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Old 02-06-2006, 03:49 PM   #46
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I have boys and girls. My son recently scored in the 99th percentile on the PSAT. We are looking for a cold 2400 on the SAT in mid February.

My daughter scored in the mid 1500's on the SAT, an 800 on SATII Literature and we are looking for three perfect 800's on her SAT II's mid February.

Don't know if they will hit these perfect scores, but they will be very close.

Not bragging. I think it proves to me that when history infects the mind as it has my mind, it destroys hope and performance. We, black American parents, have just got to start freeing the minds of our kids so that they can be and do anything they wish without fear of being ridiculed. And we need to encourage them to work hard and hit those books.

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Old 02-06-2006, 04:01 PM   #47
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"I think we see the “whys” being discussed here quite well. NSM has been very clear that slavery and racism has caused many American blacks to develop negative attitudes about education and that also the educational system has certain built-in attitudes that discourage black performance. And in fact I have known this – since I was a boy.

It is hard to discuss solutions at this point when we are still in disagreement with the causes. But, I think I have a solution (at least for my family), though unfortunately I don’t think it is necessarily applicable to blacks in general."

With all due respect, if YOU see the WHYs so well, why don't you spend a few seconds to share with us how this relates remotely with the ORIGINAL discussion about the report of JBHE and the need to identify subgroups of successful black students or demonize a tangential impact of our AA policies.

Lastly, regarding slavery and racism having caused many American blacks to develop negative attitudes about education and the educational system having certain built-in attitudes that discourage black performance, don't you think that it is time to "graduate" from those tired copouts. Please do not misunderstand me ... I know that racism is still very much in existence in 2006. On the other hand, claims of slavery are getting a tad hackneyed in 2006. Isn't it time to stop making excuses for poor performance and develop measures of accountability and ... responsibility. NSM's and your children are perfect examples of children who need to excuses for performing well above all their peers, and this regardless of race. It is clear that your were able to overcome the handicaps mentioned above. Do you realy help the less fortunate by providing another set of excuses instead of a push to look past them?

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Old 02-06-2006, 04:06 PM   #48
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Is the following too simple? It's not that your great-grandparents were slaves that matters anymore. It's not that your grandparents didn't go to college, as such. It's not that your parents are poor. It's not race as a matter of DNA. It'S the Culture. Some, not all, American blacks need some assistance breaking out of a culture that doesn't particularly value higher education, for whatever reasons, including some of the above.

So, I tentatively conclude, affirmitative action for black skin should be illegal. That includes children of most black professionals. Affirmative action for the poor may be OK, but doesn't really go the culture problem. Foreigners, including blacks, are interesting people and add a certain type of diversity. But affirmative action, as such, should be focused on students overcoming a less academic cultural background.
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Old 02-06-2006, 04:12 PM   #49
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“With all due respect, if YOU see the WHYs so well, why don't you spend a few seconds to share with us how this relates remotely with the ORIGINAL discussion about the report of JBHE and the need to identify subgroups of successful black students or demonize a tangential impact of our AA policies.”

Perhaps I am wrong, but it is my understanding that the report mentions how immigrant blacks are benefiting from AA when AA was in fact intended to address the "whys" of the AMERICAN black difficulties being mention here very well on this forum.
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Old 02-06-2006, 04:19 PM   #50
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Does the report actually say that immigrant blacks were benefitting from AA?
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Old 02-06-2006, 04:27 PM   #51
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You don't think Harvard counts them in its reports on minority admissions?
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Old 02-06-2006, 04:29 PM   #52
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I'm not really arguing a point. Just asking a factual question. We're not concluding every black acceptee is AA, are we? If that's assumed, then I think it needs to be backed up by facts.
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Old 02-06-2006, 04:29 PM   #53
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Eulenspiegel, the biggest problem of AA is that ... we still have to have it and that we still have under represented minorities. The day we no longer need it will be a great day for everyone.
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But that's the question here. What type of underrepresentation? Black faces from rich, professional or maybe immigrant families? Or underrepresentation of a stream of Americans who for perhaps understandable reasons are not plugged into the educational system commensurate with their numbers and perhaps their inate talent?
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Old 02-06-2006, 04:43 PM   #55
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Zuma, I vaguely recall statistics that Havard, after excluding foreign and immigrant Blacks, had very few in addition. I'm sure that some of those are recuited athletes (within the standards for recuited athletes) and some of the rest are not AA. That probably doesn't leave very many spots for the type of AA I support.
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Old 02-06-2006, 05:06 PM   #56
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“Lastly, regarding slavery and racism having caused many American blacks to develop negative attitudes about education and the educational system having certain built-in attitudes that discourage black performance, don't you think that it is time to "graduate" from those tired copouts.”

Oh man, yes. I sure do.

“Please do not misunderstand me ... I know that racism is still very much in existence in 2006. On the other hand, claims of slavery are getting a tad hackneyed in 2006.”

This is like saying “How can you be so tired and worn out after having run a marathon? I just slept for twelve hours!”

“Isn't it time to stop making excuses for poor performance and develop measures of accountability and ... responsibility.”

Absolutely. But I’m not making excuses. We have a problem in America that we were trying to help through AA. Forgetting for the moment whether AA works, we are finding that it is instead helping people for whom it was never intended. I personally don’t want AA for my kids because I don’t want insensitive people to think my kids aren’t good enough to stand on their own. But the fact is, there are so many of you sitting strong and proud in the castles of your white skins, and so few of us clamoring out of the pit to where you sit, I wonder if it is reasonable to expect my kids will be allowed success even if they outperform your kids. I am not trying to be harsh here. I just have some doubt that real fairness is found in allowing my children to play by the same rules as yours. But hey, I still want the field to exist as is, without AA, because I have so much faith in my kids and in how genuinely tough and open-minded they are, that I think they will punch through any difficulty they encounter, short of death.

But my goodness. Schools like Harvard could fill up an entire undergrad class with white kids who have scores similar to my kids and who, because they have less of that discrimination you admit still exists, have more money and thus have traveled and done stuff my kids have never done. So, I wonder if AA is really that awful.

Yeah. It is awful, because plenty of white kids have worked every bit as hard as my kids and done well, and they didn’t do anything against anyone else. So they ought not be penalized for what someone else did. I just wish we all could look at skin color in th same way we look at hair color. We can reject folks because of culture, but it makes no sense to reject a guy just because he is a blond.

“NSM's and your children are perfect examples of children who need to excuses for performing well above all their peers, and this regardless of race. It is clear that your were able to overcome the handicaps mentioned above.”

I’m not so sure. I have not really overcome anything. What I have done is put a cap on the anger and feelings of despair that I have deep within, and determined to die with them. Were my kids to read these comments of mine here, they would be completely and utterly shocked, because I have never once voiced them. But I am still crushed by it all, crushed I tell you.

I don’t live through my children at all. They make their own decisions, completely control where they want to try and go to school. I just support them in whatever they choose. They are doing things and having discussions among themselves that I literally cannot even understand. They also have white friends-- lots and lots of them. Of course my inclination is to warn them about these folks, but I just never will. So far, the whites have been really decent. Even when my kids have had disagreements with their friends, it has always been normal stuff. So, I have been able to play the role of kind and wise father and direct my kids toward reconciliation. Racial stuff never has even been a part of it (though in my mind I was thinking “this disagreement probably happened because THEY RACISTS!!!!” gggg). I don’t think I have overcome anything, but it is clear to me that my kids have.

“Do you realy help the less fortunate by providing another set of excuses instead of a push to look past them?”

Not making excuses at all. C’mon now. I am trying to understand why we are having so many problems and being painfully honest about it. My hope is to one day try to show poor black parents how maybe they can help their own kids escape the pain they are carrying. So far, my way is working, though there are no guarantees. You know, my kids, if they keep going as they are, will be living just like everyday Americans, and I will be six feet under.

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Old 02-06-2006, 05:19 PM   #57
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I feel like the guy in the middle who senses the bullets flying by both ways from combatants who don't even know he's there.

I'm truely sorry that Drosslemeier, for all his success, admirable qualities, and wonderful children, feels so estranged. Maybe he lives in the wrong neighborhood or the wrong part of the country. Maybe it's hard to gain a new perspective as we grow older. I truely hope his children are able to feel that they are treated fairly and on the basis of things other than color and badges of slavery. I hope his children can raise their children they way he has, but with less baggage.
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Old 02-06-2006, 07:54 PM   #58
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"Not making excuses at all. C’mon now. I am trying to understand why we are having so many problems and being painfully honest about it. My hope is to one day try to show poor black parents how maybe they can help their own kids escape the pain they are carrying. So far, my way is working, though there are no guarantees. You know, my kids, if they keep going as they are, will be living just like everyday Americans, and I will be six feet under."

"Let's live and let live" An easy statement for people who are not touched by this thing. Folks who don't live it, cannot understand it. It is not our culture that doesn't understand that education is the key. Most AA kids poor, middle class. . .understand that education is the ticket. No excuse. Just the facts.

In DC, which has the worst educational system in the country, also has public schools that rank among the top schools in the country. West of Rock Creek park the schools are excellent and many AA clamor to attend. When a family member, award winning teacher of Mathmetics, decided to return to the classroom, her assignment was at Murch Elementary. This teacher taught teachers how to teach Math. She fought to be assigned to school in underrepresented area, rebuked and decided to retire.

The systemic problem needs to be understood. To say that poor families have no desire for education is not true. They do. Shame on those who dismiss these families as not valuing education. Shame on the Department of Education for not caring about poor families, let's blame the victims. When teachers come to teach in DC the very best are sent west of Rock Creek Park with the same salary. The teachers who got bad grades in college are South of the park.

Every parent wants the very best education for their child. Every parent wants a great career, a great family life for their child. The propoganda is that AA poor don't value education. The truth is these are the "throw away" people, as if there is such a thing in this world. Demonize them so that we can get away with the favoritism, collusion and self-aggrandizement that "our" kids are so fabulous.

Level the playing field from elementary school. Make sure that great teachers serve across the city. Make sure that those 1000s of kids and families are supported when they seek great education. Currently, there are no such programs.

As far as immigrants receiving positive AA because so few American Africans
in America qualify, that will change when the people seeking excellent education for their kids are not dismissed so early in the process. The urban public education system is broken. Vilify the Dept of Education for not valuing the lives of poor people enough to ensure that every child gets what they need from early grades, forward.

I rescued my D from DC Public in 2nd grade when I saw the handwriting on the wall. She is an early admit to Yale, Presidential Scholar Nominee, etc. . .
and not an anomaly. Her montessori class was full of AA students who had what it took, the difference is I made it my full time job (and trust me the bureaucratic mess that masquerades as the educational system in this country needs that amount of time), spending 20-25 hours a week to ensure that she received the very best education offered in this town. Most people do not have the luxury of spending that many hours to work the system.

Why is that Necessary???

Sorry about the off topic. But think about it. Does any parent look at their brand new baby and say I don't care about your education. I know not.
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Old 02-06-2006, 08:02 PM   #59
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“Please do not misunderstand me ... I know that racism is still very much in existence in 2006. On the other hand, claims of slavery are getting a tad hackneyed in 2006.”

Yet, racism is "slavery." So if racism exists today, then "slavery" exists.
Racism is a grind and hard labor on the minds of those who experience it,
trust me.
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Old 02-06-2006, 08:05 PM   #60
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racism is not limited to african americans- to asians- to caucasians
Special programs divide the community
trust me
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