Facebook no-nos? - Page 3

Youdon'tsay · 02-27-2013, 10:20 PM

Charlie, that UCLA friend sounds like a jerk. What poor judgment.

sally305 · 02-27-2013, 10:27 PM

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Proud father here...I post all of my daughters accomplishments on my Facebook and encourage her to do the same....she got into MIT!

jsmathwiz, you have every reason to be proud--congratulations. I just hope parents whose kids have more modest ambitions or accomplishments feel equally comfortable reporting their kids' news.

What I've noticed is that the majority of people who comment on a parent's "brag" have NO IDEA what the parent is posting about unless they have kids of similar ages, and even then not always. "Joey just got NMSF!" or "Ashley is going to be a (insert mascot name) next year!!" usually doesn't get much more feedback than a general "congratulations!"

MD Mom · 02-27-2013, 10:33 PM

How about this: If our friends onFB were true friends, they would be happy to hear good news. BUT that is the problem. I have a pie chart about The People Who Friend You on Facebook I use for a class I teach and the chart has four pieces. Three of them are nearly equal: people you hated in high school, people you hated in college, people you hate at work. Then it has a tiny little sliver of actual friends. FB friends are not really friends or they are happy for you.

Charlie87star · 02-27-2013, 10:35 PM

SteveMA I think she may have posted a picture of the acceptance, she really loved another school and by the time decisions came out knew that she 100% wanted to go there so everything else was just bragging rights to her

cromette · 02-27-2013, 10:38 PM

I guess that's true for a lot of people. I don't have any FB friends that I don't genuinely like. I did NOT go through my old HS year book and friend everyone. Only close friends and relatives and a few acquaintances that I truly respect.

2016BarnardMom · 02-27-2013, 10:42 PM

I definitely didn't friend any of the people I hated in high school. I definitely only friend people from work who I genuinely like. And I definitely only friend people from college that I really like. The others are all sorority sisters who I genuinely like. Why would I friend people I don't like?

romanigypsyeyes · 02-27-2013, 10:42 PM

Why the heck would you add someone you dislike??

sally305 · 02-27-2013, 10:44 PM

I GOT friended from a lot of people I didn't care for in high school and wouldn't like now. I went to a very small school so it would have seemed rude not to accept.

As my Facebook universe has expanded, I have had some weird IRL experiences. The other day I saw a woman at a store who I had never met in person, but who had friended me on FB. I wasn't sure she would even know who I was, so I didn't go up and say hi to her. What a strange world we live in...

MD Mom · 02-27-2013, 10:45 PM

Have you looked at the number of friends most young people have accumulated? They do not know many of the people they are linked to through FB.

cromette · 02-27-2013, 11:11 PM

I know. I guess my point was that at least for some of us, if we post good news about our kids, there is a fairly large percentage of the audience that cares on some level. My FB is how all of my cousins, aunts, uncles, siblings, etc. stay in touch.

cromette · 02-27-2013, 11:16 PM

I've seen tons of posts on FB recently, "Marsha's going to be a **insert regional state school mascot here**!". Honestly, I'm just as happy for Marsha as I am for the kid going to Rice. They both have an exciting new path in front of them.

Vladenschlutte · 02-28-2013, 02:08 AM

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What do you think?

I think that it makes total sense that the school would tell students not to post it on Facebook. I also know that the school has no authority to demand students don't, and should be freely ignored. I think if your son wants to post on Facebook his admissions, he should do it.

YoHoYoHo · 02-28-2013, 02:09 AM

Kids' school is a competitive private prep school. 20% of class applied REA to Stanford. (8% of class matriculated there in combo REA and RD.**) GCs give strict instructions:
"Parents- don't talk about the college admissions process, you can find other things to talk about."
"Kids- be sensitive (ie dont be like the UCLA story). Your safety is another kid's dream reach school."
Thus no one puts their college acceptances on FB and the kids won't even change their school attending status on FB until the fall and they are worried that it's still too gauche.
Kids are not allowed to trophy collect. If they got in EA at a lottery school that is basically their top choice, GCs don't want them to send out other apps...it might take away spots from the other classmates. The list goes on and on. But if most kids are gunning for the lottery schools and some get in and some don't, and the kids have similar stats or the process seems random, then at least kids won't feel like they are getting their noses rubbed in it constantly.

I personally love to celebrate and congratulate these milestones, whether it be from University of Phoenix, state U, or Harvard,

**this is the kind of info that they wouldn't want posted

YoHoYoHo · 02-28-2013, 02:37 AM

** Good thing that the consensus on this thread is that this info would be just fine to post.

Jea828 · 02-28-2013, 03:28 AM

My daughter posted a picture of her first acceptance, because she was excited about it. Then it dawned on her that some people might be getting rejections, and that she might appear to be bragging. She'd rather die than cause someone to feel bad or to appear anything less than completely humble, so she didn't post any more after that.

Of course, that didn't stop grandma from posting gushing bulletins of cringe-worthy bragnitude and tagging my daughter in them... for which she got a firm scolding!

I actually enjoy seeing the kids' acceptances on facebook (even the real braggy ones) because it's fun to share in their excitement. And because, yeah, I'm just a little bit nosy!