People think I got into Harvard but I didn't...

[Nrdsb4]

This is post the OP sent in late April:

I took the SAT 6 years ago, and I need to send my scores. I had a two questions

1. When are scores archived?
2. If a score is archived, can I still access the essay (not just the score but the actual content?)

Why would someone who is already accepted to Stanford need to send in a 6 year old SAT score?

At first I thought this was the same kid who posted the troll thread on "My teacher called my autistic son 'trash,' what do I do?" But the writing styles are not the same.

Hit and runs do tend to make you wonder...

[Consolation]

I was very embarrassed to tell everyone that he misunderstood me and that I was indeed rejected. I went with the flow and accept the congratulations and stated I declined Harvard for Stanford.

Assuming this is not a troll...

The OP says that HE was embarrassed to have been rejected, not that he was afraid of embarrassing his friend. He also says that he went on to STATE that he declined H for S. Not very admirable motivation or behavior. Nonetheless, it would appear that he has learned something from this episode.

My suggestion: correct it on a case by case basis if people mention it to you. Make sure the GC knows the truth. Don't post it on Facebook. Do not, ever, give information to a reporter, no matter how much they flatter you! (Think of all the kids and parents who have made fools of themselves at worst or been misrepresented at best in articles about "the homeschooler who got into Harvard" or "the kid with a 2400 who was rejected from the Ivies" or "my son the 6 yr old genius" and so forth.) And tell the truth in the future. This kind of thing really can come round and bite you in the @$$ down the road.

[Pizzagirl]

You're going to go off to Stanford and do your thing; they are going to go off to wherever they go and do their thing. I don't get why you'd even think anyone will remember this. Are you ever going to see any of these people again?

[jym626]

I agree that you shouldnt bring it up. If someone asks you point blank you could say there was a misunderstanding. You are going to Stanford. Period. Its really no ones business.

[laplatinum]

Patsmom may be right--troll alert--but regardless, these situations do come up. (Maybe we shamed him into not responding?!) SnowDog: woof, woof. I'm amazed at how we are clearly split on this issue: some of us feel that ethical behavior includes "lying by omission as well as by commission" and thus, regardless of its genesis, the individual should come clean. Others (woof, woof), choose to chew out those of us who believe ethics is manifest in even the smallest of matters. I agree with TheGFG whose daughter actually WAS accepted at both places. Harvard IS a big deal and yes, those in one's constellation would like to have a little of that glitter. That said, I LOVE Stanford and its glitter, too.

[MiamiDAP]

OP,
There is no reason to discuss any plans or acceptances with your friends. It has been rule #1 at D's HS. It creates artificial strain in relationships. However, as you started, there is no going back....except, just stop.. do not answer any questions, ignore,....it is your right, your situation is nobody's business. I do not support any untrue statements, but I fully support complete silence in regard to any personal business, eventually your friends will get it and leave the subject all together.

[xiggi]

I'm amazed at how we are clearly split on this issue: some of us feel that ethical behavior includes "lying by omission as well as by commission" and thus, regardless of its genesis, the individual should come clean. Others (woof, woof), choose to chew out those of us who believe ethics is manifest in even the smallest of matters. I agree with TheGFG whose daughter actually WAS accepted at both places. Harvard IS a big deal and yes, those in one's constellation would like to have a little of that glitter. That said, I LOVE Stanford and its glitter, too.

Obviously, opinions will vary. However, your characterization of the "factions" is utterly flawed. This is not a matter of ethics, and you cannot judge the response with ethics as the guiding light.

The OP, if real or not, seems tortured by what has happened, but also asked for practical advice. There is a clear distinction between what he (or she) should have done in the first place, and what can be done to move forward. Ignoring it altogether is a much smarter alternative. Let the gossipers switch to another subject.

Fwiw, allow me to repeat that none of this (and similar incidents) would happen if the students kept their information on a strict need-to-know-basis, and if people learned to mind their own business.

[jym626]

The older SAT scores might have been taken in 7th grade for the CTY/Duke TIP programs

[Nrdsb4]

^^^^^Yes, that's a logical conclusion. But why would a student already accepted to Stanford need to send his 7th grade SAT scores somewhere?

[fogfog]

Just say it was a joke that got out of hand, or a rumor that got out of hand (true) and laugh it off. The opinion of well meaning but misinformed people who think Stanford is a downgrade from Harvard is not worth stressing yourself about - you're going to Stanford!!

Good idea. Frankly it is no one else's bsuiness...AND people will find out.
Some parents told me ther ds got into H and turned it down--However I can see on the highschool profile that everyone who was accepted to H- attends H...sooo that means their student did not get "in" to H....as I know he attends elsewhere.
Sadly there are those that lie about it -

However, then there are situations like yours that get out of hand....If you can fix it now--the sooner the better.
..one by one as it comes up.

Congrats on S. You are blessed and it is a great school.

[jym626]

But why would a student already accepted to Stanford need to send his 7th grade SAT scores somewhere?

He wouldnt, unless he erroneously thought the scores would ba accepted today.

[UCLA Band Mom]

Since Harvard is considered "The Stanford of the East", just let it go.

[patsmom]

Patsmom may be right--troll alert--but regardless, these situations do come up. (Maybe we shamed him into not responding?!)

I don't think so. The OP hasn't been back on CC since he posted. He hasn't even read any of these replies.


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[Walker1194]

The OP may be a troll but at least if someone was accepted to Stanford then it would seem within the realm of possibility that they were also accepted to Harvard. There is a kid my my DD's school that has told people that she was accepted to Georgetown. In no way do I see that as plausible unless white, middle class girls from the mid-west with mediocre grades and ECs are suddenly in demand :P

[JoeLiu123]

How do you keep admissions confidential? Questions such as "where did you apply", "where did you get in", etc. are the norm. If someone asks me, "where are you going to college next year?", how do I tactfully avoid the question?