurb about what he will be doing after graduation?

Can you tell we have no experience with this? :)
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  • thumper1thumper1 Posts: 37,695Registered User Senior Member
    We only sent graduation announcements to immediate family (grandparents, aunts/uncles). We didn't even send them to friends.

    What we did do....graduation was a far from home (as college was far from home) so graduation weekend we took a few nice photos of the graduate, and the proud parents...and we sent a nice email when we got HOME attaching pictures of the graduation event. And that was that.
  • BatlloBatllo Posts: 3,047- Senior Member
    Agreed, only to grandparents, aunts/uncles who wanted the announcement-none to family friends or Christmas card list folks.
    Too braggy.
  • momofthreeboysmomofthreeboys Posts: 11,705Registered User Senior Member
    I'm somewhat interested in what others post. We're not sending any college announcements. S1 just got his cap/gown info this week but called to tell us he's not ordering nor does he want to send any announcements (we didn't plan on it anyway!). Most of our close friends and certainly our family know he's graduating.
  • nysmilenysmile Posts: 5,850Registered User Senior Member
    We didn't send out grad announcements. We felt it was a little too braggy. The people who care (close relatives and friends) didn't need an announcement to know that he graduated from college. We won't send them out when he completes his Master's and we won't sent them out when our youngest graduates college in a year.

    It's fine to send them out if that's something you want to do, but you should probably keep it limited to very close family and friends.
  • puma12puma12 Posts: 202Registered User Junior Member
    OK - now I feel silly. So the majority view is not to send them?
    He will be the second college graduate of his generation in our family, and although I graduated from college, it was as an adult with no thought of frilly things like announcements!
    I wonder - no offense meant - if the opinion is different along socio-economic lines? It seems many on the forum here are quite well off financially. Is it possible that it is a more OK practice among my less than wealthy group?
    I don't want to seem braggy, but at the same time, it is a cool achievement and a good way to let people know S's next plans.

    So what do ya'll think? Any other practices not yet mentioned?
    And - if we send them just to family - the question I still have is, when do we send them?
    Thanks!
  • thumper1thumper1 Posts: 37,695Registered User Senior Member
    We sent our email AFTER the graduation (the one with the graduation pictures). The grandparents and the aunts/uncles got the announcements before the graduation...the announcements we got from both kids' universities included the graduation event day/time/place.

    I still have about 15 graduation announcements sitting in a drawer here from DS...he got 24 with his cap/gown order...we dont' have a very big immediate family so we never used most of them.

    DD would have had to order them and pay separately. We passed entirely on them for her.
  • BatlloBatllo Posts: 3,047- Senior Member
    If you want to send them I would consider after the graduation and include a photo of the whole family with the grad taken at the ceremony.
    You can write about the experience and what the grad will be doing next.
    Maybe take in consideration of the sendee family circumstance before you send an announcement (son in prison, daughter stuck in community college...)
  • nysmilenysmile Posts: 5,850Registered User Senior Member
    Our son was the first grandchild and cousin (in a pretty large family) to graduate from college, but we still didn't send out graduation announcements. It didn't have anything to do with our financial status. The people who cared, didn't need a graduation announcement to know that he was graduating from college.

    My personal feeling is that it's braggy---sort of implying:

    My kid graduated from college and yours didn't.
    My kid graduated from a more prestigious college than your kid.
    I'm a better parent than you because my kid graduated from college.
    My kid graduated from college so send a monetary gift.

    It just felt weird to me to send out an announcement about something that was all ready known to our closest family and friends.
  • puma12puma12 Posts: 202Registered User Junior Member
    So did none of you send high school grad announcements either?

    I really like the idea of sending a note after - with a photo - it isn't bragging with family - it's celebrating!
  • sryrstresssryrstress Posts: 1,775Registered User Senior Member
    I agree with nysmile for all the reasons given. I am buying a few announcements though, but probably just mailing them to the grandparents, my sister, and me. I am afraid anything further on the relative line looks as if it's asking for a gift, and I don't want to do that. I am the oldest of all the first cousins, and I don't recall receiving them from any of them.

    puma, oh yes...we sent tons of high school grad announcements. HS graduation parties are a big deal around here-~100-200 people, hog roasts and such.
  • thumper1thumper1 Posts: 37,695Registered User Senior Member
    we sent tons of high school grad announcements. HS graduation parties are a big deal around here

    We sent INVITATIONS to our kids' high school graduation parties. We did NOT send out high school graduation announcements. There's a difference.

    Our high school had announcements but as with college, the only folks who really cared about them were the grandparents. So we sent them to the grandparents.

    And as with college, we sent a newsy email with attached pictures of the graduation...after the graduation day to family and friends. We put nothing in the USPS mail.

    The party invitations for HS were for a PARTY and were not announcements of the graduation, the were invitations to the party. In both of our kids' cases, the party was in August (so many parties in June) and we more of a "last hurrah" for their HS friends before they went off to college. We invited close friends and neighbors to that too.
  • hlsesshlsess Posts: 688Registered User Member
    My D is graduating from HS and I
    Am not sending any most of my friends know that she is graduating
  • nysmilenysmile Posts: 5,850Registered User Senior Member
    No, we didn't send out high school graduation announcements. We did send out invitations to my son's HS graduation party. After the ceremony, we had a small party at the house (baked ziti, mini meatballs, fried chicken, green salad, sausage & peppers, chips and dip, and a nice cake).
  • mamommamom Posts: 2,804Registered User Senior Member
    Send them. You're excited and it is a big thing for you and your family. I would send them to the same folks you would invite to a graduation party (if you were having one) If they aren't folks you would invite to the party don't send them an announcement. I think the photo and blurb are a nice touch.
  • TacomaJoeTacomaJoe Posts: 85Registered User Junior Member
    I have 2 sons, one graduating college in May and one graduating high school in June. I am not buying or sending out announcements for either. But I don't send Christmas cards out anymore either.

    We plan on having a party and inviting our close friends and family though!
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